[Blogger]

Doesn't sound like the healthiest situation. It seems like it would just reawaken grief more and more. If a loved one of yours died, would you want pictures of them right after they died? Granted, you would have other types of pictures. But, this just doesn't seem healthy.

[pollyannaish]

I think it is healthy as long as it doesn't take over the rest of one's life and remains in a balanced context.

Loosing a child is really tough. No matter how young it is.

[KosmicKitty]

If a loved one of yours died, would you want pictures of them right after they died?

But, these parents didn't have a chance for a picture of a living child.

I've lost 3, only have an ultrasound of one - I totally understand, even though they were never born, they were still my children and still very much loved!!

[TrogdortheBurninator]

That's the point, you have nothing to remember these kids by; no memories, no pictures, just the hurt. I think it's healthy for these women to be channeling the pain into optimism. If they were too hard to look at, i don't think they would put the pictures up. But this recognizes that these babies are really people, who played a part, however small, in our lives.

[workerbee]

"It's almost like proof," said Megan Senthil, an Aurora, Ohio, mother whose fourth child, Asher, was stillborn in February. "It's strange to go through nine months and have a life inside you and then have nothing. It makes it more real to me. Yeah, I did have a baby."

It seems "unhealthy" to you that a mother would want a picture of her child??? Trust me, it's nice to have when some blowhard makes a comment like "it isn't like you lost a real child", so you can whip it out show how amazingly "real" that blob of cells looked.

[Polybius]

If a loved one of yours died, would you want pictures of them right after they died? Granted, you would have other types of pictures.

However, you have to remember that, unlike with Grandma's photos taken during her life, you have no other photos of this child. They either get the photo shortly after the death or never have a photo.

[RepubMommy]

Doesn't sound like the healthiest situation. It seems like it would just reawaken grief more and more. If a loved one of yours died, would you want pictures of them right after they died? Granted, you would have other types of pictures. But, this just doesn't seem healthy.

But with your loved one, chances are you have many pictures of them to hold on to. You have to think these are their children and the thought of not remembering for they looked like, as a mom of 3, is sad to me. I can certainly understand it. I would never want to forget what my child's face looked like, no matter how it looked. That child would be beautiful to me in that state and I would want to be able to see it's face from time to time.