Posted on 03/01/2006 7:09:06 AM PST by ZGuy
Real reasons for living together out of marriage;
1) Woman can continue to collect alimony from previous husband.
2) Woman can collect State aid, medical and dental coverage for children.
3) If woman gets pregnant, can get State to pay for abortion if she wants it, or birth if she has it.
Its all about the nanny state taking care of unwed mothers. If she gets married, the couple is supposed to take responsibility for themselves. The system opposes marriage.
free milk
I don't disagree with the overall thrust of this article or with the last three points, but with regard to the first point that implies cohabiting makes divorce more likely I think that's bunk. What it reveals, in my view, is that the values of those who cohabit are already different from those who do not, and that these values predispose them to a greater likelihood of later divorce.
Why is everyone so eager to give up their individual single life PRIOR to getting married? I don't understand it.
Dont pay a fortunes for one day.
What really gets me, when smart articles like this come out, is the intellectual dishonesty of liberals that wraps the label "religious inspired intolerance" around any argument against the "liberal" things they try to defend. Even an atheist can read the study and conclude that "cohabitation" does not trump marriage, at any time in the "relationship".
only if she's lactating
Huh? You mean men actually think "I'm not getting married until I know my divorce settlement will be fair?" Talk about a defeatest attitude...Who the hell would want to marry that person?
Janice must not know any married men.
People are not, by nature, solitary beings.
Which, if they had married before moving in, would mean divorce. Kinda hurts that point.
The Law of Unintended Consequences rears it's ugly head again.
Not by nature, no.
But living with a woman
will make you that way . . .
The other thing they leave out is this: you get more jaded every time you do it. I hate to admit it, but I've shacked up with six different partners in my 40 years (definitely not proud of it.) And every time, leaving is easier. Eventually you just feel too calloused to ever really bond with anyone. I doubt I'll ever marry (again)... it's just something I bungled early in life and that's it. You don't start fresh every time. Some things are fragile, and they can be ruined.
Hmmmmmmmmm.........I guess I'm an anomoly. My husband and I celebrated our 9th Wedding Anniverary last week, we'll be together 18 years come June, and our child is only 7.
Boy, you're right on with your comments. Wonder why these didn't make it into the survey.
"But living with a woman
will make you that way . . ."
Maybe your woman. Not mine. I can't imagine life without here, after 14 years. Speak for yourself only.
Not entirely true. I have lived with my partner for over 16 years and I have friends who have lived with them just as long or longer. No problems - we just don't want to get married. Feelings are mutual about marriage on both sides. Most of my so-called married friends who had never lived with their partners before marriage are either divorced or are on that path. It depends on the relationship and the compatablity of the couple themselves.
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