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Rabbi's Refreshing Frankness: Raising Kids in Two Religions "Insane"
Today Show/NewsBusters ^ | Mark Finkelstein

Posted on 12/23/2005 5:44:48 AM PST by governsleastgovernsbest

by Mark Finkelstein

December 23, 2005 - 08:40

What the Today show probably intended as a warm-'n-fuzzy holiday segment just veered wildly off course when a rabbi spoke some unvarnished truth.

The topic was "December Dilemma: Interfaith Holdidays," and dealt with the issue of celebrating the holidays in families with children where the parents are of different religions.

Footage was played of a family with a Jewish wife, a Christian husband and a couple of very cute daughters. They were predictably shown admiring both a menorah and a Christmas tree.

Back in the studio, David Gregory interviewed "The God Squad," Rabbi Marc Gellman and Monsignor Thomas Hartman, who for years have made joint appearances to discuss religious matters.

When Gregory asked the rabbi if there was anything wrong with bringing the children of mixed marriages up in some kind of combo religion, I had the feeling he was anticipating [as was I], a PC response. Instead, he got a shot of candor right between the eyes:

"[Kids] have to know how to answer when asked [as to their religion] 'what are you?' If they answer 'both,' that's answering that Jesus is and isn't the Messiah, that Christmas is and isn't the birth of the Savior. That's insane. That's crazy. And it shouldn't be put on a child to have to make those kinds of decisions."

Bravo, Rabbi!


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: chanukah; christmas; faith; godsquad; mixedmarriages; parenting; postedtowrongforum
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1 posted on 12/23/2005 5:44:50 AM PST by governsleastgovernsbest
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To: Behind Liberal Lines; Miss Marple; an amused spectator; netmilsmom; Diogenesis; YaYa123; MEG33; ...

Today Show/NewsBusters ping.


2 posted on 12/23/2005 5:45:43 AM PST by governsleastgovernsbest (Watching the Today Show since 2002 so you don't have to.)
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To: governsleastgovernsbest

Frankly, I disagree.

It seems to be a nice compromise. And its probably better than providing them with no religion at all.

Raise a kid with no religion, Jewish or Christian, and might end up with a wacko like Bill Maher.


3 posted on 12/23/2005 5:50:01 AM PST by rcocean (Copyright is theft and loved by Hollywood socialists)
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To: governsleastgovernsbest
Governsleastgovernsbest's Today Show/NewsBusters and Pookie's Today's Toons are the best recurrent threads on FR.   Definitely habit-forming!   glgb, thanks for your daily updates!
4 posted on 12/23/2005 5:50:34 AM PST by jigsaw (God Bless Our Troops.)
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To: governsleastgovernsbest
I'm jewish, I celebrate chanukah and I KNOW that Jesus IS the messiah!

Baruch habba b'shem Adonai!

5 posted on 12/23/2005 5:51:26 AM PST by freedomson (Tagline comment removed by moderator)
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To: governsleastgovernsbest

If it's insane to raise children in different religions, and I believe it is, why then is it alright if God raises his children in thousands of different denominations, sects, etc.?


6 posted on 12/23/2005 5:53:03 AM PST by FNU LNU (Nothing runs like a Deere, nothing smells like a john)
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To: freedomson

I hate the holiday season because all of the holier than thou/ I know better than anyone else/ my religion is better than yours/ people are on full display.

Sadly, I have found that people do the most un-God like things in the name of God. Not just the Islamocultists, but Christians and Jews as well, in many other less obvious ways.

Also, I find that religion more often than not tends to separate people rather than bring them together.

Some of things I have heard said about Jewish people by "Chruch going people" would make even the most violent skinhead blush. I have also heard some things from some of my Jewish friends that make me just want to hit someone. I am Catholic but have many many Jewish friends.

I am not an atheist by any stretch, but believe G-D could never ever intended or hopes mankind would act is does in his name.


7 posted on 12/23/2005 5:57:37 AM PST by chris1
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To: governsleastgovernsbest
My parents got divorced when I was 8 years old because of religious differences, my father being a Christian and my mother being a devout Mormon. I was a Mormon first, but after my parents got divorced I spent some time in my mom's church and my dad's church. What I quickly learned was that the Book of Mormon and the Bible didn't agree and didn't teach the same things. I came to the conclusion that the Bible was correct and got saved at the age of 12.

In any case, mixed religion families are a Very Bad Idea. Such marriages frequently end very badly.
8 posted on 12/23/2005 5:57:56 AM PST by JamesP81
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To: governsleastgovernsbest

I always wondered about that. My friend is Jewish and he married a Christian woman who converted. I know they celebrate both now, although growing up, he always said that doesn't fly with him. I don't understand how you really do both with any real sincerity.


9 posted on 12/23/2005 6:01:35 AM PST by WV Mountain Mama (Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel Shall come to thee, O Israel. Merry Christmas!)
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To: rcocean; All

Call it my logical streak, but as the rabbi said, it is impossible to believe simultaneously that Jesus is and isn't the Messiah.

Raising a child in two intrinsically different religions is as sensible as raising a child to be both a liberal and a conservative.


10 posted on 12/23/2005 6:02:02 AM PST by governsleastgovernsbest (Watching the Today Show since 2002 so you don't have to.)
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To: FNU LNU

Because the leaders of religions are no different than the worst politicians. At the core, the religions' leadership crave power and the ability to persuade no different than any politician.

It is only because the allusion of G-d's approval do these people get away with it.

My GF does matrimonial law. She says many Jewish couple treat each other worse than animals in the wild do. The same for other "straight" marriages in that sense.

The bottom line is that morality and spirituality, not the particular denomination, is what should be emphasized.

What I also find is that many people for some reason suspend all common sense and rationality when issues of religion come into play. Its actually amazing to see otherwise smart people believe the most ridiculous things just because the man in robes says so.


11 posted on 12/23/2005 6:02:18 AM PST by chris1
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To: FNU LNU
why then is it alright if God raises his children in thousands of different denominations, sects, etc.?

He doesn't. There is only one body of Christ. Denominations, sects, etc are man's invention.

12 posted on 12/23/2005 6:02:45 AM PST by meowmeow (Meow! Meow!)
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To: chris1
I am sorry that there are so many like that around, of course, there may not actually be that many, they just run their mouths incessantly that they are always heard. I don't understand how people can sit through church, listen to the Word and then spew judgment and hatred the other 6 days of the week. We aren't all like that, but sadly, the ones you don't hear about are the good ones because they don't run their mouths like idiots. I hope that we are the silent majority. :)
13 posted on 12/23/2005 6:07:25 AM PST by WV Mountain Mama (Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel Shall come to thee, O Israel. Merry Christmas!)
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To: JamesP81

I think it largely depends on how adamant on or both of the spouses is about the religion issue.

For me, I am much more concerned that my children grow up to be patriotic and moral citizens that faithful churchgoers.

To me, the fact that someone goes to church means nothing. I see people who go to church every week screw people in business all during the week and yet hold themselves out to be good people.

I see many people who never set foot in a temple or church yet are the best people on earth.

I refuse to believe that God will accept the churhgoer who treats people like crap while ingoring the moral decent person who does not.


14 posted on 12/23/2005 6:08:11 AM PST by chris1
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To: chris1
I am Catholic but have many many Jewish friends. I am not an atheist by any stretch,

Good Catholics are never atheists

15 posted on 12/23/2005 6:08:23 AM PST by fml
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To: rcocean
I agree with the rabbi on this one. It makes no sense to raise children in a household with two different religious influences that are mutually exclusive by definition. Providing a child with conflicting religious instruction in this context is worse than providing them no religious instruction at all -- because it trivializes and mocks two religions/cultures instead of just ignoring them completely.

Compromise could be acceptable in a religious context in some cases, but not when it involves two religions that don't share what would best be described as "first principles." Raising a child as both Christian and Jewish is like telling him that two plus two might equal four, but might also equal 73.

16 posted on 12/23/2005 6:09:14 AM PST by Alberta's Child (What it all boils down to is that no one's really got it figured out just yet.)
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To: JamesP81

I'm sorry for your family but glad you got out of Mormonism.

God Bless you.


17 posted on 12/23/2005 6:09:31 AM PST by bonfire (dwindler)
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To: meowmeow

Let me ask you a question - a serious one - there are probably well over a billion people who have never ever even heard of Christ, and billions and billions and billions more who came before us and never heard of Christ, where do they go and are they "saved"?????

This question has never been answered to me in a way that even remotely approaches something making sense.


18 posted on 12/23/2005 6:10:44 AM PST by chris1
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To: governsleastgovernsbest

"They were predictably shown admiring both a menorah and a Christmas tree."

When this is considered "equivalency," we're wrong from the get-go.


19 posted on 12/23/2005 6:13:50 AM PST by MajorityOfOne
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To: fml

I went to Catholic high school and college. I consider myself a moral person, but have left the "church" for many reasons.

I have found that religions are no different that political parties, only with far more deadly and harmful consequences.
Just look at history. Mankind, in the name of religion and God, has killed and maimed so many people.




20 posted on 12/23/2005 6:14:12 AM PST by chris1
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