[StarCMC]

SAHD Ping

[SteveMcKing]

Whatever produces the most time with the kids and still pays the bills, that's what you should do.

[qam1]

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Ping list for the discussion of the politics and social (and sometimes nostalgic) aspects that directly effects Generation Reagan / Generation-X (Those born from 1965-1981) including all the spending previous generations (i.e. The Baby Boomers) are doing that Gen-X and Y will end up paying for.

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[familyop]

"More dads" don't have another good choice when their wives (and now foreigners) have been preferred over them in the job market for so long.

[Modernman]

My wife and I are fighting over who gets to stay home once we have kids. We both make pretty much the same salary. so we'd be in the same place, financially.

Personally, I'd love to stay home with the kids. It seems like a much more valuable use of my time than working as a lawyer.

[billorites]

I've stayed home with all three of my kids. (for the most part)

I'm a child and family therapist by profession. I'm going to get a job taking care of other people's brats so I can pay someone to take care of mine?

I think not.

[k2blader]

No doubt I'll be flamed for this, but I think husbands should be the major bread-winners. Can't really explain it but it seems more natural.

That said, having a daddy at home taking care of the kids is far far better than shuffling the kids off to "daycare".

[big'ol_freeper]

Hmmmm...

[Bushforlife]

Weenie boys.

[Indie]

Too bad many wives who complain, on the one hand about not being able to work, then turn around and get jealous because the stay at home dad doesn't have to [in her mind.] You can not win with women nor could I with my EX wife.

[TalBlack]

If guys ever get the gig that woman gave up believe me they won't EVER (in later years)be burning their jockstraps in the street agitating to join the work force.

How imagination less do you have to be to call doing what you want in the time and order that you want drudgery?

After you get housework and maintenance out of the way you're free to round up the kids and take on the next block in football or basketball. Or build a rocket and see if it works. Or build a homebuilt aircraft. Or go to the movies. Or build models. Or go hang out at the Library. Or go fishing. Or bowling.

The hardest thing about housework is that you are never done with it. But from experience I can say that it doesn't take a hell of a lot of time to do and it isn't even remotely hard or tiring.

[Lazamataz]

If you aren't working for a living, you're a puss-puss.

[phoenix0468]

Thanks for posting this qam1, I was a stay at home dad for two years, till my daughter was three. I wouldn't trade those times for anything.

[Tax-chick]

We want to be independently wealthy so we can both stay home.

[nmh]

Real men protect and earn the living.

Is it any wonder females look down on men?

It is the female that is supposed to stay home and raise the kids.

[DeSoto]

"It's not something you put on your resume, "

I sold my businesses, stayed home and raised my son, while providing care for my mother and mother-in-law, and wouldn't have changed anything.

Now that things have changed, my son is older, Mother-in-law dead, and finances require that I return to work, it very difficult to return to the job market with an apparent multi-year gap in a resume. My current employer finally took a chance, but later admitted that she first thought the gap was very suspicious. Talk about roll-reversals. A woman nearly discriminated against me because I chose to be a full-time dad. While I can't prove it, but I strongly suspect that the 'gap' in my resume was interpreted as prison time and my job ap was discarded based on that basis.

I encourage men to nurture their kids, staying at home with mine was the best thing that I will have ever done in my life, I hope that it is put prominently in my obituary. But beware of discrimination out there.

[republicanbred]

Just my own story~my husband worked in management in the auto industry for 13 years while I was home with our children. He worked 60+ hours a week, and worried when he was at home about issues r/t his job. Needless to say, he really didn't know our children, how could he with the hours and stress he was under?
Anyway, I went back to work when our youngest was in kindergarten, and within a couple of years hit a 6 figure income at a job I love working about 35 hours a week. However, between his 60+ hours and my 35 hours, our daughters were getting the short end of the stick. It didn't take long to decide that one of our 6 figure incomes had to be traded so our daughters had a full-time parent. And it didn't take long to figure out whose job was the better.
So after two years of being the stay at home parent, my husband knows our daughters as well as I do, makes their lunches in the morning, goes to meetings with their teachers, etc. He has also put an 800 squre foot addition and a 3 car garage on our home during his spare time.
It isn't easy to walk away from the kind of money that he did, but our daughters were worth the sacrifice and then some. (and BTW, he is FAR form effeminate~he looks like a linebacker, loves to hunt and fish, and is ALL man!)

[Diddle E. Squat]

Do Stay At Home Dads get mad if their wives give them a vacuum cleaner for Christmas?