Posted on 01/02/2005 2:29:21 PM PST by FormerACLUmember
I have to get to work. I just wanted to say, good luck to you.
Wow, since my wife makes all the money, when exactly is she going to start resenting me?
OK, are you talking about a tall, gorgeous, nut case that lives in So. Cali?
Makes fun of the handicap?
Name of Barbara?
Maybe I'm just confused. I spell out a simple formula for what most men are looking for (and most can't find)and there is an immediate response.I think with the necessary alterations the formula would work for women as well.
Maybe there's an advantage to a "Simple Formula".
She started yelling "Timmy", "Timmy, Timmy Timmy..."
Watch South Park to get the joke!
I was laughing so hard, I started to cry.
Don't lower your standards. Period.
Thanks for the encouragement. I always say there are worse things than being alone. I especially say that after going out with another loser.
Stupid is as stupid does.
Sure I do. My husband stayed home with the kids for awhile when I was still in the service. Although, he mostly got people who "claimed" to be jealous. They should have been, though. :)
And that was the key for your friend...his wife is very sweet. In my book, that makes up for a heckuva lot. I would take a less-than bright person who is really nice over a smart little you-know-what any day!
Treating someone badly (or being treated badly yourself) is worse than being alone.
I especially say that after going out with another loser.
Incompatible partners are not losers because they are incompatible. They are losers if they abuse others, fail to take care of their mental, physical, and spiritual health, or are unwilling to take reasonable risks to achieve goals.
The problem is, that the intelligent and successful ladies seem to establish for themselves "standards" that are as "upwardly-mobile" as themselves.
They hold up the men they meet to such close examination (after all, they are intelligent and demanding women, right?), that few - perhaps _none_ - will "meet the bar". No matter "how close" a guy might come, there is that niggling inner doubt that, perhaps if she just waits, she will discover someone closer to her "ideal". So she holds out, often [perhaps unconsciously] _raising_ the bar just a notch higher in anticipation.
To her, accepting the man with the slight faults would be "lowering her standards", and because she is who she is, so should be the male who would be "good enough" for her. She's the best and she demands "her equal". There can be no "compromise" (wasn't "The Fountainhead" written about someone with a similar viewpoint, albeit regarding his work?).
Such women are destined to end up alone, not because there is anything wrong with their personalites per se. Rather, their inability to shape their expectations to fit reality will do them in.
Not that _any_ of them would be interested in _me_, of course (laughs), just another working-class guy who was lucky to have pulled himself up from the minimum wage to the lower rungs of the middle class. Too old now to be a candidate for marriage, anyway, certainly for a family.
But - years ago - I remember composing a detailed personal ad while "searching" myself. In trying to communicate the type of woman I was looking for, I wrote this line: "I'm not particular about your educational background or employment".
The point was that it was entirely unrealistic to be setting demands that might cut off possible responses, and, actually, I didn't really _care_ about such things, anyway. Such things didn't seem important to me. What _was_ important is that there might be "something there" between us, that "spark", that counted for more...
Compromise is all too often the essence of life, and the giving of one's self to marriage probably entails more "compromisin'" than most folks are willing to admit. But when successful women are so adamantly opposed to the notion of making a few compromises in the search for a mate, I sense they're gonna be searchin' a long time!
- John
Please pass the popcorn.
Incompatible partners are not losers because they are incompatible. They are losers if they abuse others, fail to take care of their mental, physical, and spiritual health, or are unwilling to take reasonable risks to achieve goals.
Well, these guys are losers and they are incompatible. That's the only way I can sum it up.
You gotta be kidding. That's what I prayed for... and finally got.
You might have found a diamond. Hold on to her. Better than a winged Harpy with a pitchfork...
" Poor Al Simmons, sounds like he ran into my ex., gorgeous as hell, but high maintenance."
That depends. Is your name Vince?
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