Incompatible partners are not losers because they are incompatible. They are losers if they abuse others, fail to take care of their mental, physical, and spiritual health, or are unwilling to take reasonable risks to achieve goals.
Well, these guys are losers and they are incompatible. That's the only way I can sum it up.
Since you both select and evaluate the suitors with your proprietary methods, who am I to argue with your diagnosis ?