OPEN LETTER TO AMERICAN FEMINISTS

I am a thirty year old woman living in the United States and have been studying what is known as 'the women's movement'. I've read some of your books especially those written by Gloria Steinem and other famous women's rights advocates. Reading these books I hoped to gain some insight into the movement that my fellow conservatives railed against. I sought to find out why Rush Limbaugh takes such obvious delight in calling all of you feminazis.

I disagreed with the goals of the feminists such as abortion rights, putting career ahead of family and so on. I thought it would be easy for me to go on with my life and allow you to go promoting feminist causes. After all, this is America and I don't spend my time telling other people how to behave and what to think. However, I did not realize the impact that the feminist movement had in the lives of men and women in this country till I started dating (if it can be called such).

I hope you are happy with yourselves. You've made it possible for more girls to enter spinsterhood than ever before all the while going psychotic and starving ourselves to death into an early grave besides. The biblical verse (I know you hate christianity but please excuse me) that states 'what does it profit a man if he gains the world and loses his soul' comes to mind. What does it matter if I'm rich with a great career, my own car, a healthy 'sex life' and nice clothes if I'm alone when I'm eighty rocking myself to sleep in a dirty nursing home all alone with no grandchildren? Perhaps you don't care that many men cringe at the idea of getting married because you don't care for the institution of getting married yourselves. Perhaps not having children doesn't bother you because you're too busy advocating the murder of children in the womb.

You talk about us women embracing our 'real bodies' and 'our fat womyn' BUT what do you feminists fill your magazines with? It's not 'real womyn' that is for sure. You peddle independent womanhood in the form of acting like a slut, dressing like a slut and having women portrayed as black widows. You champion little girls wearing g-strings and playing rainbow braclet gamwes while condemning girls who save themselves for marriage, or girls who are celibate and dress modestly as 'old fashioned' and 'out of touch'.

My thirtieth birthday came and went, and so far I've learned that many men don't respect women. A married man will go over land sea and tell all kinds of lies to get sex from a girl. I've also learned that trying to attract the attentions of man already burned once by a 'independent woman' is a fruitless effort and these men don't go through half the trouble single men or married men do to use a girl sexually. They do no think we women are worth it. I wonder how many girls will learn about your lies the hard way? How many girls will have a mother like mine to listen to the whining and frustration then only to say, 'see? You need to church and get right with God.' not mothers who are interested in being their best buddies and further encourage promiscuity.

Many young men don't even want to get married but instead wait for those women willing to have casual sex with them. You taught these girls that having unattached sex is the mark of a proud, independent woman like Sex in the City for instance. You trash Jessica Simpson for being a brainless idiot but we BOTH know why you really trash her and don't trash Britney Spears. Frustrated fathers raise sons and tell them never to get married. What are girls like me supposed to do? Or is my choice to want to be a wife and mother not as vaunted as having abortions or group sex on MTV? Bring up marriage and children to a single man these days, and a girl will find herself all alone on a Saturday night. So what's a girl to do? Don't bother answering feminists. American culture has had enough of your answers. Your well intentioned moral boondoggles have hurt women more than you will ever realize. Let's hope you don't spread your false gospel elsewhere.

And let me add:

Thanks, also, Feminists, for shaming women for believing that being with their children 24/7 was important. You idiots! Human beings need many years of growth watching and learning fron their parents before they attain civilization. You messed up our whole society by brainwashing moms of small children to go against nature and to pay for childcare-and-toilet-cleaning by strangers. We can not get these daycare/other care generations back.

And with all these women doing meaningless work while leaving the meaningful work of caring for their families to illegal aliens, salaries of men, of fathers, have gone way down. It used to be that one man could proudly support his whole family. Thanks a lot for doing that to him: you are probably glad.

And while you were protecting the rights of girls to have sex at any time with no consequenses, which has done them a WHOLE LOT OF GOOD, let me tell you, you killed millions of girls who were growing and waiting to take their first breaths. Oh, and you killed a bunch of boys, too. If you even care.

Sexist pigs? You coined it: YOU ARE IT.

the first thing is to throw everything the femocrats taught you out the window... The second thing you should do is go and buy a copy of The Rules.

At the risk of claiming to have understood this author's intent, let me suggest that not many readers seem to have done so. It will always be true that there are immediate actions one can take to improve one's lot, but what I think she's decrying here is that the environment in which she might seek to do this is itself getting worse. No one seems to want to talk about that.

It is unquestionably true that her odds of finding a "Mr. Right" are worse today because of 30 years of feminism. It is also true that the odds are continuing to get worse. We can all be helpful here and help her solve her individual life's quest, but I think what she's saying is that there are millions of women like her, and we can't send them all to the same church group to meet a nice man. There aren't enough church groups for that. The problem is that our society is hosed up.

Her odds are bad and getting worse at least partly because millions of young men are now aware that marriage has become, largely thanks to feminists, an extraordinarily risky thing for a man, where the penalty for making a mistake is literally ruin.

It's becoming more difficult every day to convince young men that all they need to do is "find the right girl." The right girl is only known in hindsight; all the real girls that can be dealt with today look like a 50-50 chance of ending up alone and in the poor house, estranged from one's children and treated like a bottomless ATM machine by lawyers and courts. You know the litany: a man can be thrown out of his house today with no due process, he can find himself accused of the worst sorts of things and be treated as guilty until proven innocent... we have put all these laws in at the behest of feminists and do-gooders, but in doing so we have managed to turn marriage into a thing that no sane man would enter.

It's not like this can't be changed. Finding this young lady a boyfriend is a nice gesture, but it will not solve the underlying problem. We need some serious divorce reform in this country so that the vast majority of the young men she encounters every day are not terrified of marriage. Today those men have every right to be terrified of marriage; theirs is the correct response to actual events and conditions. We need to stop pretending that these do-gooder laws we have now that treat men as The Enemy can't be -- and aren't -- misused every day to totally hose the lives of men who had nothing like that coming to them. We all know such men. So do the young men, and they don't want it happening to them next.

Most people sat by for the last thirty years and watched men being demonized in every possible way, with politicans jumping up and down to "do something" about all the monstrous men. Well, we've done that now; all men are by default assumed to be monsters, and they are treated accordingly. This is what we wanted, and now we have it. And now young men say, "I'm not a monster, and I refuse to be treated like one. I am not going to play this game."

Sending one young woman off to find a boyfriend isn't going to fix that. There's another young woman right behind her, and she can't find a husband either. You don't have enough foolish men available to solve the problem; the real fix is to change the laws so a man doesn't have to be a fool to consider getting married.

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