OPEN LETTER TO AMERICAN FEMINISTS

my angry self | 04 June 2004 | me

[TomServo]

Hey now!

Damn - I'm so busted....;-)

[Fire_on_High]

LOL no "chick flicks" for me. Explosions are good, fast cars or planes, anything military, rampaging lava or earthquakes a definite plus, tho storm type stuff works too. Failing any of that, swords, knights, dragons, magic, and good CGI are also acceptable. No PC please (see the new remake of the Neverending Story to see what I mean...pure butchery).

[The Scourge of Yazid]

That was truly astounding!

I mean, to have a stepbrother who is forty years younger than you!

Tony Randall always did give me the creeps.

It's almost as if he took that punctilious, officious little jerk that he played on television and decided to assume his persona.

Disturbing.

[driftless]

Modern gender-style feminism was always doomed to be a deadend for women because the cornerstone of their screwball theory of male/female relationship is based on hatred of the opposite sex. Any lie or half-truth about "evil" men was propagated by these witless shrews to destroy the traditional nuclear family. Gloria Steinem has admitted as much. Coupled with their equally insane theory that men and women are the same except for physical differences makes them one the most evil influences on America since the advent of socialism ...which they are unabashed supporters of.

[writer33]

Excellent. An anti-feminism bump.

[no_problema]

i've been reading university "critical theory"...ugh,
'scuse me while i vomit.

there's "the gaze"--that's how men look at women. tenured university feminists are making $100,000 per year on this stuff.


and, there's louis althusser, a commie, who killed his wife in 1980 and the french put him in a nut house, instead of prison. he died in 1990.

and yet, a lot of feminist "theory" is based on althusser--you'd think that a guy who killed his wife would not be a role model!

[Hotdog]

Hey...calm down...they will soon be going to Massachusetts and California...look at the bright side...if enough show up those two states might break loose and float away...

[cyborg]

LOL!!!

[Dan from Michigan]

Democrat California Senator

If it's Jack Scott or Don Perata, I owe you a beer.

[cyborg]

excellent summary... I agree.

[cyborg]

Peddling crap makes money doesn't it? LOL... especially if it's thrown from the hallowed halls of academia.

[cyborg]

thank you sir :)

[writer33]

You're more than welcome. We need more real women in America such as yourself. I suppose they're out there. Well, I married one, but the media perception is quite different, even though I know how biased they are.

[radiohead]

GUYS OPEN DOORS FOR LADIES BECAUSE IT IS POLITE!

And ladies say thank you because it is polite. Anyone who would do otherwise is ilbred and rude. You can be a strong woman without being a rude woman.

[Yaelle]

And let me add:

Thanks, also, Feminists, for shaming women for believing that being with their children 24/7 was important. You idiots! Human beings need many years of growth watching and learning fron their parents before they attain civilization. You messed up our whole society by brainwashing moms of small children to go against nature and to pay for childcare-and-toilet-cleaning by strangers. We can not get these daycare/other care generations back.

And with all these women doing meaningless work while leaving the meaningful work of caring for their families to illegal aliens, salaries of men, of fathers, have gone way down. It used to be that one man could proudly support his whole family. Thanks a lot for doing that to him: you are probably glad.

And while you were protecting the rights of girls to have sex at any time with no consequenses, which has done them a WHOLE LOT OF GOOD, let me tell you, you killed millions of girls who were growing and waiting to take their first breaths. Oh, and you killed a bunch of boys, too. If you even care.

Sexist pigs? You coined it: YOU ARE IT.

[onyx]

Nothing like a Southern gentleman, cyborg.
Find yourself one and you'll have happiness.

[cyborg]

AMEN!

[cyborg]

You're not the first person to say that :)

[Nick Danger]

the first thing is to throw everything the femocrats taught you out the window... The second thing you should do is go and buy a copy of The Rules.

At the risk of claiming to have understood this author's intent, let me suggest that not many readers seem to have done so. It will always be true that there are immediate actions one can take to improve one's lot, but what I think she's decrying here is that the environment in which she might seek to do this is itself getting worse. No one seems to want to talk about that.

It is unquestionably true that her odds of finding a "Mr. Right" are worse today because of 30 years of feminism. It is also true that the odds are continuing to get worse. We can all be helpful here and help her solve her individual life's quest, but I think what she's saying is that there are millions of women like her, and we can't send them all to the same church group to meet a nice man. There aren't enough church groups for that. The problem is that our society is hosed up.

Her odds are bad and getting worse at least partly because millions of young men are now aware that marriage has become, largely thanks to feminists, an extraordinarily risky thing for a man, where the penalty for making a mistake is literally ruin.

It's becoming more difficult every day to convince young men that all they need to do is "find the right girl." The right girl is only known in hindsight; all the real girls that can be dealt with today look like a 50-50 chance of ending up alone and in the poor house, estranged from one's children and treated like a bottomless ATM machine by lawyers and courts. You know the litany: a man can be thrown out of his house today with no due process, he can find himself accused of the worst sorts of things and be treated as guilty until proven innocent... we have put all these laws in at the behest of feminists and do-gooders, but in doing so we have managed to turn marriage into a thing that no sane man would enter.

It's not like this can't be changed. Finding this young lady a boyfriend is a nice gesture, but it will not solve the underlying problem. We need some serious divorce reform in this country so that the vast majority of the young men she encounters every day are not terrified of marriage. Today those men have every right to be terrified of marriage; theirs is the correct response to actual events and conditions. We need to stop pretending that these do-gooder laws we have now that treat men as The Enemy can't be -- and aren't -- misused every day to totally hose the lives of men who had nothing like that coming to them. We all know such men. So do the young men, and they don't want it happening to them next.

Most people sat by for the last thirty years and watched men being demonized in every possible way, with politicans jumping up and down to "do something" about all the monstrous men. Well, we've done that now; all men are by default assumed to be monsters, and they are treated accordingly. This is what we wanted, and now we have it. And now young men say, "I'm not a monster, and I refuse to be treated like one. I am not going to play this game."

Sending one young woman off to find a boyfriend isn't going to fix that. There's another young woman right behind her, and she can't find a husband either. You don't have enough foolish men available to solve the problem; the real fix is to change the laws so a man doesn't have to be a fool to consider getting married.

[SauronOfMordor]

Let the bitterness out, then put it aside. The beauty that is within you will draw your counterpart to you, as long as you allow yourself to be open to him when he arrives.