What in the world is the matter with me?

[ConservativeMan55]

Somebody please help me here. I can't understand it. I'm a successfull person right? I've got a little over a year and a half and I will have my Bachelors Degree.
I'm not ugly that I know of. I have no acne. I attempt to be an engaging personality.
I just recently got my associates degree.
I write columns for a political website.
I am a staunch conservative, and know more than the average Joe about politics and news.
I've produced live shows for radio. I'm 20 years old...but yet I can't seem to find a girl! Every friggin one is either taken or not interested.

I find it extremely peculiar that the ones that are taken are dating the guy flipping pancakes down at IHOP treating them like S^%&%. Seriously folks...something's happening here, and it ain't buffalo springfield.

[ConservativeMan55]

Somebody throw me a bone here.

[Incorrigible]

I write columns for a political website.
I am a staunch conservative, and know more than the average Joe about politics and news.

Something tells me you probably don't listen to what they have to say since it probably seems trivial to you.

PS.  Most college age girls are not only not conservative but not really interested in politics.

[fuente]

Where are ya lookin' for them?

Try Barnes and Nobles, at the park walkin' the dog, church, or any other place interesting people hang out.

[T Minus Four]

Patience Grasshopper. She's out there, she's just to young to know that you're worth having. Give her a few years to grow up.

[TXnMA]

Every friggin one is either taken or not interested

Maybe it's your language...

[fish70]

I know exactly how it feels dude. I am 32 and divorced after a 3 year marriage. I have had about 10 dates in 8 years. I have plenty of friends who are in the same boat as we are.

[RandallFlagg]

Please be patient. I didn't decide to start a family until I was 30. I was married too early (at 22), but it was a dismal failure.

If you're asking for dating advice, It's been WAY too long for the Flaggster in that department.

Patience....

[Revolting cat!]

I thought you college guys had 'em all. Little did I know! But that's where they all are, aren't they? Maybe you ought to consider sticking around to get a higher degree and then even a higher one if you still don't find her! Then you can become a professer and they'll be all coming at ya!

[zook]

There ain't hardly a one of us guys that hasn't been in your place at one time or another. The truth is that all the cliche's are true--e.g., enjoy your freedom, focus on making friends, be patient, save your money, etc. There's no doubt that the girls we're hottest for always seem to be chasing bums. There should be a name attached to that "law" -- let's call it "Bob's Law," just for the heck of it.

Sorry I can't be more help, but I'll betcha you don't have this problem in two years.

[I got the rope]

Go to Church...meet a nice girl.

[Question_Assumptions]

Try dating web sites. One of my friends met his wife through a web site. Another friend met his wife through a dating service. Happily married people.

The only warning I'll pass on is from the latter friend. Be careful what you ask for. You don't always want what you think you want. To that, I'll add that it's often better to find your compliment than your equal. And a lot of conservative women are religious and if you don't move in those circles, you are less likely to find them.

Also listen to Incorrigible. You need to listen and most younger women aren't conservative or even political (there is a reason why [A] a lot of young people don't vote and [B] the gender gap has women favoring Democrats). A lot of women need to get married and have children before they become conservative.

[ConservativeMan55]

Thanks for all the advice everyone. Does anyone know why women end up dating guys who treat them badly or are unsuccessful?

[First_Salute]

Ask rintense. She'd probably have some good tips on how to keep your nose to the grindstone.

While you're busy, when you least expect it, a girl, you will find paying attention to you.

The woman picks the man; and that, her observation of your efforts, is often how the good one finds her man.

[areafiftyone]

My goodness you are only 20. Give it time. Join political groups - volunteer for campaigns - go to the book stores. Barnes and Nobles have become great hangouts for people.

[bigfootbob]

halitosis?

[knuthom]

Stop trying. I am serious. Do what interests you, what you feel passionate about. Twenty years old is much too young to get discouraged about this. You will eventually meet the right person.

[Thinkin' Gal]

You're 20. You'll find the right one when you stop looking. Don't rush. 25 will come around soon enough and then you'll slap yourself upside the head for the stupid things you did/said when you were 20. :-)

[KC Burke]

It is tough to get a relationship for many young men. Be patient, the worst thing you could do would be forcing yourself to mistake the first opportunity for the right opportunity.

When you are down on yourself because you are measuring yourself by this issue, you can actually compound the problem. Measure yourself across the spectrum, like you do when you are listing the items you do in the thread.

Finally, while I don't think that prayer is a dating service, it never hurts to be in the right relationship to your Maker -- you know, God the Initiator and man the responder. "Attitude of Gratitude" and all that sort of stuff may actually have something in it to be repeated the way it is across all spectrum of advice.

I also send my prayers for you to work through this discontent. Stay busy and keep making right choices.

[daviddennis]

It has something to do with primal desires, which are for good looking guys who give them a feeling of danger, which brings a certain zest for life with it.

People who are "nice" are also "bland", at least on the outside.

And, after all, many guys aren't that attracted to "nice" girls, either.

Unfortunately :-(.

D