[ConservativeMan55]

Somebody throw me a bone here.

[fuente]

Where are ya lookin' for them?

Try Barnes and Nobles, at the park walkin' the dog, church, or any other place interesting people hang out.

[T Minus Four]

Patience Grasshopper. She's out there, she's just to young to know that you're worth having. Give her a few years to grow up.

[fish70]

I know exactly how it feels dude. I am 32 and divorced after a 3 year marriage. I have had about 10 dates in 8 years. I have plenty of friends who are in the same boat as we are.

[zook]

There ain't hardly a one of us guys that hasn't been in your place at one time or another. The truth is that all the cliche's are true--e.g., enjoy your freedom, focus on making friends, be patient, save your money, etc. There's no doubt that the girls we're hottest for always seem to be chasing bums. There should be a name attached to that "law" -- let's call it "Bob's Law," just for the heck of it.

Sorry I can't be more help, but I'll betcha you don't have this problem in two years.

[bigfootbob]

halitosis?

[KC Burke]

It is tough to get a relationship for many young men. Be patient, the worst thing you could do would be forcing yourself to mistake the first opportunity for the right opportunity.

When you are down on yourself because you are measuring yourself by this issue, you can actually compound the problem. Measure yourself across the spectrum, like you do when you are listing the items you do in the thread.

Finally, while I don't think that prayer is a dating service, it never hurts to be in the right relationship to your Maker -- you know, God the Initiator and man the responder. "Attitude of Gratitude" and all that sort of stuff may actually have something in it to be repeated the way it is across all spectrum of advice.

I also send my prayers for you to work through this discontent. Stay busy and keep making right choices.

[meadsjn]

God already has someone picked out for you. You may be ready, but He's still working on her.

Proverbs 24
27 Prepare your outside work,
Make it fit for yourself in the field;
And afterward build your house.

[ezo4]

Dude check this out.

Me and my girl friend are going to split up after 7 years. She has to move back to CA to help with her sick parrents. I wont live in CA for any reason mainly the firearms laws. So I have to let her go. I have my prorities.

So I get on line (this is actually kinda funny) on match.com and few other sites to see the availablity of nice women out there. So I do search and low and behold there tons of women out there. pages and pages of them.

Ok I live by Seattle. Seattle is liberal nightmare place in case you dont know.

I do a personality search and only look for "conservitive" women. Guess how many I fine.

9 in all Only nine women.

Wha hahaha hahah

Its going to be lonely for a few months or posibly years. Or maybe I need to move.

[stanz]

You're gonna hate this, but "when you least expect it,the right one will come along." Yeah, I used to hate that too, but it has merit. For now, just have fun and stop looking so hard, you're only 20.

[Cacique]

[Havoc]

I'll give you the speach I'll one day give to my nephew. It's simple and short. I'm currently 34. I have a salaried position doing tech support and just bought my first house. I've been walked on by enough women to know not only what it feels like; but, all the varieties of how bad it can be. I have studied the notion of faith and have written an exigetical piece on the book of Hebrews that concludes that God fulfills our faith even if it happens after we are long gone. I must thus conclude that the perfect woman will come along in my golden years - she'll likely be the one to cut me open, stick a tube in me and fill my body with embalming fluid. Yep. The perfect woman, the one that can not do me any damage LOL.

Ok, so I'm kidding. No guy out there has the answers. Why do you act the way you do? We are all individuals and all heading in a billion different directions. I can make general statements that you likely are already aware of.. women go for moronic jerks. Wow, amazing insight, huh?
They hook up with a moronic jerk for the excitement, get used, impregnated or married and impregnated, discover the idiot they hooked up with isn't going to change for her and become a nice brilliant rocket scientist (that is still somehow exciting).. all to come to the conclusion that rather than have mr. exciting, it might be a good idea to find a "nice guy" with money that she can settle for who will bail her out of the mess she made of her life. Let's not forget that since she's likely divorced once, the threshold for divorce is lower than it was before she met you. And she's likely not dealt with her own problems which either contributed to or caused her sad story to be so. [IE, your first reaction should be to splash her with holy water, stick a cross in her face and pummel her with Garlic if she's even looking at you at this point.]

Reality sucks. That's life. But you won't find the right mate sitting here at the computer most likely. You'll find the right one by immersing yourself in the world of the opposite sex - meet women - ugly, fat, opinionated, skinny - you name it. Introduce yourself to every woman of your proximate age range that you encounter - all of them. Just do it. Get used to it. Don't feed them lines, just be real. Pretend to yourself that you're new in school and looking to make friends, then set yourself about doing so. Somewhere along the line you'll either develope an outgoing personality, get comfortable with the opposite sex, or die of embarrasement. You just have to decide what is important to you - being alone or being with someone. Somewhere along the line, you'll find the right one. But, it's not going to leap out at you most likely. That's where who you are really comes in to play a role. Just don't compromise principles and you'll be fine.