[Argh]

What do women want of men?

In no particular order, that they be intelligent, funny, caring, tender, strong, protective, sentimental, generous, a good provider, great at sex, understanding, compassionate, able to remember birthdays and anniversaries, brave, as unaddicted to sports as possible, cultured, well-read, handsome, experienced, fit, loving, fond of children, foresighted, helpful, able to read the woman's moods and mind, forthright, considerate, upright, honest, ambitious, etc.

What do men want of women?

In no particular order, that they be willing to have sex.

[HowlinglyMind-BendingAbsurdity]

There are a wide variety of reasons. While I don't intend to defend adultery or infidelity (I oppose them on Christian grounds), here are a few possibilities which stand out from the great anthropological safari of modern marriage. Having sex with the same person regularly can become routine and less stimulating. Some women also have limited orgastic capacity or potency and this declines more with age. Wives and husbands after a few years become aware of each other's faults and imperfections, this can decrease the sexiness of their relationship. There are women who use sex as a weapon linking all sorts of contingencies on how often they will make love to their husbands. This can become very annoying to the husband.

Sometimes the husband is more sexually adventurous or becomes so later in marriage. The wife is less interested or does not learn how to make love more enthusiastically. People have sexual cycles. As one spouse's energies begin declining, the other may look elsewhere. Marital problems are also linked with aging. The hormonal changes women begin experiencing as they approach menopause are obvious examples.

The genuine "love" and "affection" can also decline or disappear from a marriage. We are fallen beings and our love lives are not unaffected by this. Generally speaking, sex in a genuine loving relationship is better than without that caring.

There is also the "ball buster" syndrome of wives who henpeck their husbands. That FOX series "Married with Children" exhibits a classic, if campy and farcical, variation of this. Never do this. I have seen women who trash their husbands verbally or argue with them senselessly about every nutty topic. "Denial of affection" takes many forms and it is one of the logical legal grounds people find for divorcing. Tragic, but true. If they don't have a firm commitment to family values and raising children in a loving environment, all of these imperfections and inadequacies can take over and destroy the marriage. Particularly if either spouse is not grounded in a sound moral system and or is not faithfully dedicated to their spouse in a spirit of charity and mutual respect. If love, respect, and morality begin disappearing from either spouse's soul, you are going to have BIG problems.

Whether a husband "cheats" will also depend on his own moral character and what kinds of sexual attitudes he learned from his father, peers, and from the secular culture. It can also depend on what kinds of femininity and styles of womanhood, motherhood, etc., he has been exposed to. There are countries in Europe, for instance, where greater elegance in femininity is more regularly apparent than in America with our growing "Hillary Syndrome" and butch careerism among females. American television, popular culture, and the feminist movement have done a wicked job of stripping womanhood of many of its charms and mysteries. Women, like men, are subjected to systematic moronization by the unending waves of secular humanist propaganda and disinformation.

And, of course, younger women can seem more appealing as one's wife ages depending on her health. Both spouses have to accept mortality and the aging process, realizing that sex is after all finite.

There are also some rather familiar reasons which lead to adultery which ought to be directly obvious.

[cynicom]

No dinner at home, man is hungry after long days work, man goes to restaurant. Does not love the restaurant but the food was good.

[socal_parrot]

or

Beats me.

[Age of Reason]

Why Do Men Cheat on Their Wives?

Because it makes sense.

In prior generations, men who cheated on their wives increased the chances of their genes being passed down to future generations.

And until the recent availability of genetic testing, a man could never be sure that the children his wife carried were his; so by attempting to impregnate someone else's wife or daughter on the side, such men hedged their evolutionary bets.

What's more, many women inherit a tendency to be attracted to men who cheat because such men will probably pass the cheating tendency to any sons the women bear such a husband (or boyfriend on the side--women cheat too), thereby helping to ensure that her genes will be spread by her cheating sons and their male offspring among all the generations that follow.

And finally, in a society that does not allow polygamy, having a mistress on the side is the equivalent of having a number two wife.

Now this is only one evolutionary strategy--people have other strategies for passing their genes along; evolution, too, hedges its bets.

[Texbob]

Why do women cheat on Husbands?

[waterstraat]

I think cheating is very, very rare, if the woman takes care of herself, continues to be feminine, shares interests, is a friend to her husband, and is caring and loving. A couple that dances and hunts together, stays together.

[blackbag]

thanks for the post

[rwfromkansas]

Why do women cheat on their husbands?

[VaBthang4]

Why do men cheat on their wives?

"Nagging"

[Melas]

I've been laughing uproariously over this thread for hours now. I've never seen so much over-intellectualization in one place in my entire life.

Men cheat on their wives because...drum roll please....

Because sex is tempting, and some men don't deal with temptation as well as others. Or, some people deal with temptation better than others, depending on your perspective. The truth is that lust is universal. Some will resist, others will succumb. Some will resist and still succumb, and others yet will relish the chance to give in but never find the opportunity.

I am soooooooo tempted to start a thread "Why do wives cheat on their husbands" because I just know that the intellectual hoops will become tighter, and set ablaze in an attempt to come up with the most convoluted explanation possible. Plus it would be somewhat humorous to see the "Women are scum" crowd offer up their opinions.

Just FYI, I found the whole notion that if the little woman is the man's fantasy, he'll never lust after another more than just a little laughable. Hopefully a marriage will have something stronger than hot sex behind it. It's much easier to lust after taught and tawny 22 year old than it is your 42 year old wife of 11 years (that would be my wife). You've never seen taught, young and tawny (hereafter TYT) with a runny nose. You've never seen vomit in TYT's hair. You never saw TYT's redneck grin (missing teeth)in the weeks between extraction and bridgework, etc etc etc.. TYT has never seen you in any of those situations as well, and it shows in the way she looks at you. If you knew that TYT had seen you cry like a baby the night the dog sniffed your butt, and you blew whiskey through your nose, you'd interpret her looks a little differently too.

The point being: Daily living is not sexy, and daily living is what marriage is all about.

[Terriergal]

Cuz the men that do this are too selfish to get the problem fixed in their marital relationship, or be faithful and do without sex even if the problem isn't fixed to his satisfaction.

Same goes for women who do this.

[Hildy]

As Johnny Cammarari said, "FEAR OF DEATH." 50 bonus points to anyone who knows what I'm talking about!

[Terriergal]

I notice nowhere in the article does it say that any of those reasons make it OK to cheat, just explains some of the triggers.

[sandonca]

Re: Why do men cheat on their wives?

I read something on another forum. www.getromantic.com This person is a lot older than myself but I can see where he's coming from. My wife and I have been together for over 10 years and things do become routine. It also makes me feel good when an attractive woman notices me or flirts a bit.

That guy wrote this in his post:

Hey dude! Men who are in their late 30s, 40s and 50s sometimes go through what they called the "mid-life crisis". They've been married to the same gal for decades and the sameness becomes boring, predictable and unexciting. Along comes a young, sweet, gorgeous "thang" who smiles at you and pays you attention, something that your wife had stopped eons ago. You begin to feel "alive" again. You really perk up. You're like a high school boy once again. Never mind that you're 45 and she's only 23. She's got your heart's strings. You flirt and she flirts back. You've received a massive ego boost. You start to work out to get rid of the spare tire around your waist that a staid married life has caused. You dye your hair and wear it longer. You start seeing your dentist and have your teeth cleaned and bleached. You're now smiling more and singing in your heart. I've been there and done that. Older men need to be reassured that they're still desirable to women, especially young women.

[Sloth]

Why do men cheat on their wives?

Because they're evil.

[iranger]

Obvious answer....because the cheatee is hotter.

[Intimidator]

Ok guys, heres my advice. Take up hunting to avoid these affairs. I'd much rather sit in the woods looking for deer than have sex.

[CHICAGOFARMER]

Why do men cheat.

Men only have enought blood in their body to operate one head at a time. Therefore anytime the second head takes over, reason and logic goes out the window.

[Salvation]

Because they do not view their marriage as sacramental and blessed by God.