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Why I Regret Marrying a Man With a Well-Paying Job
New York Post ^

Posted on 01/17/2025 5:26:12 PM PST by nickcarraway

e says her husband’s well-paying job has come at an incredibly sad cost — her own career. “My husband earns well, not loads, but realistically it’s always going to be more than me. It naturally means my career has had to take a back seat while I’m at home with the kids,” she explained.

“But we’ve got no additional support, and someone does need to do the child-related things. This lands on me.” Currently, the mother works part-time, but she isn’t satisfied. “Sometimes I wish I had the luxury of working more,” she said. “I miss my job and independence.” Taking to a moms’ forum, she sought closure. However, responses were divided.

“Could I insist he quit his job? I’m not sure I could. A reluctant and resentful stay-at-home dad or part-time one? Hardly a good idea,” she said. The family can’t afford a nanny, they can’t move to find better childcare options, and the mother can’t work from home.

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To: Organic Panic

“”””It probably comes as a surprise to these women (are we allowed to say that anymore?) have breasts that produce milk for babies.””””

That is a good point, if you just had a baby and the plan is to quickly leave it and get back to work, it seems like noticing that baby food is now leaking from your breasts would make you think about the natural order of life, and think more deeply about the whole baby situation and what has recently transpired in your life, your natural body, and with the new baby looking up at you.


41 posted on 01/17/2025 5:59:21 PM PST by ansel12 ((NATO warrior under Reagan, and RA under Nixon, bemoaning the pro-Russians from Vietnam to Ukraine.))
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To: nickcarraway

This is a rather difficult situation.
I’m a man that had jobs from age 8 till
I retired at age 55.
My wife of 48 years never really had to
work but wanted to.
We only had one child but raised
a lot of others people kids.
My wife “Day-sat” a lot.
With my support she became a certified nurses aide.
and worked in a nursing home.
As a man I understand why girls
want to to get out on their own.
I’m not threatened by that.
However I grew up in a multiply broken
home for a while and I appreciate the damage
it can do to kids.
In the end marriage is for the kids.
Guys can always find prostitutes and
girls can get laid anytime they want,
but what make a society is a family.
Mom is really the glue.
Working moms shipping their kids off to day
care so Mom can “Feel Fulfilled”
doesn’t cut it if you want a society.


42 posted on 01/17/2025 6:02:23 PM PST by rellic (no such thing as a moderate Moslem or Democrat )
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To: nickcarraway

I bet she’s fun to live with. She should be grateful she gets to stay home and properly raise the kids without day care or nannies.

However she sounds like a leftard. With that in mind maybe a nanny would be a good idea.


43 posted on 01/17/2025 6:07:28 PM PST by redfreedom (May God save us from what the Democrats do in the name of good.)
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To: married21
"If she takes 20 years off to raise kids, she still has decades afterwards to pursue her own interests."

Restarting a career after many years out of the workforce while raising children is very difficult, especially the older you become. Speaking from experience here.

44 posted on 01/17/2025 6:07:43 PM PST by Tired of Taxes
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To: nickcarraway

My wife said “I miss my independence”.

Divorce ensues... Always

Some people don’t actually want to be married and some people don’t want to be actually be married. This woman is one of those people.


45 posted on 01/17/2025 6:07:50 PM PST by Celerity
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To: nickcarraway

It all just makes me grateful for husband letting me stay at home after early retirement. I still stop dead in my tracks sometimes just thinking how incredibly lucky I am to be married to this man. Our incomes yoyo’d up and down of each other and never a trace of jealousy on his part when mine was higher. When his was higher? Total gratitude and Yeah for him from me.


46 posted on 01/17/2025 6:09:34 PM PST by mairdie (Gulf War Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYTtL1FB2XCporCVBsqWMTsktTHdif1PL)
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To: nickcarraway

Is this another one of those “I’m the victim” people? Go see a shrink lady, you have some kind of PTSD and you need to have it identified to give your pearl clutching llmore meaning and ethereal pain.


47 posted on 01/17/2025 6:13:11 PM PST by Clutch Martin ("The dawn cracks hard like a bull whip and it ain't taking no lip from the night before" Tom Waits)
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To: nickcarraway
Woke AI

No, it is not universally true that a wife will feel disgruntled if her husband makes less money than she does. Relationship dynamics and individual satisfaction are influenced by many factors, including communication, shared values, mutual respect, and emotional connection, rather than just income levels.

However, societal expectations and cultural norms can sometimes create pressure around financial roles in a relationship. In some cases, these expectations may lead to tension if either partner feels their role or identity is challenged. For example:

1. Cultural Norms: In traditional or patriarchal societies, men are often expected to be primary breadwinners, which can influence perceptions of success or self-worth.

2. Personal Beliefs: Some individuals, regardless of gender, may feel uncomfortable if their partner's earnings significantly surpass their own, especially if they tie self-esteem to income.

That said, many couples thrive with non-traditional income dynamics. Open communication, respect for each other's contributions (financial or otherwise), and shared goals tend to matter more than who earns more money. Every relationship is unique, so what works for one couple may not apply to another.

48 posted on 01/17/2025 6:13:13 PM PST by MinorityRepublican
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To: Clutch Martin

‘ Is this another one of those “I’m the victim” people’

Have you read the posts from the poor victimized men respond to this story?


49 posted on 01/17/2025 6:16:39 PM PST by Fuzz
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To: redfreedom

She’s probably not even a real person.

(Though I’m sure there are some like her.)


50 posted on 01/17/2025 6:16:44 PM PST by Jamestown1630 ("A Republic, if you can keep it.")
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To: nickcarraway

I do not care if I am called a sexist misogynist, but look in a mirror. God designed you to bear and raise kids. Unless you choose to live a celibate and chaste life, if you want to work during your child bearing years you have one of three choices: 1) deny your children life through birth control, 2) kill them in the womb, or 3) abandon them to the care of strangers after birth. All three are selfish and in the end you will be childless and miserable. Nor should you think that your husband is “independent” working outside of the house. He is slaving to support you and your children. You cannot imagine the psychological burden this places on him.


51 posted on 01/17/2025 6:21:48 PM PST by Petrosius
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To: Petrosius

I’ve never forgotten the bumper sticker I saw many years ago. It said

“radical mom, I raised my own kids .”

It is sad that is now considered radical.


52 posted on 01/17/2025 6:27:51 PM PST by Freee-dame ( )
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To: Chickensoup

Stupid, ungrateful woman.


53 posted on 01/17/2025 6:32:30 PM PST by Bigg Red (Trump will be sworn in under a shower of confetti made from the tattered remains of the Rat Party.)
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To: Fuzz

That is a Christian ideal, to be a homemaker, a pure qnd sensible women. We need more mothers raising their own children, the nation would be better off.


54 posted on 01/17/2025 6:36:46 PM PST by ThisLittleLightofMine
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To: nickcarraway

I am certain the man regrets this woman marrying him as well.


55 posted on 01/17/2025 6:37:53 PM PST by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: nickcarraway

The grass is always greener. If she got what she wanted, she’d be even more miserable.


56 posted on 01/17/2025 6:38:34 PM PST by Sparticus (Primary the Tuesday group!)
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To: nickcarraway

If she’s bored, she can always start an affair with the manager of her yoga studio


57 posted on 01/17/2025 6:41:46 PM PST by PGR88
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To: ThisLittleLightofMine

Very true


58 posted on 01/17/2025 6:42:06 PM PST by Bigg Red (Trump will be sworn in under a shower of confetti made from the tattered remains of the Rat Party.)
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To: nickcarraway

Women have it far too good. They are now able to complain about everything. Have to work? Complain. Don’t work and raise the kids? Complain. Work part time but its too little,or too much depending on the feels that day? Complain. Guy makes more than she could but still not enough? Complain. Shes in a position to literally do whtever the hell she wants? Complain she has too much choice and can’t decide.

Its why modern women are ungrateful and insufferable. And contentious. And why men more and more don’t want relationships and marriage with them.

And all fhe women triggered by it, this is the reason but since its not wht you want to hear, whoever says it, oh, they just don’t like women. I like the women in my life. I do not like what passes for modern American women now.


59 posted on 01/17/2025 6:43:17 PM PST by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: ThisLittleLightofMine

‘ That is a Christian ideal, to be a homemaker, a pure qnd sensible women.’

It’s an ancient idea, in any ancient religion, written by insecure men who demand obedience, not a relationship.

Pure and sensible. Lmao.


60 posted on 01/17/2025 6:44:25 PM PST by Fuzz
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