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My girlfriend and I are having a symbolic ‘wedding.’ She does not want to lose her health benefits — and I don’t want to lose my shirt. Is that wise?
Market Watch via Yahoo ^ | August 24, 2024 | Quentin Fottrell [advice columnist]

Posted on 08/26/2024 4:03:00 AM PDT by grundle

Dear Quentin,

My girlfriend and I don’t plan to get legally married nor married in the eyes of the church. We’re simply having a wedding to celebrate our love, but we are not signing any paperwork. I am concerned that my significant other would lose her state health insurance because she doesn’t work. To cut a long story short, I feel terrible that she’s utilizing a program for low-income people, but she has serious mental-health issues that are completely treatable but expensive. I make too much money for her to qualify for medical assistance if we marry, but not enough to absorb what I’ve calculated to be $35,000 a year in additional expenses.

We want kids eventually and I’m concerned that, given that I live in a state famous for treating men poorly in divorces, she’ll end up with at least half of everything I own despite the fact that I accumulated quite a bit in assets before we ever met. I’m also likely to accumulate quite a bit more in assets before we have a child, and it’s actually necessary or helpful that she stays home to care for said child. We agreed several years ago that it was best she stop working because she was in an extremely high-stress environment as a pharmacy tech that was exacerbating her mental-health issues.

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To: grundle

Serious mental health issues? Does this guy realize whats down the road?

When I was a kid looking for girl friends I kept away from those that showed signs of mental oddities.


21 posted on 08/26/2024 4:33:20 AM PDT by redfreedom (May God save us from what the Democrats do in the name of good.)
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To: grundle

“””I feel terrible that she’s utilizing a program for low-income people, but she has serious mental-health issues that are completely treatable but expensive.”””


I would like to meet the goofballs at Market Watch who come up with these fantasy stories.

And BTW we should forward these stories to Babylon Bee as they can add some real hilarity.


22 posted on 08/26/2024 4:39:46 AM PDT by Presbyterian Reporter
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To: Cold_Red_Steel

Or, inwardly, he recognizes problems which will likely develop in the future and rather than concede that she is Miss Wrong and choose more wisely, in his denial he is trying to mitigate the damage which may unfold.

Sometimes we need to listen to our gut instinct, rather than fight it.


23 posted on 08/26/2024 4:43:49 AM PDT by Z28.310 (does not comply well with others)
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To: Z28.310

Isn’t it odd that 150 years ago divorce was not an option and marriages lasted.

Another oddity is that arranged marriages have a very low divoce rate.


24 posted on 08/26/2024 4:46:17 AM PDT by Z28.310 (does not comply well with others)
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To: grundle

I unfortunately reside in CT now.....I think half the women here have “mental health” issues. LOL
Definitely socially inept, stuffy, uptight, cold, unfriendly.
Had to laugh when I read the column—this guy needs to flee as quickly as possible-—go to Europe or Asia to find a wife-—
the LAST place I would look for a gf would be CT-—


25 posted on 08/26/2024 4:49:18 AM PDT by scott says (Servant of the Living God--YHVH)
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To: grundle

“A man is not Complete until He’s married and then he’s finished” applies. best classified ad ever for young men...”about to get engaged. looking for a good mental detector. used is ok”. in today’s society you need one BEFORE getting married.


26 posted on 08/26/2024 4:51:39 AM PDT by Qwapisking ("IF the Second goes first the First goes second" L.Star)
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To: grundle

Beware.

Palimony is real......................


27 posted on 08/26/2024 4:57:20 AM PDT by Red Badger (Homeless veterans camp in the streets while illegals are put up in 5 Star hotels....................)
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To: Rightwing Conspiratr1

ABSOLUTELY


28 posted on 08/26/2024 4:57:43 AM PDT by ridesthemiles (not giving up on TRUMP---EVER)
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To: Rightwing Conspiratr1

ABSOLUTELY

YOU HAVE TO QUESTION YOUR OWN MENTAL HEALTH AT THIS POINT


29 posted on 08/26/2024 4:58:13 AM PDT by ridesthemiles (not giving up on TRUMP---EVER)
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To: ArtDodger

*The sex is worth all the trouble.. until it isn’t.*

Yes but....
Who’d say no to it?
Sex is only important when you don’t have it.


30 posted on 08/26/2024 4:58:27 AM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: grundle

There is federal income tax penalty for marriage if both have equal incomes.


31 posted on 08/26/2024 5:00:11 AM PDT by Bobbyvotes (I will be voting for Trump/whoever he picks VP in November. If he loses in 2024, country is toast.)
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To: DIRTYSECRET

Grippy Sox = grippy box


32 posted on 08/26/2024 5:00:47 AM PDT by MeanWestTexan (Sometimes There Is No Lesser Of Two Evils)
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To: mikey_hates_everything

So red it’s glowing. to many to list. That was a wild read.


33 posted on 08/26/2024 5:01:24 AM PDT by IllumiNaughtyByNature (Polls are designed to sell more ads & polls only. If it's not a horse race the money dries up.)
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To: grundle

I guarantee whatever leftist state he lives in will treat him and his assets like they are legally married and demand support.


34 posted on 08/26/2024 5:01:57 AM PDT by MeanWestTexan (Sometimes There Is No Lesser Of Two Evils)
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To: Z28.310

the thoroughly Biblical concept and requirement you have missed that turns your every argument to meaninglessness is found in Romans 13:1-3. “those who would argue for the precepts of the Bible must first know and understand those precepts” applies. while agreeing with what you have presented as common sense it is all still not in keeping with the Word to ignore the clear meaning of Romans 13:


35 posted on 08/26/2024 5:05:01 AM PDT by Qwapisking ("IF the Second goes first the First goes second" L.Star)
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To: ClearCase_guy

Palimony has been the law in most leftist states since Marvin v Marvin.

You don’t even have to be married for the woman to steal half your stuff and you support her for life.


36 posted on 08/26/2024 5:10:49 AM PDT by MeanWestTexan (Sometimes There Is No Lesser Of Two Evils)
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To: redfreedom

Does this guy realize that many types of mental illness are heritable?


37 posted on 08/26/2024 5:11:38 AM PDT by JayGalt (Fight! Fight! Fight!)
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To: grundle

Seems like the term “shack-up” fits.


38 posted on 08/26/2024 5:12:56 AM PDT by ptsal (Vote R.E.D. >>>Remove Every Democrat ***)
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To: grundle
she has serious mental-health issues

Run away....

39 posted on 08/26/2024 5:13:34 AM PDT by Hot Tabasco
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To: ridesthemiles

Exactly—I see two people with mental health issues—perfect for each other.

:-)


40 posted on 08/26/2024 5:14:36 AM PDT by cgbg ("Our democracy" = Their Kleptocracy)
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