Posted on 08/16/2024 3:46:11 PM PDT by nickcarraway
From concert venues to Olympic triumphs, marriage proposals are getting more and more elaborate nowadays.
Kerby Ng's complex and well-planned proposal is among them, with the 29-year-old filmmaker taking to Instagram on July 2 to share how he had asked for his partner Joyce's hand in marriage.
It had been a long time coming for Joyce, so it's no wonder she couldn't compose herself on the actual day.
"For months and months and months, I've been gaslighting my girlfriend," Kerby narrated in the Instagram video, which showed snippets of all the times he had fooled his partner.
Kerby had planned and pulled off a number of fake proposals — at the beach, by the pier and one 3,000ft in the air in a hot air balloon — in the lead-up to the actual one.
"Wait, really? Really?" a baffled Joyce asked her boyfriend when he seemed to be on the verge of popping the question during a hot air balloon ride.
Alas, there was no wedding ring inside Kerby's ring box. Instead, it was a toy duck, with the couple laughing off yet another fake proposal.
But when the big day actually arrived, Kerby opted for a cinema hall as the location.
His girlfriend was completely unaware. In her eyes, this was just another day at the movies.
During the movie screening, the room suddenly went dark, prompting Kerby to "find management".
In actuality, this was his cue to begin the proposal. No fake one this time.
The real deal Much to Joyce's confusion, Kerby popped up on screen and a compilation of clips over their nine years together began playing.
It did not take long for Joyce to figure out that this might just be an actual marriage proposal.
Kerby revealed to AsiaOne that the first two to three years of their relationship was long distance, with him being in the UK and Joyce in Malaysia.
He was looking to change that.
In the video playing on the big screen, Kerby asked his then girlfriend: "Would you like to finally be together, forever? Would you like to marry me?"
Everything was perfectly in place, Kerby was on one knee at the front stage of the cinema hall as the audience held up what appeared to be illuminated spheres in the air.
This was no ruse, and Joyce couldn't control her emotions as she made her way down to say yes to her soon-to-be husband.
Kerby mentioned how seeing her so overwhelmed with tears was a striking moment that will "live with him forever".
When asked why he chose to "gaslight" her so often, Kerby noted that he has since corrected the term to "fake proposing".
He added: "The reason for fake proposing was because we knew that we were going to get married without a doubt. The real question was 'when'."
Kerby's Instagram video has gone viral, with more than five million likes, but the reactions in the comments have been rather mixed.
Some found it heartwarming, while there were others who didn't agree with the fake proposals.
"Another day of me crying with strangers on the internet," one user said.
"Love the real proposal, didn't understand the need for the fake ones," another commented.
When asked why he chose to "gaslight" her so often, Kerby noted that he has since corrected the term to "fake proposing".
He added: "The reason for fake proposing was because we knew that we were going to get married without a doubt. The real question was 'when'."
If you watch the video, this guy is lucky she has a sense of humor.
It's kind of nice that he made this video, but couldn't they watch it home.
This reminds me of the short story, In Dreams Begin Responsibilities by Delmore Schwartz. The narrator is watching his parent courtship in an old movie theater, yelling at them not to do it.
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This girl would be a fool to marry this guy. In fact - she should fool him.
Agree to a wedding only to be a no show. Gaslighting works both ways.
Indeed, a key to healthy relationships is protracted gaslighting. God help the "boyfriend" who ever did that to my daughter.
Well, if you look at the video, she finds is very amusing and isn’t upset, so maybe he just knows her.
If you don’t have honesty you don’t have anything.
It gives you an advantage to be president.
My take as well. *sigh*
Yes, he IS lucky that she has a sense of humor (and not a dark one at that).
> This girl would be a fool to marry this guy. <
Right you are.
Gaslighting with no immediate evil intent is equivalent to playing a series of practical jokes. And practical jokes are cruel. Run from this guy, lady.
Much ado about nothing.
“Fake proposals”?
What a rotten thing to do.
If I’d made even one fake proposal to my wife, she would have told me to go away and never come back, and we would not now have been married for going on 24 years. But I knew better.
Still, if that sort of stuff works for this couple, more power to them. I hope they’re happy together, though I wouldn’t risk a large wager on it.
I thought the baby boomers were the me generation. Will have to rethink that now that everyone wants to be an iPhone star.
But glad they are getting married and that she shares his sense of humor.
And now comes the fake divorce threats...
Guy is just figuring out how slow she is to ferret out b.s.Wants to know if he can gaslight her when she suspects he is 1 million in debt to gamblers, or is humping a hottie.
Guy is creepy. She seems dumb.
Sorry, bout the cynicism. Or is it clickbait?
My niece works at Disneyland - she said some idiot wanted to propose to his girlfriend in front of Cinderella’s Castle during peak summer hours - Disneyland said “OK” for a massive price, I think she said around $30k. She had to help clear the area of people, for an hour - inconveniencing families, etc. until the proposal was done.
Anything for the right price..
That's all I would need to hear. I'm out.
When I was in my twenties, had a friend who was dating a guy none of us could stand. We kept warning her about him. (Seriously, if the first thing you do when you move in together is pay off his phone sex calls that are on your bill... and do it by cashing in the Coca-cola stock that grandpa left you... don't just throw him to the curb, but curb stomp him as well.) He did a whole movie production when he proposed to her. Filmed it and everything. (He was a wanna-be movie producer.) Then he gave her a HUGE cubic zirconia ring.
It lasted another 6 months after that, but she DID finally ditch him.
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