Posted on 06/04/2024 11:50:37 AM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
Sometimes you can really mess up your life by doing something nice for someone, even a senior.
It can turn on an entitlement button and then you’re bombarded with demands and guilt tripping, like what happened to the young woman in this story.
Read it and you’ll see what I mean.
I’m 25 and live in a building with a lot of seniors.
One of my neighbors is in her late 80s.
She has pretty much been badgering me to help her do stuff and plays the guilt card if I say no.
At first I was willing to help, especially when the pandemic broke out, but picking up groceries for her and bringing her and her mail.
That quickly morphed into her trying to get me to fix her sinks, vacuum, make her dinner, wash her windows and when you say no she literally starts crying and throws a pity party.
The requests aren’t casual, but instead become a routine campaign of demands.
Whenever I got home from work she’d literally be waiting at my door to start making her demands for today and after that happened I had enough.
I told her to leave me alone a few times which worked for a few days before she’d go back at it......
When I told my grandma she called me a massive jerk as obviously this lady needs help and likes the company.
She told me to put her in that old lady’s shoes. I admit it made me feel even worse about it.
(Excerpt) Read more at msn.com ...
One thing my dad who has since passed did was to try to limit the care my sister and I needed to provide. Often it was aggravating where we had to fix something he did instead of asking us. I can say that for last 6 months of his life I was able to mostly be there for him, a lot of times despite his protests.
she should say that she will call social services if she cannot live by herself.
i am for helping out, but there is a limit to the aid.
It’s a fine line between doing for others as we are called to do biblically and getting taken advantage of.
Gotta draw the line at some point...I think this person went above and beyond a long time ago.
The one giving the help gets to set the limit.
When the person you’re helping tries to guilt-trip you for setting a limit, you’re being abused.
I am guessing that the elderly woman’s husband is glad he is dead.
The woman is nearly 90 years old, so, if average, she has a lot of needs. If she has no family, I’d contact elder services. They can help her get meals on wheels or transportation services. If she’s with it enough, she could be taught how to order delivered groceries etc., on line or by phone. But face it, some people will take advantage of you if you let them.
I remember my wealthy great aunt always complaining that the neighbors never helped her out. Carrying things or some yard work....
They ignore me when I say hello.... most likely because her hello came with a would you please?
exactly
You know the old saying.....the reason men die before their wives is because they want to. Lol!
Narcissism is VERY COMMON, and narcissists grow worse with age.
My wife and I have ended up going to outrageous lengths helping people at times. Helping people out usually goes well but sometimes things go sideways. The times when things have eventually gone sideways typically make funny stories at some point.
To me this story sounds like it may be 25-year-old virtue signaling gone bad.
We had a neighbor in the next apartment that was getting physically weaker. He worked but stayed in during Covid.
We’d check on him but he never wanted anything. Once he asked if we had toilet paper when it was hard to get. We had plenty.
We’d get more stuff for him later om. He never asked.
When he died he left us $5,000. We didn’t accept it and gave it to his son’s family.
And whoever wrote that headline is a jackass
Find out if she just wants the company.
Offer to just sit and talk, instead of doing a task.
And used.
Lately, the task of writing headlines seems to have been assigned to mentally retarded spider monkeys.
When the line is crossed from being helpful on occasion to being bombarded with requests as you enter your building, it’s time to reassess.
This woman either needs to pay for the services or find someone who will.
She doesn’t need a neighbor, she needs a husband. In lieu of that, she needs a handyman.
No way would I allow myself to be badgered like that.
And the daughter should be offering to pay if she wants the neighbor’s help if the mom can’t afford it.
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.