Posted on 06/29/2023 9:25:13 AM PDT by NohSpinZone
Four months before my daughter’s wedding, she told me that her uncle (my brother, “Dave”) would make her feel unsafe if he was a guest. She asked me not to invite him.
My daughter is very politically progressive, as are many of her friends, and although she and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.
Dave has always been very nice, so my daughter’s request surprised me.
I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.
SNIP
Afterward, I sent him a card and pictures from the wedding, all in an effort to make him feel like he was not being totally left out.
I have not heard from Dave since then. When my siblings found out what I had done they were angry with me.
That is just one problem.
Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.
In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.
She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.
My husband says I should drop it – but I can’t. Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.
How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?
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There are times in the past when I would have said that right out of the gate.
Now?
I think this mindset is common in many Leftists.
To be fair, I had a party at my house, and my oldest brother who is one of the “Resist” people who no doubt took part in stealing the election, started talking political crap.
I yelled at him that I didn’t want any damn political talk in my house where we had finally gotten together after many years.
He was offended, and left with his wife. We talked afterwards and I explained why I was angry about that, and he said he understood. We are back to baseline now.
I can almost beat this: two years ago my beloved cousin died. I loved her and our families had been close even though she was 15 years older than me. I got the word out to my older brother who lives within a few miles of where the funeral was. It was in the middle of covid. I had not and still am not vaxed. Every time I talked to my brother he had been after me to get vaxed but I chose not to. He thinks he’s an authority because his brother in law is a retired doctor. Other back story, he was and is a virulent anti-trumpster. Long story short, he said that he would go to our cousin’s funeral if I got vaxed. Wow. I’m still sorting that one out. He didn’t go. I did. Everyone wore masks and distanced but I’m so glad I went.
Typical liberals.
Lol! Dave should let the happy couple know he donated $1,000 to Trump’s PAC in their names and wish them well.
Well, time has shown that you were right all along. It doesn’t sound like your brother would ever own up to that though. Sad.
Have a couple in my family. Do not engage. Do not approach. And definitely allow them to believe what they want to hear rather than what the reality is.
One especially galls me since we spent money, time (months), and labor helping them to get started over four years to be suddenly persona non grata because we are conservatives...and religious to boot.
LOL- make it $2000 in their name if he’s got the $$ to do so
I have learned that gratitude is the most important trait in determining the dividing line between good and bad people. Grateful people are kind and generous by default. Ungrateful people are selfish and narcissistic by default.
We are in same boat- the left can be quite charming WHEN they want something- but as soon as they get it- the claws come out, and they sever the relationship- then years later, come back being all nice again- begging for $$ again as though nothing ever happened-
This reminds me of when Harvard had its 350th anniversary and it was customary to invite the sitting President for a speech and an honorary degree. Reagan was the President and they just couldn’t stand the thought of letting him address Harvard or give him an honorary degree. So they cooked up some half-assed alternative and sent it to him; he had already put a fishing trip on his schedule and replied “Sorry, but” to their relief. So they would ignore the accomplishments of a man often ranked in the Top Five, at least Top Ten of US Presidents. The same Harvard gang gave the two-faced liar, incompetent and total flop Jimmy Carter an honorary degree, honoring WHAT?
I’m with you too and Uncle Dave!
Indeed.
My thoughts exactly!
Dear ______, congratulations on your wedding - I really enjoyed the photos you sent me. In honor of your special day, I have donated $1,000, in your name, to President Donald J. Trump’s 2024 election PAC.
ROFL!!!
You told him to piss off.
So he pissed off.
What the heck did you expect?
The only entitled ones I see are mother dearest and daughter dearest.
To my niece: I was always looking forward to leaving you my 75 acre horse farm in Palm Beach County. But it was bought with money I’m sure you’d abhor so I’ll be donating it to Republican Party Headquarters instead.
I know how you feel.
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