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Ask Amy: We told him not to come to the wedding, but we still wanted his money
Chicago Tribune ^ | 6/29/2023 | By Amy Dickinson

Posted on 06/29/2023 9:25:13 AM PDT by NohSpinZone

Four months before my daughter’s wedding, she told me that her uncle (my brother, “Dave”) would make her feel unsafe if he was a guest. She asked me not to invite him.

My daughter is very politically progressive, as are many of her friends, and although she and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.

Dave has always been very nice, so my daughter’s request surprised me.

I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.

SNIP

Afterward, I sent him a card and pictures from the wedding, all in an effort to make him feel like he was not being totally left out.

I have not heard from Dave since then. When my siblings found out what I had done they were angry with me.

That is just one problem.

Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.

In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.

She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.

My husband says I should drop it – but I can’t. Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.

How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?

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To: NohSpinZone
How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?

The letter to Amy has to be made up. Nobody is that stupid, not even the worst of the democrats.

He's not invited,but, they still want his money?

If that letter is about the truthful behavior of Dave's family, then, that's a family that doesn't belong in Dave's life. That family needs to apologize to Dave for their behavior and get on their knees when apologizing.
21 posted on 06/29/2023 9:39:19 AM PDT by adorno
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To: NohSpinZone

Talk about spoiled brats.


22 posted on 06/29/2023 9:40:11 AM PDT by antidemoncrat (AS )
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To: NohSpinZone
I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited....

[my daughter] says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.

That's a liberal for you.

Hate your guts, not invite you, then act offended when you didn't fork over big $ gift.

23 posted on 06/29/2023 9:40:48 AM PDT by simpson96
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To: NohSpinZone

In a world of Angry in Philadelphias, be an Uncle Dave!


24 posted on 06/29/2023 9:40:48 AM PDT by Mathews (I have faith Malachi is right!!! Any day now...)
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To: NohSpinZone

Yes! I’m not familiar with this Amy, but she gave the exact perfect response to this liberal family’s ridiculous behavior!


25 posted on 06/29/2023 9:40:54 AM PDT by Joann37
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To: NohSpinZone
How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?

I don't think it's Dave's petty behavior that's in play here, my dear. Someone is insufferably entitled and intolerant here, and it isn't Dave.

26 posted on 06/29/2023 9:41:19 AM PDT by Billthedrill
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To: gundog

Reap what you sow Mom. You can raise politically informed individuals but not in a pack.


27 posted on 06/29/2023 9:41:20 AM PDT by cnsmom
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To: NohSpinZone

The progressive mindset is to hate everything about conservatives with a white-hot passion, except their money, which they covet with a white-hot passion. This story is consistent with that.


28 posted on 06/29/2023 9:41:32 AM PDT by rightwingcrazy (;-,)
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To: NohSpinZone

These grifters come from the Juicy Smolliét School of Victimhood. Stay clear, “Dave,” for the rest of your life.
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“Friends are the family you choose.”
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29 posted on 06/29/2023 9:41:39 AM PDT by twister881
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To: NohSpinZone

[[I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding]]

Gee- what a nice note- instead ya shoulda scolded your idiot ‘progressive’ daughter for being such a freakin nancy, and for being hateful towards people with different opinions- but nope- you decided that a conservative at the wedding was too emotionally devastating- so now you can suck up the loss of a gift because of your idiotic ‘nice letter’ telling dave that you think he is the scum of the earth and ‘not wanted’


30 posted on 06/29/2023 9:42:02 AM PDT by Bob434
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To: adorno
Nobody is that stupid, not even the worst of the democrats.

You underestimate the sheer depths of stupidity and depravity today's Dimms are capable of reaching. This is a party where the majority seem to agree that men are women if they simply identify as such.

31 posted on 06/29/2023 9:43:01 AM PDT by NohSpinZone (First thing we do, let's kill all the lawyers)
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To: NohSpinZone
The Brother/Uncle should take the first step to reconcile with his brother and niece, by inviting them to lunch or dinner.

I would suggest Sushi as the food of chouce.

32 posted on 06/29/2023 9:43:48 AM PDT by Michael.SF. ( Biden-Fetterman in ‘24: It's a no brainer)
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To: NohSpinZone
I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.

There is no way to write a nice note saying what she did.

You essentially told him to eat dirt and die. You can not say that in a nice way much less in a very nice way.

This lady either needs to start or stop taking drugs.

33 posted on 06/29/2023 9:44:11 AM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Follow the money. Even if it leads you to someplace horrible it will still lead you to the truth.)
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To: NohSpinZone

“ I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.”

Bitch


34 posted on 06/29/2023 9:45:06 AM PDT by DesertRhino (Dogs are called man's best friend. Moslems hate dogs. Add it up..)
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To: NohSpinZone

OMG. Typical snotty, arrogant, entitled liberal. The bride would “feel unsafe” if a conservative was at her wedding. What does she think he would do? Beat her over the head with a MAGA hat? Liberals are just vile. I have lost all patience with them.


35 posted on 06/29/2023 9:45:12 AM PDT by Nea Wood (Screw diversity. Celebrate excellence. )
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To: NohSpinZone

Unsafe…


36 posted on 06/29/2023 9:45:52 AM PDT by DesertRhino (Dogs are called man's best friend. Moslems hate dogs. Add it up..)
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To: NohSpinZone

[[How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?]]

Wow! Typical liberal- always trying to run everyone else’s life! liberalism really is a mental disorder


37 posted on 06/29/2023 9:46:04 AM PDT by Bob434
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To: rlmorel

Sometimes the letters are just made up.


38 posted on 06/29/2023 9:46:52 AM PDT by x
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To: antidemoncrat

Stepchildren do this a LOT! They don’t want (usually) stepMOM to attend any of their functions but want their money/gifts just the same.


39 posted on 06/29/2023 9:47:09 AM PDT by AbolishCSEU (Amount of "child" support paid is inversely proportionate to mother's actual parenting of children)
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To: NohSpinZone

Liberals are insane narcissists.


40 posted on 06/29/2023 9:47:41 AM PDT by dragonblustar (They have conquered Satan by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony….. Revelation 12:11)
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