Perhaps she'll learn one of these days that every day is a gift.
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What kid wants to go to a wedding anyway.
And the fiance should run for the hills NOW. “MY BIG DAY.” Not “OUR big day.”
It’s the bride’s day not the child’s. She determines who is and is not there.
I see your point in posting them.
But....I am skeptical that the stories are real. IOW, fake but accurate.
The bride is right, but shouldn’t have put her friend in the wedding.
It’s not an unusual request to demand “No Children” at formal weddings. I’m with the bride on this one.
If the bridesmaid might just be somewhat preoccupied with her child and she cannot find an at home sitter - then she should back out.
I’m on the side of the bride on this. It’s one thing for the antics of a normal child that makes a wedding unique, like the flower girl who runs out of flowers that she is throwing or a kid that speaks up when he ought not, but somebody with autism can be absolutely disruptive if he’s revved up or upset.
The bridesmaid should either find a babysitter or, if she can’t afford it, have the bride pay for it. Or some other arrangement where somebody is watching the child.
The kid wouldn’t get anything out of it anyway. He wouldn’t likely even remember because it’s not relevant to him.
Reset your wedding, disallow all children not directly related to the Bride or Grooms family. Better yet, have a private ceremony, and quit thinking it is a good or smart thing to have “a destination wedding”. Keep it small, and have fun instead of the stress and cost of “YOUR BIG DAY”.
Assign 2 people to take the child out of the sanctuary during the ceremony. If the mother refuses, she is the problem.
In fact, my wife almost kept me from attending our wedding. She was afraid I'd ruin her big day by making a sarcastic remark at the reception about my new in-laws or not saying the vows correctly.
I came thisclose to having my younger brother stand-in as groom for my new wife as he was a bit sharper looking and knew when to keep his mouth shut..
She likely would have let me sneak into the bridal suite with her later that night but she really didn't want me at the ceremony as she feared I'd muck it up somehow.
Fortunately I didn't or at least I didn't think I screwed up that day. Except when I went to feed her the cake, I dropped the slice to the floor. Fortunately, I had the common sense to cut another slice out of the cake as opposed to picking the slice off the floor and trying to feed it to her anyway. The three second rule was definitely violated.
You’re an unusual fellow.
There is a vast array of behavior covered by the term autism.
Perhaps she'll learn one of these days that every day is a gift.
What is the groom’s take or did she ask ? 😂
If other kids are invited so is he. The bridesmaid needs to have someone along to care for him though. She has other responsibilities that day.
She may also want to take advantage of the opportunity to have a nice to herself.
We were in a hotel the other night. About 2 am there were lots of loud screams coming from the adjoining room. It was a child. At first I was worried then realized it was clearly a special needs kid who was clearly overwhelmed.
After an hour or so she stopped. Must have gotten exhausted. I felt bad for her parents.
Oh no! She says he has to go...go, go, Bridezilla! Ooooooooooh!
Doesn’t bother me. If it bothers other people, they can just skip past it. What’s the big deal?
I used to teach special needs children. Why would a parent even want to put their child in that environment??? Kid will be lit like a firework!
On the other hand, since we don't know the mother's personal situation, it's difficult to determine if she has relatives who would be able to care for the child. So it seems reasonable that this should have come up when the bride asked the mother to be a bridesmaid, not just before the wedding. It's not like you invite strangers to stand up at your wedding.
Asking your friend repeatedly to allow her autistic child to attend when she can’t give him any attention to mitigate his potential disaster probably means she never intended to leave him behind with any sitters and relied on rolling over her friend who was close enough to her to ask her to be bridesmaid. So manipulation. When you let manipulators succeed, you deserve what you get. So hope the bride can keep her spine in place and say no. Screaming children should never be part of any situation involving other people. If the parents can’t control them, throw out the children AND their parents.