I was fatally attracted to men with good looks, super-confidence and status - but they didn't make me happy: Dating coach tells single women it is time to ditch the addiction to alpha males and bag a beta if they want long-term love

UK Daily Mail ^ | March 19, 2023 | Mairi Macleod

[C19fan]

As a biologist, I know quite a bit about animal behaviour - I studied monkey mating strategies for my PhD - but I confess that I have made some poor choices when it comes to finding a mate of my own.

[Poser]

Mairi Macleod enters a bar. Bartender says, “Why the long face?”

[gundog]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b3ey8p8KGTM

[sit-rep]

She didn't like other women eye fkn the guy every time they went out. Sounds to like shes half insecure and the other half is pissed because she can't control the situation...

Getting along with males is easy... Just feed them and fk them and don't try to rule them. They'll love you till the end of time...

[PapaBear3625]

Ladies, your value is fleeting, what you can get away with at 20 isn’t going to be the same at 40. Don’t squander it being the town pincushion.

Wise words. The old mating strategy for women was "Get the most desirable man WHO IS WILLING TO COMMIT TO YOU by the age of 18-22".

Girls used to select their future husband in school, either high school or college, and get married upon graduation. There is a reason why June is a popular month for weddings.

Girls, you will NEVER AGAIN see a better selection of available and eligible men, than you see in college. Your selection pool shrinks every year after about 20.

Meanwhile, for men, their selection pool GROWS after 20 (since they are looking at younger women). Men become more confident and prosperous as their careers mature.

[dynachrome]

For men, your odds improve if you have a large bulge.

In your wallet.

[PapaBear3625]

I dare you to advance that claim on any tv talk show on the topic of "Sex Workers."

Men who are customers of "sex workers" are always sleazy, but the sex workers themselves can never be regarded as sleazy. At worst they are victims. Women will react badly at any attempt to "slut shame".

[aMorePerfectUnion]

—> The former have the ability to change their situation and dating status the latter can do absolutely nothing about it.

DeSantis has been wearing boots with 1.5 inch heels, so it’s possible…

[ConservativeMind]

I really don't relish getting a venereal disease from the lady who had sex with a guy who churned through women and left her, as one of likely many, pregnant.

There's some bad character going on, there, and her likely VD is just a symptom.

We have a few such horndogs on Free Republic. Nothing Christian about sleeping around and expecting women to “put out.”

[alexander_busek]

Countries with socially acceptible prostitution have some of the lowest sex crime rates. Is there a correlation perhaps?

Correlation does not equal causation.

But then you knew that!

Regards,

[PapaBear3625]

There are guys in this country that fall between “Alpha” and “nerd”. More than a few in fact.

In my youth I was a "nerdy alpha", as I was tall (6'3") but introverted.

[Navy Patriot]

LOL!

Good thing I wasn't drinking coffee, I'd be cleaning up for 20 minutes.

[ConservativeMind]

I can personally state some of those high grade “earners” cheated their way through college. It cost me a close friend, when I admitted it.

They don’t know anything useful, bit it got them their first decent paying job, where they had already learned to “fake it.”

[ronniesgal]

a few?! you’re too kind.

[Noumenon]

This guy has a channel that spells it out.

[aMorePerfectUnion]

—> For men, your odds improve if you have a large bulge. In your wallet.

Older man to much younger woman: “Do you mind the age difference?”

Her: “…the age of your wallet doesn’t matter to me at all!”

[Boardwalk]

Lol!

[cgbg]

“Attractive young women will reject any man below 5’8” tall no matter what other qualities they may possess. Older women will compromise.”

That is generally correct.

As a short young man I learned that the hard way.

They would always ignore me—at first.

But—I had the kind of personality that loved difficult challenges.

I learned many “tricks”. One was that I didn’t need to persuade “most women” to pay attention to me.

I only needed to persuade one.

I married a very attractive woman—and then women started paying attention to me—wondering how I did it.

;-)

[kjam22]

Red head. Always a no go.

[Red Badger]

I’ve run into a couple of those over the course of 30+ years in the industry.

They are usually braggarts and self promoters that can’t actually do their jobs but rely on others for ‘help’
and will eventually fail...............

[Gay State Conservative]

I've never been an "alpha". In '69 the Army wanted me to go to OCS but I said "no way"...for two reasons. One was I knew (or assumed) that the life expectancy of a 2LT in Vietnam was about a week and the other was I seriously doubted that I'd be an effective 'leader".

As for "nerd"...I don't qualify today. Yes,I enjoyed taking things apart when I was a kid and I like the youtube channel of the guy who fixes electronic devices...Playstations,etc,etc. But I've never had a pocket protector. ;-)