I was fatally attracted to men with good looks, super-confidence and status - but they didn't make me happy: Dating coach tells single women it is time to ditch the addiction to alpha males and bag a beta if they want long-term love

UK Daily Mail ^ | March 19, 2023 | Mairi Macleod

[C19fan]

As a biologist, I know quite a bit about animal behaviour - I studied monkey mating strategies for my PhD - but I confess that I have made some poor choices when it comes to finding a mate of my own.

[one guy in new jersey]

Lazy eye.

[TheWriterTX]

Amen!

Truly godly men are keepers and make amazing husbands. I’m married to one.

Unfortunately, not a lot of young women today are worthy of them.

[central_va]

In then USA prostitution is universally regared as some kind of weird aberrant behavior. It shouldn’t be that way.

[PapaBear3625]

All I see is “me”, “my needs and wants”, etc. No one without a servants heart is going to find any benefit or fulfillment in a long-term relationship.

I would define "love" as a willingness to make an effort to enhance the happiness and well-being of the loved one.

For a successful marriage, do not marry someone because you are sure you love her. Marry because you are confident SHE love YOU.

[GaryCrow]

In other words. she’s a worn out old promiscuous bag who 30 years ago had the ability to treat most men like crap and still roll in the hay with a high value man. Now she’s lamenting that she no longer has that ability. She did however get lucky that she found someone who would take her on, someone that her younger self would have rejected.

Ladies, your value is fleeting, what you can get away with at 20 isn’t going to be the same at 40. Don’t squander it being the town pincushion.

[NorthMountain]

There’s a huge difference between an alpha male and an alpha hotel.

[alexander_busek]

You present a very good point, AND you point out an opportunity to gather statistics from the VIEWERS of dating websites.

This phenomenon has already been studied to death by statisticians.

Female hypergamy is practically a given nowadays.

Regards,

[central_va]

A slut is defined as a girl that will F everyone in town but you.

[alexander_busek]

In then USA prostitution is universally regared as some kind of weird aberrant behavior. It shouldn’t be that way.

I dare you to advance that claim on any tv talk show on the topic of "Sex Workers."

Sex work is work, too, after all! It is empowering to women!

/mordant sarcasm

Regards,

[fidelis]

Attractive young women will reject any man below 5’8” tall no matter what other qualities they may possess.

In my experience, that isn't true. Some will but many won't. Women do, however, get turned off by guys who try to overcompensate or who try too hard.

[central_va]

Countries with socially acceptible prostitution have some of the lowest sex crime rates. Is there a correlation perhaps?

[Gay State Conservative]

There are guys in this country that fall between “Alpha” and “nerd”. More than a few in fact.

[fuzzylogic]

When you know someone went to the University of Michigan and makes statements like “climate change is the greatest challenge of our time!”, you know they’ve swallowed the cool aid. Another time I heard, “my younger brother says I’m not progressive enough - but I am!” - as though it can _only_ be a good thing.

It’s early days but I’m being very careful. Manager training at my last employer had a quiz that actually asked if millennials are more sensitive and temperamental than prior generations. I assumed they didn’t want some non-woke manager (it was full of DEI messaging) so I answered “no”, only to be informed that “yes, they are - studies have shown”. Much to my surprise.

[central_va]

You are not a guy right? You have no clue.

[mad_as_he$$]

Not that hot. Crazy? Probably a 7-8 and not in a good way.

[central_va]

acceptible = acceptable

[TheWriterTX]

Not all women.

My son is 5’6”, NCCAH stunted his growth and made him sterile. He has Asbergers, too.

Deck stacked against him.

Even he managed to find a very pretty young lady who thinks he hung the moon. All the Chads passed her by. He got her, I showed her how to let her light shine, and viola, now she turns heads.

Too bad, Chads. She’s firmly on his arm. They may have eyes for her but she only has eyes for him.

[central_va]

A 1 in a million “one off” is not a trend.

[Red Badger]

[Rappini]

This post is a real hoot. My marriage was arranged and this year it will be 60 years together, my wife was a beauty queen back in the day, but I have to say I’m very lucky.