Posted on 10/04/2022 5:37:01 AM PDT by redguyinabluestate
Sara was fed up. The New York City social worker, who declined to give her last name, had had countless dates cancel on her at the last minute. So, when a man she met on an app recently pulled out of their date an hour beforehand, she agreed to reschedule with one caveat: He would Venmo her a $50 deposit.
“I’m just done with my time and energy being wasted,” Sara told The Post. “In almost every other scenario, when someone books a time of their day dedicated to you, they have a no-show policy or security deposit.”
The man agreed to the terms and sent her the money. They met up for a drink on a Monday night date in Hell’s Kitchen, and he was fully engaged the entire time, paying for their cocktails and offering to buy them food to share.
Sara’s female friends cheered her brazen move, while male friends told her it was “nuts.” Still, she has no regrets. “I think it makes sense,” she said of the arrangement.
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“For me it’s a way to just be like, ‘You’re a d-bag, here’s the monetary value of my time you wasted,'” Martha Duke, 38, told The Post.
Duke said she’s sent around six Venmo requests — ranging from $1,500 to $3,000, depending on their financial situation — over the years to different men she’s dated. She listed infidelity, secret marriages and hiding having multiple sexual partners from her as some of the reasons for the charges.
Putting a monetary value on caddish conduct helps men to better understand the error of their ways, Duke said, adding that she puts the phrase “the d-bag tax” in all her Venmo requests.
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can men do the same thing??
I think she is just a hooker. Someone who asks for a $50 deposit is silly. If I could not make it, $50 dollars would not enter the equation. But I would also never be a no-show unless I simply forgot the date.
However, the $3,000 deposit is a mistress plain and simple. An eligible single 30 year old guy has his pick. He would not pay a girl unless he is not so eligible. Maybe he is married.
Many women think they’re special, and they aren’t.
Every girl has a hoo-hah.
And as the p-odometer adds mileage, and she gets older, it’s worth less and less.
Next thing you know, no man wants you, you’re out of eggs, and you drink boxed wine and have 11 cats.
I really miss the Chateau Hartiste!
This has been going on in the far east for years. It’s called “compensated dating”. Usually it’s guys paying for dates with younger women and paying a premium if she agrees to sex.
I think I understand the issue. But some dude wants to pay (and unlucky enough to pay in a big way), they can go for it.
The Wall is undefeated.
How about the men charge for medical expenses treating blue balls ?
LMAO!! Good one!
Cheaper than a divorce.
Had something to do with the term, “the oldest profession”, if I recall.
Women like Sara are going to lead lonely lives until they meet some cuck, pajama boy, skinny jean wearing Beta that will put up her nonsense.
Well, let me retort.
Did she refund his deposit, seeing as he showed up and all?
It's only haggling about the amount at this point.
Dating sure has changed since the late 1970s. If I stood a girl up on a date back then, I'd likely get a bloody lip from her big brother.
Not much detail provided for the situations, but those sound much less defensible.
A lot of them do that. But they should never get married in the first place if they do not believe in the institution. We should establish something more appropriate for this. Civil unions. Leave marriage to churches. Most Americans are secular so civil unions would apply to them. The state should only recognize civil unions. Just my two cents.
seems reasonable......... anyone who would date a NY woman is most likely a d-bag, and deserves to be fleeced
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