Posted on 06/11/2022 6:19:56 PM PDT by nickcarraway
You might think that having the whole bed to yourself would leave you feeling more refreshed in the morning than sleeping with someone who might toss, turn or snore.
Yet, a new study suggests that adults who share their beds with a partner have less severe insomnia, less fatigue and more sleep time. They also report being more satisfied with their lives and relationships, as well as having lower levels of stress, depression and anxiety.
"Even though you're sleeping next to someone who may snore and roll around, it did something that was just beneficial," said Michael Grandner, director of the Sleep and Health Research Program at the University of Arizona in Tucson, and senior author of the study.
"What's interesting, it's not just that someone was there because when we asked the question about a child, the answers were very different," he added.
Study participants who slept with their child most nights reported more insomnia, more stress and worse mental well-being the day after.
"Is it because the reason the child's in the bed is because things are stressful? Is it because children move around more during the night or are more likely to kick you? Who knows?" Grandner said.
For the study, researchers used data from 1,007 working-age adults in Pennsylvania.
The investigators found that people who slept with an adult partner fell asleep faster, stayed asleep longer and had less risk of sleep apnea. Those who slept in the same bed as their child had higher odds for sleep apnea, more severe insomnia and less control over their sleep.
The findings are contrary to those from a lab setting that found people sleeping together had more shallow slumber and that a partner's movements tended to cause an arousal in the brain.
"But when you asked the people, they felt it was more positive," Grandner said. "And, so, this backs that up, that it's greater than the sum of its parts."
Reasons for the new findings are speculative, but Grandner suggested that safety or socialization may be at their root. Throughout most of history, for example, humans tended to sleep in groups around the fire. It may be that on some level, people simply feel safer when another adult is in the bed.
"There might be some evolutionary advantage that the humans have benefited from for most of our existence, but we don't really take advantage of any more because we're not all camping around the fire, seeing if a predator's going to wander into our camp, but maybe that machinery is still there and there's a drive toward not being alone when we're vulnerable and asleep," Grandner said.
"I mean, is this proven? No, but it's an idea."
It could also be that people who are more depressed and anxious tend to sleep alone because of those challenges, he added.
This could also vary by the person. If someone's partner causes a person to feel stress, they may feel more vulnerable in bed.
"That's hard to disentangle in a study like this, but at least what this study does, it shows that there's a connection, we can start making guesses as to what direction it goes in, and then we can start exploring them," Grandner said.
The findings were recently published online in the journal Sleep and were presented Sunday at a meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies, held in Charlotte, N.C.
Dr. Rafael Pelayo, a clinical professor in sleep medicine at Stanford University in California, said the findings were consistent with his own observations.
Pelayo, who was not involved in the study, also noted the history of sleeping in groups as a way to stay safe from predators. No one actually sleeps all through the night, he said, noting that people tend to wake at 90-minute intervals, very briefly, throughout the night.
Sleeping is a learned behavior, Pelayo said, which is why couples tend to choose a side of the bed and not change that. One person tends to sleep more lightly and one more deeply; being compatible in sleep, not just while awake, is important, he said.
Sleeping is an intimate experience because it requires spending hours together with your guard down, Pelayo said.
"Over time, as you build that trust, then you'll sleep better," he said. "And you have many patients who tell you, and people in general, that they don't sleep as well when their partner is away."
Grandner said future research could investigate whether people sleep better or worse if they share a room but not a bed, as in a new trend that has people sleeping in two twins instead of together on one king-sized mattress where they would be more affected by someone else's movement.
"The next steps are to just understand how do we use this information to actually make change and recommend changes for people?" he said.
More information
The Sleep Foundation has tips for better sleep. SOURCES: Michael Grandner, PhD, director, sleep and health research, University of Arizona College of Medicine, Tucson; Rafael Pelayo, MD, clinical professor, psychiatry and behavioral sciences -- sleep medicine, Stanford University, Stanford, Calif., and author, "How to Sleep: The New Science-Based Solutions for Sleeping Through the Night"; Sleep, May 25, 2022, online; presentation, Associated Professional Sleep Societies, Charlotte, N.C., June 5, 2022
especially if your partner snores like a chainsaw
Healthy couples that sleep well are more likely to sleep together.
Mebbe it’s the oxytocin from sex?
I am here, he is here, we are dry, safe and warm.
Happy dreams await.
I’m an over-the-road trucker. My 5 feet tall, 90 pound wife
completely dominates our queen size water bed. I’m lucky to
have a place to sleep whenever I’m home!
My husband sleeps better when I sleep downstairs.
I snore so loud, I wake myself up!
Depends on the partner - lots of ‘variables’.
I feel like this subject was over analyzed. People sleep together if all is well in the relationship AND they can otherwise tolerate the other persons sleep manners. As just one example, if one person rips chainsaws every night with their snoring, the other person is unlikely to sleep well. Sleep where you need to sleep to actually sleep, that’s all I need to know.
Can't sleep without it.
How about those of us that also share the bed with a cat or two, usually one of which is between us?
I think in this case chicken and egg apply. Perhaps people who rest better and have less insomnia are better able to tolerate a bed mate than do people who have less settled sleep.
She'd sometimes have to wake me up to help her finish before she could sleep. Those were the days!
” a partner’s movements tended to cause an arousal in the brain”
Hmmm, that depends.
For younger people, maybe, but when nightly sex becomes second over a good night’s sleep, you get along much better the next day. ;-)
Aging causes lots of turning and tossing, growling, peeing. Lots of interruptions, so the less the other sleeper feels/ knows, the better. Married 65 years. Best sleep was when we got adjustable beds 1 foot apart. Easy to put sheets on, unlike full adjustable beds.
Just wish we had looked around more and got a hospital type. Never slept in an ‘uncomfortable’ hospital bed. And $5,000 apiece was a bad deal. About a year earlier I came home from the hospital after having a quintuple by-pass and had to sleep setting up in a adjustable chair in the living room, for breathing purposes and we finally had enough and jumped to quick. So check those beds and compare to a hospital type that bends with your body. ;-)
Wow they are really trying to sell marriage to men any way they can.
I like the whole bed, not just a quarter of it.
I made a change in 2001, ending my farming career, and becoming an OTR trucker (although I hauled local construction during summers). The first two winters, of 01-02 and 02-03, my wife got used to having the bed to herself at least 5 nights a week. Then construction would pick up and she had me all week.
But when I went year around OTR in 08 and 09, she got used to not having my snore around and insisted that if I was going to be sleeping, it would be in the spare bedroom. I think my snoring got worse OTR since she wasn’t there to tell me to roll over, lol.
**I like the whole bed, not just a quarter of it.**
I agree. I was used to having the bed to myself before wedding night. 44 yrs later, it’s a sometime thing now. If I snore loud enough, I am sweetly told to go the the spare bedroom, where I do sleep quite well. She will snore, but thats very rare.
Unless your partner regularly goes about clear cutting Superior National in their sleep.
Not restful at all.
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