Posted on 02/15/2022 12:14:31 PM PST by nickcarraway
The results were mixed.
One morning last summer, I woke up and announced, to no one in particular: “I choose to be happy today!” Next I journaled about the things I was grateful for and tried to think more positively about my enemies and myself. When someone later criticized me on Twitter, I suppressed my rage and tried to sympathize with my hater. Then, to loosen up and expand my social skills, I headed to an improv class.
I was midway through an experiment—sample size: 1—to see whether I could change my personality. Because these activities were supposed to make me happier, I approached them with the desperate hope of a supplicant kneeling at a shrine.
Psychologists say that personality is made up of five traits: extroversion, or how sociable you are; conscientiousness, or how self-disciplined and organized you are; agreeableness, or how warm and empathetic you are; openness, or how receptive you are to new ideas and activities; and neuroticism, or how depressed or anxious you are. People tend to be happier and healthier when they score higher on the first four traits and lower on neuroticism. I’m pretty open and conscientious, but I’m low on extroversion, middling on agreeableness, and off the charts on neuroticism.
Researching the science of personality, I learned that it was possible to deliberately mold these five traits, to an extent, by adopting certain behaviors. I began wondering whether the tactics of personality change could work on me.
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Martini joke...
Two friends were riding home from work when they spotted
two dogs having sex in the front yard of a house. One said
to the other that he’d love to have his wife like that.
the second guy said to try some martinis, as that always
worked for his wife.
The next week they were on their way home again when they
passed the same yard and the second guy asked the first one
about how it turned out. the first guy said it worked but
was too expensive. the second fellow said Why it only takes
two or three for his wife at which the first guy said...
Heck, it took twelve just to get his wife naked on the
front lawn...!
shoulda started by pulling her head out of her forth point of contact...
LOL!
Right. The Bible says the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
There is lots very wrong going on. We all see it. Anger wastes your energy though. Use your energy for positive change. There is lots of good you can do.
We women tend to avoid conflict. I’d rather take a few hits than make someone mad.
Nobody can make you angry but yourself.................
So what your saying is....
Yes, that’s the corollary. Only thing is, my sister isn’t happy when she’s bitching. She’s still miserable. She just wants company in her hell, and I refuse to go there. She always apologizes later, and I try to tell her to let it go, because that’s what I do. If I keep regurgitating the unpleasant thoughts, they hover around longer. It’s toxic.
First and best thing you can do to feel better. Throw out your television.
Sounds like one of my sisters.
She lives in a world of absolutes. Black and white , all or nothing and no in between.
I haven’t spoken to her in six years because I voted for Trump.
“He’s a racist! she claimed.
I knew Zappa, went to his house lots of times, he was a real nice guy, I liked him
There you go, yes.
Men are more independent, aggressive, and risk takers.
“Fortis Fortuna Adiuvat”
My sister and I still talk every day. Well, we text. We try not to talk about politics or religion. Sometimes it creeps in anyway. Nothing I say will change her mind. I guess that’s fair, because she can’t change mine either.
The second thing is to not participate on social media.
“Seriously, I need to dial back on my constant anger, which cannot be good for my overall well-being. But maybe the lesson here is that it will not be possible.”
Yes, it’s possible. You have nothing to lose but your anger, go for it my FRiend! The fact that you realize it means you are already past the hardest step. Make up a short positive sentence that says you have already accomplished what you want to do. “I radiate serenity and peace to all I meet” is an example.
Here’s a famous one: “In adversity, I look for the seed of an equivalent benefit, being always thankful for the lessons I am learning.”
Rock. On.
You probably survive and do well because you are good at what you do - as opposed to so many in 'competitive' fields who survive and progress despite incompetence - because they are aggressive, self-promoting, and willing to do whatever it takes to promote themselves (i.e. lacking ethical boundaries). Think Hillary.
Remember, the cream doesn't generally rise to the top. Feces floats.
You were lucky to hang with such a creative mind, I’m jealous!
I think we always have a choice. Maybe you are angry, but you don’t have to be focused on the stuff that makes you angry all the time. Instead, think of a couple of things that bring you some sort of happiness. I like to garden, cook, and watch nature. Also music tends to lift my spirits. So when I get upset, those are the activities I try to immerse myself in.
Oh look, another chick writing boring nonsense about herself. I’m so special and interesting. Blah, blah, blah...
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