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In my youth I constantly reiterated that I wanted to be a boy. This mostly centered around my fascination with A) motorcycles B) firearms and C) freedom. I didn’t ever want to squeeze girls, although, like most people, I don’t mind the sight of a gorgeous gal at all. There’s something uplifting about it, as long as it’s not one of the K4rdash1ans.

I’m really, really glad that this wasn’t going on when I was a kid. Being female is not exactly a picnic, but there are lots of benefits.

Someone could easily have talked me into something like this when I was little, though.

Jesus: I would have talked you out of it, though.

Me: Oh, come on! Surely you have more important things to worry about!

JC: Check your pants.

You know you're in the Upside Down when your views on trans children are more in syncs with John Waters than the current Administration.

Have you ever done drag? I was only in drag once, and that was as the Wicked Witch at a birthday party when I was 8 years old. That ended my drag career. You have to be so careful of what you say. My friend told me this story, “You know, every gay man once tried on their mother’s shoes.” You did it once; you never did it again. But now, if you have a very liberal mother and they catch you, you have sexual reassignment lessons at 8 years old. And you might not really wanna do that.

Scarlett, you have described (IMHO) exactly what occurs with many of the kids who feel like they were born into the wrong body or are a homosexual. For example, if you define being gay to a young child as “liking people in your own gender” then yes... so many kids are going to think they are gay. during elementary school and middle school (and even into high school), I thought boys were really gross (because to be honest, they were). Boys hung out with other boys because girls were (yucky, different, etc). How many girls who like sports, motorcycles, fishing, etc.. would be told they may not be straight because of their interests? With society defining women/girls with examples of high gloss, surgically enhanced, morally bankrupt female images... lots more will choose not to define themselves in that light.

I was much the same, except I am also attracted to women. Married to a man, though. It’ll be 13 years this June.

Teens, especially girls, going through puberty always hate their bodies for one reason or another, and some more than others. I was a very heavy girl growing up thanks to renal insufficiency that wasn’t discovered until 16, so I wore boys’ clothes, played with boys’ toys, played video games (I was born in the late 80’s) like DOOM and Quake (and their successor shooters), and almost all of my closest friends were boys. Guys still make up 90% of my friend pool.

Even when I was dating in high school, I was a tomboy. My ex didn’t mind. We dated from 14-21. Then when all of the weight came off, I feminized quickly when it came to my appearance. I had confidence, and I think that’s where a lot of this gender confusion comes from. Girls just encountering puberty want to go back to a more asexual past and are confused into thinking they can be boys. Anything to not be a girl.

Yes, being a woman has downsides. My health problems caused havoc on my system, with my longest cycle lasting sixteen straight months. I finally had to have a hysterectomy at about 29. Before that it was a tubal at 19, thanks to said health problems. I never wanted to have to make the decision between my life and a child’s.

But I would never want to permanently alter my body to be, “male.” If I were a teen now, I know I’d fall for this. I would like to think I wouldn’t, but 15 and under me was so desperate to not be heavy that I would have done anything.