Posted on 12/15/2021 6:02:10 PM PST by conservatism_IS_compassion
That sounds exactly how my marriage went.
I came up with the agreement that we would share the chores. I do half and she do half, alternating between the chores.
After the marriage, I did all of the chores (and cooking) while she went out and cheated.
Her decision.
She’s an adult.
I have found that communication is far less a problem than willingness.
When it’s a big issue and both parties agree it’s a big issue, you can see her side and she can see your side, you just don’t agree. One of you has to back down, submit.
Biblically, men are called to be the first one to model this submission behavior. But it is being pushed by our feminized churches that men are supposed to ALWAYS submit in these kinds of disagreements. Total, complete nonsense.
It’s like a pair of gears that aren’t meshing, they’re grinding, and one prong of the gear needs to be pulled back and cut away. The gears will start meshing again. When they grind again, you don’t chip off a rung from the same gear, you chip it off the other one, alternating back & forth until the 2 gears mesh. Otherwise you have major slippage.
The issue is willingness, and stubbornness. Not communication.
Haha, that was (retro) funny. I’m going to start singing that around the house.
Women the secret? DON’T GET FAT.
The trick is to buy a quality rig that self levels for even weight distribution on both the front and rear wheels of the tow vehicle and also incorporates an anti sway system for wind gusts.
...wait...never mind ::Emily Patella voice::
It’s always 100% each.
Full effort, full commitment.
HOWEVER...sometimes one person’s 100% is not at great as the other’s.
I view it as each is a vessel which is completely full. Maybe one day I’m a 16oz glass, completely full and that same day she can only be a thimble, but she’s completely full also. Both always full of commitment, but life circumstances are such that the size of the vessel carrying capacity can change. Don’t be a half full vessel. Half full vessels say things like; “I don’t care” and “I’m going to do what I want anyway” =o/
Just always be a full vessel.
...that is all
LOL, I had to look “Wingmam”! Thing is too...guys are more attracted to women who understand this dynamic...:)
Communication is important, but how and how well you communicate is something that changes with time.
My premise is that things that change over time are not "foundational".
” Reducing it to satisfying men’s bodily functions is simply using them and women are not so stupid as to not see that.”
I admit it is a crass over-simplification. But the POINT is that if a woman isn’t doing those two things then everything ELSE she does will still not make for a happy marriage. You can wash and wax your car all day long but if you don’t put in oil and gas it will never move. Some things are foundational.
Bitchy Kitty
Kinda Pretty
Perhaps I’ll go & get a cat
and then I’ll go & name it that
I think that is pretty witty
Dang Kev,
You brought it Home!
Sally was driving home from one of her business trips, in Northern Arizona, when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road.
As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride.
With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car.
Resuming the journey, Sally tried – in vain – to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman.
The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at everything she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a brown bag on the seat next to Sally.
“What in bag?” asked the old woman.
Sally looked down at the brown bag and said: “It’s a bottle of wine
I got it for my husband.”
The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two
Then, speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said: “Good trade…”
Congratulations to you. Best wishes!
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