I have found that communication is far less a problem than willingness.
When it’s a big issue and both parties agree it’s a big issue, you can see her side and she can see your side, you just don’t agree. One of you has to back down, submit.
Biblically, men are called to be the first one to model this submission behavior. But it is being pushed by our feminized churches that men are supposed to ALWAYS submit in these kinds of disagreements. Total, complete nonsense.
It’s like a pair of gears that aren’t meshing, they’re grinding, and one prong of the gear needs to be pulled back and cut away. The gears will start meshing again. When they grind again, you don’t chip off a rung from the same gear, you chip it off the other one, alternating back & forth until the 2 gears mesh. Otherwise you have major slippage.
The issue is willingness, and stubbornness. Not communication.