Skip to comments.Correct Grammar: Should I use "you and me" or "you and I"?
Posted on 12/12/2021 8:22:12 PM PST by SeekAndFind
Whether to use I or me depends on whether the phrase is the subject of the sentence or the object of the sentence. I is a subject pronoun, and the subject is the person or thing doing the action as in "I went to the store." Me is an object pronoun, and the object is the person or thing the action happens to as in "Alex liked me." Use you and I when it is the subject of the sentence; use you and me when it is the object of the sentence. Here are some example sentences with you and I as the subject, doing the action:
In the sentences above, you and I are the people doing the actions. Here are some example sentences with you and me as the object, receiving the action:
The rules above are what you should use in formal writing, but they are often broken in speech. Some people think you and I is more formal or educated sounding and you and me is more conversational or casual, so it's not unusual to hear someone say "He gave it to you and I" if they are trying to sound very formal, or "You and me should go to the store" if they are speaking very casually.
I hope this helps.
Thank you, from me.
Ask Slow Joe...
To determine whether to use I or me,
drop the other part of the pair, ie “you and”, or “She and”, examples,
and say the sentence
if it makes sense and sounds right you have the right one
“You and (?) go to the fair.”
Drop the “You and”
and say the sentence
I go to the fair is correct, Me go to the fair isn’t
You and I go to the fair, is the correct grammar.
For combinatory prepositions (and, or, etc) the form to use is the one as if it stood alone. “I liked the music … Harold and I liked the music.” “The food tasted good to me … The food tasted good to Sue but not to me.”
It’s easier this way and always correct, too.
I clinch my jaw every time I hear someone on TV or radio misuse case.
I thought it was a relatively new ‘acceptable’ error. However, I recently heard it is an early 90s TV drama.
Script editing apparently does not happen much, but wokeness sure will not let one misuse another’s pronoun preference (whatever the h’ll that is).
I frequently hear people use ‘myself’ when they should use ‘me’. Drives me up a wall.
Drop the "you and" out and see if it sounds right.
He and I danced.
He and me danced.
He danced with you and me.
He danced with me.
He danced with you and I.
He danced with I.
more educated sounding? or just common sense
use I or me when it can stand alone.
You and I will walk to the store to buy candy for you and me.
in the above, I will walk to the store to buy candy for me (or you), makes sense. Me will walk to the store to buy candy for me (or you), sounds stupid.
You and I should know better.
Grammar is important to you and me.
Is this new to you?
It is not new to me.
But...I wanna talk about ME
Whether to use I or me depends on whether the phrase is the subject of the sentence or the object of the sentence.This answer is not wrong, but it is incomplete because it doesn't take into account the fact that prepositions also take pronouns in the objective case. For example, since the word 'between' is a preposition, it is incorrect to say, 'between you and I'; it is correct to say 'between you and me."
Likewise in Harold watched you and me. drop the you and see how it sounds. Harold watched me sounds correct while Harold watched I obviously is not correct, therefore it's Harold watched you and me, not Harold watched you and I
That's just the way I keep it straight in my admittedly limited vocabulary mind.
Even more fun: Please accept John and I's apology.
That's what I tell folks. The worst was a boss who would say things like "Me and her went to the mall." Wrong on both counts. Me went to the mall. Her went to the mall.
Some people think you and I is more formal or educated sounding and you and me is more conversational or casual, so it’s not unusual to hear someone say “He gave it to you and I” if they are trying to sound very formal, or “You and me should go to the store” if they are speaking very casually.
It sounds more educated and formal to use incorrect grammar?
Take away the “You and”.. then remake the sentence. There lies your answer.
(You and I are going shopping. -> I am going shopping.)
(Dad is mad at you and me. -> Dad is mad at me.)
Who and whom confuse me :P
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