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A friend’s party falls on the anniversary of 9/11. It feels so wrong to me (Advice column advice = ultra barf alert)
Boston Globe via MSN ^ | September 8, 2021 | Robin Abrahams

Posted on 09/08/2021 10:25:59 AM PDT by DoodleBob

The 20th anniversary of 9/11 is a solemn event for me. A friend invited me to his birthday celebration on that day. It would be nice to see him and raise a glass, but I think about that day and the devastating loss and I’m in tears. ...I’m shocked that anyone would celebrate anything on this day and I fear my attitude would be construed as self-righteous.

Anonymous / Boston

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Speaking of happy news — there isn’t much these days, is there? I’m trying to grasp the death toll of COVID-19, currently more than 200 times that of 9/11. Flight attendants still put their lives on the line, and images of bodies falling from planes in Kabul are fresh in my mind. No terrorist plane hit the Surfside condominium — that building’s residents were crushed to death due to alleged neglect, incompetence, and denial. This is why I, writing this before the anniversary, expect to be in tears on 9/11, reflecting less on the events of that day than about everything that has transpired since.

If I observe it as a day of mourning, that is. There are so many such days now, global and national and personal. Everyone is experiencing some form of trauma, everyone is grieving something, and grief is freaky like a tornado. It shows up unexpectedly and puts things in very weird places. Sometimes grief allows joy into a place joy doesn’t normally go, a butterfly in the morgue.

So let’s not judge what other people need to do and when they need to do it, only seek your own level. If you need to mourn, find the mourners or call them to you. If you need to rejoice, do the same. And let’s all take this reminder into the holiday season.

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To: DoodleBob

I understand is is a solemn day, but...life happens too.

I don’t think there is anything at all disrespectful about celebrating on a day like that, unless you have a direct connection to it, and...even then. If your child was born on that day, are you going to never celebrate their birthday?

This person needs help. And I am not saying this to whack what appears to be a liberal snowflake. I mean it. This person needs to talk to another person and step away from the news, the media, the television, and the Internet.

They are overwhelmed. They have to learn how to deal with it.

Sure, the Covid death toll may be 200x the 9/11 death toll, but...what the Hell? Annual car deaths are 10x as many.

Cardiovascular deaths were 230x as many.

At some point...you just have to live.

This national victimhood mentality where the flag goes to half mast when anyone dies is just stupid. We got over Pearl Harbor. We should get over 9/11. it doesn’t mean in any way we forget it (and we NEVER should) but we can’t rend our clothes and cover ourselves in ashes each year on the anniversary of it. We have to get over it.

This person might be better served by helping to elect people who might make a 9/11 LESS likely to happen, rather than MORE likely, which is what I suspect the person voted for and what we have now.


21 posted on 09/08/2021 10:49:17 AM PDT by rlmorel (Leftists are The Droplet of Sewage in a gallon of ultra-pure clean water.)
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To: DoodleBob
I fear my attitude would be construed as self-righteous.

Nope, they'll think you are an idiot and they will be glad you didn't come.

22 posted on 09/08/2021 10:51:09 AM PDT by Sans-Culotte (11/3-11/4/2020 - The USA became a banana republic.)
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To: DaiHuy
Does he feel the same about Pearl Harbor.

How about Good Friday?

23 posted on 09/08/2021 10:57:10 AM PDT by KosmicKitty (i am not responsible for gremlins attacking this tagline)
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To: proud American in Canada
No offense taken.

To be clear, Sept 11 shouldn't NOT be a celebration day for birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

But the smug attitude of the advice columnist, basically saying 9/11 is a relative nothing burger vs the condo collapse, Kabul, COVID19, etc., is utter garbage.

24 posted on 09/08/2021 10:57:58 AM PDT by DoodleBob (Gravity's waiting period is about 9.8 m/s^2)
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To: TianaHighrider

A birthday party or a baby shower are celebrations of life and a perfect remedy to a day of death.


25 posted on 09/08/2021 10:58:41 AM PDT by seowulf (Civilization begins with order, grows with liberty, and dies with chaos...Will Durant)
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To: DoodleBob

I would blame the terrorists for planning their attack on the day of my birthday........How dare they!


26 posted on 09/08/2021 11:00:50 AM PDT by Hot Tabasco (Without potatoes, life has no meaning......)
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To: DoodleBob

So do we stop celebrating on Dec.7th as well, or is that so yesterday?


27 posted on 09/08/2021 11:14:29 AM PDT by SkyDancer (How Can I Ask For Forgiveness If I Won't Forgive Others?)
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To: PghBaldy; DoodleBob

Sep 11 is my birthday also. I’m not planning a party, but will indulge in an extra glass of Scotch that evening. ;-)


28 posted on 09/08/2021 11:16:02 AM PDT by ken in texas
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To: DoodleBob

My lifelong buddys birthday falls on 911. Its easy to mourn that day and still enjoy life for gods sake. We will party, drink and raise a glass to the folks who died that day like we always do.


29 posted on 09/08/2021 11:17:22 AM PDT by MrRelevant
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To: SkyDancer
So do we stop celebrating on Dec.7th as well, or is that so yesterday?

Never thought of Dec 7th as a day to celebrate. Commemorate, of course, but I wouldn't "celebrate" it.

30 posted on 09/08/2021 11:20:20 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: DoodleBob
Note to the angsty chick: Sit down and watch Mrs. Miniver, sweetie.
31 posted on 09/08/2021 11:23:06 AM PDT by mewzilla (Those aren't masks. They're muzzles. )
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To: dfwgator

So why can’t those folks celebrate if they want? What’s the difference between 12/7 and 9/11?


32 posted on 09/08/2021 11:27:24 AM PDT by SkyDancer (How Can I Ask For Forgiveness If I Won't Forgive Others?)
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To: SkyDancer

How do you mean “celebrate”?


33 posted on 09/08/2021 11:27:46 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: dfwgator

It’s those folks that want to celebrate an event of their on 9/11 - my take is: then why not have no celebrations at all on 13/9? My dad’s b’day is on 9/11 - should we postpone it to another date? (we never had).


34 posted on 09/08/2021 11:31:10 AM PDT by SkyDancer (How Can I Ask For Forgiveness If I Won't Forgive Others?)
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To: DoodleBob

Reads like something written by a “menstruating person.”


35 posted on 09/08/2021 11:35:08 AM PDT by BenLurkin (The above is not a statement of fact. It is either opinion, or satire. Or both.)
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To: Bruce Campbells Chin

My Son and Daughter inlaw’s baby shower is Saturday and then we’re off to see the Black Crowes.

Yes I’ll never forget 9/11 but LIFE goes on.


36 posted on 09/08/2021 11:40:12 AM PDT by Harpotoo (Being a socialist is a lot easier than having to WORK like the rest of US:-))
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To: DoodleBob

I see nothing wrong with having a party on 9/11 or any other day. I do see something very wrong with building a mosque near ground zero (opposed by Trump, favored by biden) and with making muzzies the latest and greatest victim group, entitled to the privileges that a victim group could want.


37 posted on 09/08/2021 11:43:14 AM PDT by I want the USA back (There's nothing in the Constitution that allows the government to become fascist. )
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To: Bruce Campbells Chin

Personally I never mourn for the dead. I celebrate their lives and I think those people should have a 9/11 party and celebrate the lives all those people lived, and celebrate the “Lets roll” attitude from that day; an attitude that seems to be missing in America these days.


38 posted on 09/08/2021 12:24:16 PM PDT by fatman6502002 ((The Team The Team The Team - Bo Schembechler circa 1969))
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To: DoodleBob

Cannot disagee with you, FRiend.

September 11th is a sacred day that we will all remember for the rest of our lives.

The condo collapse was very bad. But it did not measure up to the loss of lives on September 11.

We all remember where we where when we heard the news. And we will never forget


39 posted on 09/08/2021 4:08:23 PM PDT by proud American in Canada ("Fear is a reaction; Courage is a decision." Winston Churchill)
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To: seowulf

💯👍


40 posted on 09/08/2021 5:47:01 PM PDT by TianaHighrider (God bless President Trump. Prayers for PDJT and his loyal supporters.)
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