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In the age of sexual harassment claims, is the office romance dead?
New York Post ^ | March 14, | Greg Giangrande

Posted on 03/15/2021 12:02:25 AM PDT by nickcarraway

The allegations about Cuomo are causing debate among my co-workers. We spend most of our waking hours with our work colleagues. If it’s sexual harassment when one person expresses interest in another then millions of people who have found their mates at work were sexually harassed. Is it harassment simply to express interest in someone? How would you know unless you ask?

Well, if the person expressing interest is the boss, that boss is taking a huge risk. If the other party isn’t interested it’s mighty difficult for the other party to be comfortable in their job, even if the boss is then apologetic. If the other party does feel Cupid’s arrow, I’m happy for them both, but then one has to leave because the boss can’t be dating someone on their staff without creating an uncomfortable environment for everyone. If they both keep it a secret, there’s a big price to pay if they are found out (which almost always happens). But hey, you can’t put a price tag on true love! That situation is not what is being alleged in Cuomo’s case. Nor is it the case of most sexual-harassment claims. They aren’t trivial, “I misread the signals and I’m truly sorry” situations.

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TOPICS: Business/Economy; Society
KEYWORDS: andrewcuomo; badideas; cyrusvancejr; foolserrand; greggiangrande; larryschwartz; newyork; newyorkpost; officeromance
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

Agreed. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen it play out exactly as you described. It’s never a good idea.


21 posted on 03/15/2021 2:21:21 AM PDT by ducttape45 ("Righteousness exalteth a nation; but sin is a reproach to any people." Proverbs 14:34)
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To: nickcarraway; All
My wife and I had an "office" romance. We were both Air Force officers stationed at the same base hospital in the New Mexico desert back in 1970.

We technically violated the UCMJ article against the fraternization with other commissioned officers of a different rank. My wife out ranked me for about six months until I was promoted.

We both had the same boss who counseled us against the relationship. But then we got married and he attended our wedding. Things were a little more relaxed back then it seemed.

49 years later we are still happily married.

22 posted on 03/15/2021 2:25:47 AM PDT by HotHunt
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To: nickcarraway; All
What's the saying?

Don't dip your pen in company ink.

23 posted on 03/15/2021 2:28:51 AM PDT by HotHunt
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To: ducttape45
A person can still sleep their way to the top, but now it requires solid blackmailing and brown nosing skills. The smell gets worse the higher up the chain they go.


24 posted on 03/15/2021 2:44:21 AM PDT by Reeses (A journey of a thousand miles begins with a government pat down.)
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To: Prole

“Please keep in mind that homosexuals and other similar deviants lead the way when it comes to domestic violence/attacks.”

The only person who I know personally who was murdered was a gay guy that I worked reasonably closely with (killed, then had his home lit up with his body inside). In his case, I didn’t even know he was gay (he didn’t look it, talk it, or dress it, and was a super-nice guy) until the police, after a year of no luck finding the killer, put out word that he went to gay bars. And he wasn’t the only one (at least one other that my relative knew, but not me).

There’s a nasty violence streak they have that you don’t want to get near and the media, for obvious reasons, will never report on.


25 posted on 03/15/2021 3:02:09 AM PDT by BobL (TheDonald.win is now Patriots.win)
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To: MHGinTN

Not at all lesbians and gay men have these issues a lot. Especially where they predominant social services and health care


26 posted on 03/15/2021 3:09:05 AM PDT by Chickensoup (Voter ID for 2020!! Leftists totalitarian fascists appear to be planning to eradicate conservatives)
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To: AnotherUnixGeek

A seven. Pretty good to look at?

5 being average.

No wonder people are lonely today. There is no reality to their expectations.


27 posted on 03/15/2021 3:12:02 AM PDT by Chickensoup (Voter ID for 2020!! Leftists totalitarian fascists appear to be planning to eradicate conservatives)
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To: Secret Agent Man

Forty years ago we said don’t fish in the company pool.


28 posted on 03/15/2021 3:13:42 AM PDT by Chickensoup (Voter ID for 2020!! Leftists totalitarian fascists appear to be planning to eradicate conservatives)
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To: nickcarraway

I remember in 1980 one of the managers, where I worked (a major defense contractor), telling me to, “Check out the one I just hired.” I did, and we were married 5 years later.


29 posted on 03/15/2021 3:26:13 AM PDT by OrioleFan (Republicans believe every day is July 4th, Democrats believe every day is April 15th.for corruptiion)
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To: nickcarraway
Is it harassment simply to express interest in someone?

It is unless she wants you to.

How would you know unless you ask?

What, you can't read a woman's mind? What's wrong with you? /s

30 posted on 03/15/2021 3:29:40 AM PDT by Jim Noble (In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear
Nothin can kill a productive department faster then a pair of idiots thinking with their gonads.

How modern of you.

If liking a member of the opposite sex in a way that could lead to a future together, and wanting to explore same, has been reduced to "thinking with your gonads", then our people have no future.

31 posted on 03/15/2021 3:31:59 AM PDT by Jim Noble (In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act)
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To: Starcitizen
Liberals want to kill any and all outlets for dating

No.

They want to eliminate our future children, and thereby eliminate us.

32 posted on 03/15/2021 3:34:00 AM PDT by Jim Noble (In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

Best to focus on gender and race. ;-)


33 posted on 03/15/2021 3:40:55 AM PDT by School of Rational Thought
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To: nickcarraway

Seems to me that they are just trying to ruin the “happy hunting grounds” for the younger fellas. How are these young guys supposed to learn all about how some woman will ruin their life?


34 posted on 03/15/2021 3:45:53 AM PDT by The Right Edge (Staunch Trump Supporter AND PROUD to be!)
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To: nickcarraway

Anytime you put men and women together, romance is inevitable (even today). The Office is no different.

Obviously some Office romances DO have a happy ending. But on average, it’s probably not the smart thing to do. Same thing goes with dating a customer, or someone who works for a customer. There are enough people there that office romances should be avoided—but it’s impossible to stop them.


35 posted on 03/15/2021 3:47:11 AM PDT by rbg81 (Truth is stranger than fiction)
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To: Jolla

“ they got married, have a family and been together 25 years”.
My parents also met at work and stayed married till my fathers death. But once they got married one was required to quit (early 1950’s). However, becoming involved with a co-worker is not a good idea anymore.


36 posted on 03/15/2021 3:49:16 AM PDT by MCF (If my home can't be my Castle, then it will be my Alamo)
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To: Jim Noble

They want to eliminate our future children, and thereby eliminate us.
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By killing everything except gay hook-up sites, that’s pretty much the ticket.


37 posted on 03/15/2021 3:50:28 AM PDT by Starcitizen (To the filthy Indian trash snowflakes that cried my tagline, eff you and your filthy country. )
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To: Prole

No woman is worth... Okay!... Maybe Karen Steele, Natasha Henstridge, Rebecca Romijn... Okay! Some of them are worth the trouble. DAMNIT!


38 posted on 03/15/2021 3:55:16 AM PDT by The Right Edge (Staunch Trump Supporter AND PROUD to be!)
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To: nickcarraway

In this era, engaging in office romances is the surest way to bring trouble. What happens when that romance hits the skids?

The best and smartest way to interact with females in the workplace is at an absolute minimum, employing the maximum of cold professionalism at all times. Never, ever find yourself in a situation in which you’re alone with one. Always have the door open and ensure you’re in view and earshot of potential witnesses.

The office romance is a no-go zone nowadays. Engage at your own peril.


39 posted on 03/15/2021 3:55:44 AM PDT by ScottinVA (Enough. Divide the country.. now. )
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To: MCF
However, becoming involved with a co-worker is not a good idea anymore

What's good is good. It doesn't change.

The fact is that now 90% or more of non-family opposite sex contact occurs in the work environment.

If you care about people forming families and having children (as opposed to, as one poster put it, "thinking with their gonads"), then this new pattern of meeting potential spouses has to be accommodated.

40 posted on 03/15/2021 3:55:45 AM PDT by Jim Noble (In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act)
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