Posted on 11/14/2020 5:05:41 AM PST by Prince of Space
I’m asking for prayers for my son-in-law. My daughter just informed me tonight that she’s leaving him this weekend while he’s out of town. I knew they were having problems and she “wasn’t happy,” but I was hoping she’d come to her senses and realize she was being stupid. Unfortunately, she hasn’t. They’re both 32, have been married for 7 years with no kids, and they are employed.
The reason I’m asking for prayers is the way she’s chosen to leave the marriage. He’s coming home Sunday to a note explaining that she’s gone. I love him to death but he’s got a negative outlook on life in general. I know how I’d feel if it happened to me and my heart breaks for him. I believe he also has a gun, although we live in Arizona so who doesn’t?
I’ve been here for over 20 years, including as a lurker, but this is only my second post. I’m really feeling anxious about this situation so I’m asking freepers to lift up Adam in prayer and surround his heart with love to help him get through this dark time. Thank you in advance!
Thank you. I think he’d hurt himself before he hurt anyone else, but who knows in a situation like this. One thing I do know is...2020 sucks big time.
Thanks for your prayers. She wants to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. He hates doctors of any kind, except his dad who is a chiropractor. Go figure.
I see where he hatred of doctors came from.
If he won’t do counseling, I do not see what options she has.
You call it meddling. I call it being a mother and continuing to guide her when she needs it. If she confides in me, I give her my opinion. She may not like it because usually it’s something she hasn’t considered and doesn’t wanna hear. But in the end I support her decisions and she knows that.
Me either. It’s a simple thing if he wants to keep his marriage together. It might be too late for them though, but miracles can happen. Hence the prayer request.
Thank you, Green Hornet. I just don’t think it’s strange to love both of them at the same time, but apparently I’m an aberration here, lol. It goes without saying though that my daughter is my main concern.
Thank you for your prayers, Robert DeLong, and your advice. I want the best for both of them, even if this is the result. I just hate to see a chapter of a love story close, but this is the year to have it happen I guess.
Thanks for your prayers. I appreciate it. And I’m sure I only know a snippet of what goes on in their marriage. I don’t know if there’s anyone else; she assures me there isn’t, although that was always her MO in the past. They both have issues along with trouble communicating, which is why counseling would be great, but he refuses, saying he can do it by himself. My initial fear is he will harm himself, but I’m also worried about her safety as a secondary reaction. I guess that’s why my heart is so heavy at this time.
And you are more than welcome.
Unfortunately, our daughter didn't get over ending her long term relationships and marriages until she was in her 30s. She had a talent for reeling in guys who were quite nice which was a little surprising to me. You always hear all of these horror stories about men but she managed to screen them very well.
Prayers for a positive outcome.
The sad thing about our daughter is that she always seemed to feel that she could do better. Looking back at all of her men... her first husband who fathered her oldest son really was the best of the bunch... best looking, best family, and most successful.
Thank you, fieldmarshaldj.
I hear you. My daughter is a grass is always greener type. I have to keep reminding her that it isn’t. She’s also easily influenced by others. But with every guy in her life, when she’s done, she’s done. Most of the time she had someone waiting in the wings so we shall see if that’s the case here. I really hope not though. It’s hard to watch them keep making mistakes, isn’t it?
Wasn’t it so much easier when the kids were little?! I am not a fan of having to “step back” and let them make their own mistakes. It is very, very difficult to do. I have a friend who says, “little kids, little problems.. big “kids”, big problems”. I would add on to her saying,”and we are suppose to watch the train wreck”. Perhaps both of them need some growing up to do and maybe they can learn a lot from this. Hugs! Mom
Thank you, mom!
He also said he would have gone to therapy but doesnât recall her asking him to. He defended her and said he would do anything for her. He stated that he wants her to be happy, even if it wasnât with him.
Sheâs angry with me for giving a shit about my SIL whom Iâve cared about for 10 years. Psychologically sheâs blaming me for reminding her about what her behavior has done to someone she supposedly loves.
The saddest thing is my husband and I have come to the realization that we raised a selfish, self-absorbed, and immature young woman who is obviously lying to everyone around her, no matter who gets hurt. I still love her but Iâm extremely disappointed by her behavior.
Prayers up for your daughter and Adam. â¤ðâ¤
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Hugs and love to you. Stay strong and prayerful. Your love and kindness is a true testimony. ðâ¤
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