Posted on 08/18/2020 1:48:52 PM PDT by CondoleezzaProtege
"The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime."
In my opinion, the best movie about Vietnam is We Were Soldiers starring Mel Gibson. He plays lieutenant colonel Hal Moore who commanded the first major battle of that war known as the Battle of Ia Drang. Surrounded and facing overwhelming odds, Moore and his soldiers withstood the onslaught for a week. One of the things Moore credits as a reason for the success was the love and devotion the soldiers had for one another. However, equally as important, was Moore’s consistent studying of the battlefield and knowledge of his enemy. He knew their strategies and the angles they would take to attack. This enabled him to position his forces in places that gave the greatest chance of victory.
In marriage, it is important to have love and devotion to one another. However, it is also equally important to know the temptations and pitfalls that attack marriage. One of the biggest enemies of marriage is infidelity. Knowing this enemy inside and out will help us remain faithful. Last week, we discussed why women cheat. Today we answer why men cheat.
Note: These are reasons, not justifications. Cheating is never justifiable under any circumstances.
Unfulfilled Emotional Needs
This seems to be the top reason. Most men who cheat consistently have expressed feeling disconnected from their wives. Men and women were both created for relationships. The need for emotional connection is innate in all of us, man or woman. However, physical affection and sex is an important way for men to feel emotionally connected with their wives. When that isn’t happening, it is easy for men to become withdrawn. When husbands emotionally drift from their wives, other connections will act like gravity.
Win Early: Work tirelessly to connect with your wife. When you feel yourself drifting, do whatever it takes to keep your feet secured in your marriage. Go out on dates, talk, find something new to experience together. Never stop, ever.
The Thrill, Insecurity, and Ego
”There are many men that simply love the excitement of the chase. The feeling of meeting a challenge and winning her over. It makes them feel powerful and attractive. This feeling is particularly enticing when a man feels neglected by his wife. A neglected man will feel rejected and insecure with a bruised ego. As a result, they go hunting to regain the sense of power and self-confidence they have lost.
Win Early: True power cannot be attained by the affirmation of others. The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime. Wake up every day and ask the question, “How can I win my wife today?”
Distraction
Being a husband and father is stressful. A man may love his wife, but there are now obligations to fulfill. The single life was carefree, but also lonely. They would rather not lose their wife but want a distraction from the pressure that comes with responsibility. They are looking for a quick return to the carefree days with the security of a spouse intact.
Win Early: Stay in the game. Stop the temptation the moment the thought enters your mind, rather than cradling it. When you find yourself looking for distractions, do the opposite. Embrace your responsibilities or you may lose them.
Sexual Addiction
There are women that have this problem, but mainly men. The exact cause is unknown but can involve both a chemical and/or psychological reason. These men consistently engage in sexual behavior (including viewing porn or participating in chat rooms) that brings negative outcomes. Despite the negative effects in their lives, they do not stop.
Win Early: Get treatment immediately. This can be overcome with medical treatment, psychological therapy, or support groups — perhaps all three.
Do you have any books or articles to recommend for your findings?
Why? One word. NEGLECT. I don’t mean simply cooking and cleaning will do. Living with an ice cube is lonely. I don’t even mean sex.
I had a similar experience.
My husband is still crazy sexy handsome at 54. The boys from high school and college...no thanks.
I thank God daily that I am his wife.
Good grief...you are certainly a special kind of stupid.
Why do you hate & reject God?
Why are you an idiot?
Yes happy,I thought I was living in Mayberry,My gma looked like aunt bee,all our relatives played guitars ,banjos,or other instruments,we would sit on front porch in the evenings and play music and sing.thanksgiving and christmas when all the women would cook,,omg enough food to feed an army.there was some bad,,many of the men were functioning alcholics,drinking beer every night,,but held their jobs and paid their bills.
That is awesome, and I’d bet you make it easy for your lucky husband to have sex with you?
Shortly after coming home from our honeymoon, I thought I was being playful with my husband, and he said, and I quote, “I don’t want to have to chase you anymore. I got you.” When I noticed that he hadn’t said I love you in a few weeks, I said I missed hearing it. He said, “I told you before. That hasn’t changed.” It could have been a comedy routine if it hadn’t ended with multiple assaults. Assholes come in all flavors and sexes.
“Why do Women Cheat?”
Takes two to tango, doesn’t it.
Why men cheat? The triumph of hope over experience. :)
In all seriousness both genders will give it up in 1-3 dates if they can. Some females resist longer, but not that much. It’s human nature.
I am right now working with several universities and a research foundation grant.
Because, as shown in studies, women cheat more.
LOL...spoken as a supporter of adultery and a true hater of God.
Are you a muzzoid follower of allah/satan?
C’mon, man - fess up to your godless cult!
I was blue pill to the point that all I want is a time machine so I can go back and kick myself in the ass.
I can read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi and see myself on every page.
“Some women go to the gym when they are neglected, get into great shape and go elsewhere for fun. I could give you a dozen examples among acquaintances.”
A fb friend is very overweight-about 100 lbs. His wife was also overweight but has lost weight the last several years and works out every day and is now in fitness competitions. She went from Naw to hot.
She is about 45..prime divorce age. he had better get with the program and take care of himself or she is going to wander. Men tell her how hot she looks and she does look great
I notice that all the reasons seem to make it the man’s fault.
A wife who loses interest in keeping her husband sexually satisfied, should not act shocked when some other woman replaces her.
Absolutely. He rocks my world.
We had some dry spells over the years, especially when I was battling a chronic illness or when I was pregnant (all my pregnancies were high risk).
Even when he hit his “comfortable” phase and packed on almost 100 pounds, I still found him incredibly handsome. Then, at 40, he started to diet and exercise again and slimmed back down, ripped and fierce.
He later told me that when he saw a picture of us together, me still slim and him so big, he didn’t like what he saw.
I saw the love of my life, the father of my children. His size didn’t matter.
No other man alive has his face, his voice, his heart, even his scent. He is my one and only until the day I die.
Wiring:
Men, to hunt for women.
Women, to shop for men.
Emotions:
Man wants a woman to want him.
Woman wants a man to want her.
Contact:
A variety of connections with a woman, are important to a man.
A variety of connections with a man, are important to a woman.
Jesus:
Why we are here and doing this, matters to the man.
Why we are here and doing this, matters to the woman.
Responsibilities:
When a man has sexual intercourse with a woman, she is his wife.
When a woman has sexual intercourse with a man, he is her husband.
Match:
Some blend of the preceding, works for the man and woman; and there is a good chance for an enduring match, as they stand by each other.
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