I think Jimmy Swaggart said that too!😎
Posted on 08/18/2020 1:48:52 PM PDT by CondoleezzaProtege
"The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime."
In my opinion, the best movie about Vietnam is We Were Soldiers starring Mel Gibson. He plays lieutenant colonel Hal Moore who commanded the first major battle of that war known as the Battle of Ia Drang. Surrounded and facing overwhelming odds, Moore and his soldiers withstood the onslaught for a week. One of the things Moore credits as a reason for the success was the love and devotion the soldiers had for one another. However, equally as important, was Moore’s consistent studying of the battlefield and knowledge of his enemy. He knew their strategies and the angles they would take to attack. This enabled him to position his forces in places that gave the greatest chance of victory.
In marriage, it is important to have love and devotion to one another. However, it is also equally important to know the temptations and pitfalls that attack marriage. One of the biggest enemies of marriage is infidelity. Knowing this enemy inside and out will help us remain faithful. Last week, we discussed why women cheat. Today we answer why men cheat.
Note: These are reasons, not justifications. Cheating is never justifiable under any circumstances.
Unfulfilled Emotional Needs
This seems to be the top reason. Most men who cheat consistently have expressed feeling disconnected from their wives. Men and women were both created for relationships. The need for emotional connection is innate in all of us, man or woman. However, physical affection and sex is an important way for men to feel emotionally connected with their wives. When that isn’t happening, it is easy for men to become withdrawn. When husbands emotionally drift from their wives, other connections will act like gravity.
Win Early: Work tirelessly to connect with your wife. When you feel yourself drifting, do whatever it takes to keep your feet secured in your marriage. Go out on dates, talk, find something new to experience together. Never stop, ever.
The Thrill, Insecurity, and Ego
”There are many men that simply love the excitement of the chase. The feeling of meeting a challenge and winning her over. It makes them feel powerful and attractive. This feeling is particularly enticing when a man feels neglected by his wife. A neglected man will feel rejected and insecure with a bruised ego. As a result, they go hunting to regain the sense of power and self-confidence they have lost.
Win Early: True power cannot be attained by the affirmation of others. The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime. Wake up every day and ask the question, “How can I win my wife today?”
Distraction
Being a husband and father is stressful. A man may love his wife, but there are now obligations to fulfill. The single life was carefree, but also lonely. They would rather not lose their wife but want a distraction from the pressure that comes with responsibility. They are looking for a quick return to the carefree days with the security of a spouse intact.
Win Early: Stay in the game. Stop the temptation the moment the thought enters your mind, rather than cradling it. When you find yourself looking for distractions, do the opposite. Embrace your responsibilities or you may lose them.
Sexual Addiction
There are women that have this problem, but mainly men. The exact cause is unknown but can involve both a chemical and/or psychological reason. These men consistently engage in sexual behavior (including viewing porn or participating in chat rooms) that brings negative outcomes. Despite the negative effects in their lives, they do not stop.
Win Early: Get treatment immediately. This can be overcome with medical treatment, psychological therapy, or support groups — perhaps all three.
“Women cheat for the same reason men cheat.
No morals and a belief they can do anything at anytime with anyone without any responsibility or remorse.
But it ALWAYS comes back to no morals whatsoever.
Period!”
Much simpler than that. Not a moral issue. Each are either terminally sick of, bored to death with, or disgusted with their spouses.
Period.
I appreciate the bluntness and wow 12 kids! Was your grandmother a homemaker? Live on land (farm) that required a lot of physical maintenance? Or did she have a profession outside the home?
Sarah Pierce, played by Kate Winslet in the movie “Little Children” (also a book) shares her thoughts about the story of the adulterous “Madame Bovary.”
I think I understand your feelings about this book. I used to have some problems with it, myself. When I read it in grad school, Madame Bovary just seemed like a fool. She marries the wrong man; makes one foolish mistake after another; but when I read it this time, I just fell in love with her. She's trapped! She has a choice: she can either accept a life of misery or she can struggle against it. And she chooses to struggle.
“... certain men are naturally devoted...”
I disagree. Devotion is a trait you pick or become.. it isn’t something natural like being born with blue eyes or brown hair. I say it is a choice for both sexes. My husband has stayed true to me and honored his vows (when I know he has probably been offered otherwise) and I have done the same ( and yes.. women get offers as well). The answer for it all is this.. why did you marry and do you want to stay married? (’you” being everyone not you in particular).
2 different girl friends. 2 different reasons. y do u think i call myself by my name?
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And you think your girlfriends don’t cheat on you? LOL.
You almost got it.
It truly is as simple as a complete lack of morals.
Otherwise, they would not cheat but get a divorce.
But they choose to cheat...because they have absolutely no morals.
Cheating is truly satanic by those gutless evildoers.
Someone VERY wise once wrote....
“Thou shall not commit adultery”.
So in other words men and women cheat for similar reasons. Shocka!
Amen! Like my soon to be ex.
What a bunch of BULLSHITE!!!
God's commandments include "Thou shall not commit adultery"
You should be ashamed for your post - it's not just BS...it's satanic evil.
Grandma lived on a farm,grew enormous gardens,canned food for winter,helped with the farm animals,took in washing,attended church,tried her best to civilize 12 kids,who all grew to adulthood and lived decent middle class lives,most of which also had many kids.Her female children,my aunts were also very straightforward about sexuality.All my aunts and grandma home cooked enormous meals and taught me all their recipes.You never left home with an empty tummy and carried home enough leftovers to feed you for a week.
Gawd how I miss them
Sorry you feel that way.
Are you a woman?
And they were happy (and in love?) I’m presuming...not just seeing everything as a chore.
What a stupid question...and you refused to denounce your satanic, evil anti-God post.
Are you a leftist?
Are you a follower of satan?
ps: I have XY-chromosomes...although that is totally irrelevant to the issue.
You really are a dipsh*t if you seriously believe what you wrote.
Not a theory...
It’s an actual finding numerous times.
I profile lifetime psychological development profiles on a regular basis. I developed new techniques that reveal all the details back to conception.
There are many reasons...
Fear of intimacy is the most common.
I think Jimmy Swaggart said that too!😎
My family is chock full of what might be considered high-functioning beta males. Great and devoted husbands and fathers who leqd good and satisfying lives. They are not ceaven for success or widespread female adulation. I have just seen enough of it play out over genrations to think that there is an inherited component. I believe nature, nurture, and yes, free will have a part in most character traits and behaviors. I have seen nothing to convince me that mating fidelity is any different.
Good grief, I see stupid people.
“Thou shall not commit adultery” are words from God and spoken by many people.
Attempting to attribute His words to someone else as original is not just blasphemy but insane stupidity.
satan is proud of you.
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