Posted on 01/24/2019 6:18:55 PM PST by oldasrocks
My wife leaves every year for a month or two to visit family overseas. I feel she should hire someone to do her job while she is not here. You know cook, clean, laundry, cuddle, scoop out the chicken house,give the dogs a bath, the important stuff.
Why should I have to do all my work and hers too just because she goes on vacation for a month or more? What are your feelings about this?
I also do a fair amount of the cooking and always have cooked from scratch, even when single. Once I got married I stopped doing laundry though.
When single, there were 2 types of laundry: whites went into hot water, clothing of color went into warm or hot water.
As a married person I cannot now keep up with the 37 varieties of laundry so I allow my wife to manage it.
. . . bet it was }^#£¥&$ing Mitch McConnell. lousy open borders crony capitalist GOPe free traitor.
Well said.
She should let you revert to your natural state.
It is what men do.
You know, drinking alcoholic beverages, scratching your crotch, drinking milk from the carton, and lighting farts on fire.
DANGERFIELD: My wife, you know, she likes to talk while she’s having sex...so she calls me last night from a motel...
Doing all that dont leave much time for laundry, vacuuming, and such.
Holy crap, you know anything about pet aardvarks? Mine just suddenly became un-housebroken! Nothing on the internet anywhere about it!
As I said...return to your natural state!
The wife should not want to be away from you
Make yourself more invaluable to her
Try a litter pan and get some cheese ants or feed him lots of bread. Dont trust the internet, place is crawling with NSA agents.
Wah.
When I was a kid, I was taught by both my mom and dad to clean house, make my bed, wash the dishes, clean the toilets, do the laundry, etc. My mom taught me to sew and iron my own clothes. My dad taught me to mow the lawn, prune the trees and maintain the car. They both taught me how to cook meals. My dad was as good a cook as my mom.
I hated it when I was young but couldn't thank them enough when I got older and was out on my own. I had roommates in the military who didn't know which end of the broom to sweep with, let alone know how to clean up after themselves in the bathroom and kitchen.
My wife and I met in the Air Force and have been married for a long time, not that we've haven't also been apart at times when life intervened.
She used to take the kids on vacation for a month at a time, usually on car camping trips, leaving me to my own devices when I didn't have vacation time at my job. One of the female managers I worked with actually asked me one time why I "let" my wife do that. I replied, "I don't 'let' my wife do anything. She does what she wants."
She took off to Australia for six weeks one time to visit her college roommate and her husband who was there on sabbatical teaching at a university. I was left to work (I was self-employed at the time and worked out of our home) and care for our two little grandkids whose parents were in jail at the time for drug offenses. We missed her a lot but the kids and I did just fine.
In retirement, we moved from the big city to a farm and decided to raise beef cattle to get an agricultural exemption on our property taxes. Which means we can never go on vacation together. Because one of us always has to a stay behind and watch the herd and tend to chores on the farm. No biggie. It is what it is.
I like the time alone when she's gone, knowing she will eventually return when her trips with her elderly mom are over. Friends ask why I don't go with them. Besides having to watch the cattle on the farm, why would I want to go on a two week trip with two old ladies? :-)
I just returned last month from a two month long trip to Arizona to get our old house ready to put on the market to sell. We'd rented it for eight years to our daughter and her boyfriend. But it was 40 years old and needed work to make it look the best to sell. I also went to a college fraternity reunion, reconnected with high school friends and saw my sister and brother for the first time in a long time, went to some ASU football games and generally had a great time. But I sure was happy to get back home to my wife and the farm in Florida. I knew she would take care of things while I was gone and she did.
My wife and get along fine because we compliment each other in our likes and dislikes. We instinctively know when something needs to be done that the other can't attend to and take care of it ourselves. I don't look to my wife to be my mom or my housekeeper or my slave. She's very independent and that's what I love about her. She doesn't cling and drain the energy out of the marriage because she is dependent on me all the time.
To this day, at age 71, I still do my own laundry, prepare my own meals, wash my own dishes, and clean the house when it needs it. My wife does the same.
We're still happily married after 45 years. I believe it is because, not only do we love each other, but we give each other our own space to do our own thing so we don't suffocate each other under the constant pressure of being together all of the time.
I don't know if we could have stayed married for four and a half decades without a break from each other once in a while. The heart grows fonder they say when you are apart. Not all marriages are alike but ours works just fine.
So don't complain about things you wish were different. Instead, count your blessings and be glad you have what you have. Life is easier that way.
Very true. Years ago I took a course on Aging and Death, and statistics showed that widowers remarry far more than widows, and do it fairly quickly after their spouse's death.
That's my definition of retirement. Been doing it for 15 years now.
Hibernate.
#23. Does my wife changing the locks count as a “break” or what?
cuddle???
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