Posted on 07/25/2018 9:54:57 AM PDT by C19fan
In the run-up to marriage, many couples, particularly those of a more progressive bent, will encounter a problem: What is to be done about the last name?
Some have attempted work-arounds: the Smiths and Taylors who have become Smith-Taylors, Taylor-Smiths, ormore creativeSmilors. But there just isnt always a good, fair option. (While many straight couples fall back on the option of a woman taking her husbands last name, same-sex couples have no analogous default.)
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My wife was known in her career by her maiden name. She still used it on the air.
I told her as long as her name was spelled correctly on her check, I did not care.
I knew a guy in college who took his wife’s last name.
How fecking adorable... another “enlightened,” virtue-signaling, Trump-hating RINO. Sorry Christine... we have an overage of those these days.
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That’s what I think too.
But, I don’t know and won’t ask.
In three generations liberals will be named things like Bob Smith-Jones-Finley-Kirk-Gable-Manning-Stewart-Goldberg-Gleason-O'Malley-Kent.
Neither my daughter or her husband wanted to spend the rest of their life as a Lurch. So he took her name.
Yes, but the first surname is the one they consider the real one. If they simplify it to just one for whatever reason, like writing their name in a sign in sheet or something, the fathers is the one they use.
Thats true. Ha!
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Yes! ...You “get it!”....That was my situation. When I married I kept the name on my birth certificate, graduate school diploma, and licenses. I use my birth name **everywhere**! It would have been economic and professional insanity to change it.
God made woman as a partner and companion for man, not vice-versa.
I recently read a story of a couple from California where the husband took his wifes last name. It wasnt for political or feminist reasons, just personal.
From what I recall, the husband wasnt close to his family, especially his dad. His dad never had much to do with him and his family was cold and dysfunctional.
OTOH, he knew his wife and her family for years. From the very beginning, his wifes dad treated him like his own son and taught him skills such as how to mow the lawn, how to fix things such as vehicles, appliances, etc. The future father-in-law did everything that his biological dad didnt do. The groom was also very close to his future Mother-In-Law.
So, to honor the family that had treated him as their own son, the husband decided to take his wifes name. It wasnt a virtue signaling gesture but that he considered his wifes family as his own, especially since his bio family wasnt close.
To be honest, I usually look down on men who take their wifes name but, in this case, I can understand and respect his decision.
Maybe the young man in your church is from a similar situation. He may be from a neglectful, dysfunctional or even abusive family and wants to honor and say thanks to his brides family.
Why Dont More Men Take Their Wifes Last Name?
I agree with you about the hyphenated names, except in one case.
A relative of mine married a woman whose first name was Kelly. His last name is Kelly. Im sure you can see the problem.
This was one instance where hyphenating was the best way to go.
Don’t have a problem in that case. There is a practical reason for it.
Cause they’re REAL MEN?
Several years back there was a female mountain bike racer, first name Hannah, who married a dude with the last name of Hannah!
LOL. How unfortunate.
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