the same reason butch dykes don't take on their girlfriend's last name...
Posted on 07/25/2018 9:54:57 AM PDT by C19fan
In the run-up to marriage, many couples, particularly those of a more progressive bent, will encounter a problem: What is to be done about the last name?
Some have attempted work-arounds: the Smiths and Taylors who have become Smith-Taylors, Taylor-Smiths, or—more creative—Smilors. But there just isn’t always a good, fair option. (While many straight couples fall back on the option of a woman taking her husband’s last name, same-sex couples have no analogous default.)
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My wife was known in her career by her maiden name. She still used it “on the air.”
I told her as long as her name was spelled correctly on her check, I did not care.
I knew a guy in college who took his wife’s last name.
How fecking adorable... another “enlightened,” virtue-signaling, Trump-hating RINO. Sorry Christine... we have an overage of those these days.
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That’s what I think too.
But, I don’t know and won’t ask.
In three generations liberals will be named things like Bob Smith-Jones-Finley-Kirk-Gable-Manning-Stewart-Goldberg-Gleason-O'Malley-Kent.
Neither my daughter or her husband wanted to spend the rest of their life as a Lurch. So he took her name.
Yes, but the first surname is the one they consider the real one. If they simplify it to just one for whatever reason, like writing their name in a sign in sheet or something, the fathers is the one they use.
That’s true. Ha!
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Yes! ...You “get it!”....That was my situation. When I married I kept the name on my birth certificate, graduate school diploma, and licenses. I use my birth name **everywhere**! It would have been economic and professional insanity to change it.
God made woman as a partner and companion for man, not vice-versa.
I recently read a story of a couple from California where the husband took his wife’s last name. It wasn’t for political or feminist reasons, just personal.
From what I recall, the husband wasn’t close to his family, especially his dad. His dad never had much to do with him and his family was cold and dysfunctional.
OTOH, he knew his wife and her family for years. From the very beginning, his wife’s dad treated him like his own son and taught him skills such as how to mow the lawn, how to fix things such as vehicles, appliances, etc. The future father-in-law did everything that his biological dad didn’t do. The groom was also very close to his future Mother-In-Law.
So, to honor the family that had treated him as their own son, the husband decided to take his wife’s name. It wasn’t a “ virtue signaling” gesture but that he considered his wife’s family as his own, especially since his bio family wasn’t close.
To be honest, I usually look down on men who take their wife’s name but, in this case, I can understand and respect his decision.
Maybe the young man in your church is from a similar situation. He may be from a neglectful, dysfunctional or even abusive family and wants to honor and say “thanks” to his bride’s family.
Why Don’t More Men Take Their Wife’s Last Name?
I agree with you about the hyphenated names, except in one case.
A relative of mine married a woman whose first name was “Kelly”. His last name is “Kelly”. I’m sure you can see the problem.
This was one instance where hyphenating was the best way to go.
Don’t have a problem in that case. There is a practical reason for it.
the same reason butch dykes don't take on their girlfriend's last name...
Cause they’re REAL MEN?
Several years back there was a female mountain bike racer, first name Hannah, who married a dude with the last name of Hannah!
LOL. How unfortunate.
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