Posted on 04/02/2018 1:17:40 PM PDT by C19fan
At my very first job in New York, a colleague jokingly informed me: “You came in a WASP, but you’re leaving a Jew.”
That statement was in reference to the demographics of the office’s staff. Almost everyone who worked there was Jewish, and I, a recent college graduate who had spent my adolescence in a largely Christian community in the South, was not. At the time, I had no idea she would end up being so right.
As a teenager, I attended exactly one bat mitzvah, but moving to New York provided endless opportunities to learn about the Jewish faith. Friends invited me to join their families for Passover seders and Hanukkah celebrations. However, it was through my various romantic relationships where I learned the most about Judaism — a religious faith and culture I have grown to love and respect, but that has also contributed to two of my biggest heartbreaks.
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I know, my wife reminds me often.
But yeah, such a no brainer. The only people who don't know this truism are kids new to the workplace, and this one ugly chick from New York.
Hey! My husband and I met in the workplace, and were married for several years, working in the same office, before anyone but our bosses up the line and one other person knew about it.
It’s not good to just ‘fool around’ with people in the workplace; but if a relationship between mature, sensible people becomes serious, it can be managed.
80 to 90 per cent of “chicks out there” are NOT “reading Romance books and watching 50 shades”.
And you have a good screen name, if you think that all ‘WASP’ women are as shallow as the author of the article appears to be.
Then why 50 shades had such absolute success amongst women? Why do men make up 90% of coded software?
Surely when going on tinder like this chick, it is what happens. The 20% of guys with the noteriety to obtain the 80% of girls there are not sought for their “sophistication” or the need to look into the intricacies of their soul. If that were the case then this 80% would be looking elsewhere.
I have worked in THREE different companies where interpersonal relationships had a huge detrimental effect on production and morale (morals too!)...........Two of the companies were ‘eat up’ with nepotism. One, on my first day at work, when you are taken on the cook’s tour of the plant and grounds, I was warned by my escort to be careful what you say to people at work until you get to know everyone, because just about everyone was related to someone else in other departments....................
I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s both.
HA. That could work as a Trump and Bill Clinton joke.
I’ve talked with people who have dealt with the same.
I think that when it’s a matter of a relationship between a superior and one who reports to them, one of the two should of course look for another position.
But the effects of workplace relationships between co-workers depend entirely on how the people conduct themselves. There was never a problem in our situation because we determined that there would NOT be; and that’s why so few people ever knew.
(There was ONE problem, though: we would come home and talk about WORK for a couple of hours every night, instead of leaving it at the office. We got our personal hours back when we both left that place and took other jobs, and ‘talking about work’ was greatly reduced in the evening ;-)
Well, I don’t know a single woman who read that book, or saw the movie.
I know one gay male who went to see the film, and he didn’t think much of it.
(And I think that the population on sites like ‘Tinder’ is a relatively small one.)
I have no idea what you mean by inserting the idea that ‘90% of coded software’ is produced by men, or what it has to do with the discussion (???)
It is a funny world where all men are the same but all women are so unique, my arse. It is the opposite. Men vary in the plethora of subjects they have approached or shown passion for, even stuff like coding software, whereas women have in fact been pretty much generic in their lack thereof. The shared romantics of being taken care by a man is not a passion subject, especially when it means liking the car but not the driver, whereby pornography is a flipping of that metaphore.
I’m not interested in arguing male v. female. I think it’s kind of nutty.
Each human is an individual, and there are wise, intelligent, creative examples of both sexes. There always have been.
Why would that be nutty to discuss male vs female? Sounds like brute censorship
I have no power to censor you - but every right to politely disagree.
You are not politely disagreeing
Well, how would you prefer that I disagree?
It is not possible. You are too feminine and into posturing yourself in a position of avoiding personal responsibility and reproach , instead of
detaching your centers of concerns and emotionally from the subject to discuss it objectively. You strategize yourself instead of discussing the issues and datas, calling it nutty.
Surely all women are individual, but the feminine and masculine are words that mean something. Most women and “men” who say all people are unique are in fact not making this a statement about the world (whose data recurences they avoid and really want to know nothing about) but about how they want to be on that angel cloud away from controvercies in a world away when in fact there are many on such cloud.
I suppose it is not censorship to be on a glamorous cloud away from hearing the plebes who fix street lighting, but it is not exactly polite disagreement either. Let us not confuse polite with “quiet disagreement”
In fact the feminine emotional center is so strong, it becomes impossible to convey good advice to some women about how to REALLY stand out from all the other chicks and their strategies that a rich man has had his wealth allowing him abilities to meet them often and count them often , recurences and all, words that come back etc... all this complicated chick stuff he has however had heard before. If very masculine he will just dull it out and become cynical predictably, and if he has some feminine traits, well, he might make nice paintings or write better books than 50 Shades or They Must Serve Beer in Hell
I do not understand the ‘bee in your bonnet’.
I find arguments about male abilities v. female abilities to be nutty and a waste of time, as I said previously.
IN GENERAL, men and women are wired differently and focused differently; and the main element involved in becoming proficient at anything lies in *interest and desire*. There are women who can write code as well as men can, and male nurses and stay-at-home dads who do those jobs as well as women do. Neither represent a majority because of the absence of keen, natural interest.
As for women being ‘emotional’ - you seem to be condemning women for the inherent feminine nature and traits biologically necessary for them to have. That seems as tyrannical as the feminists, who slight women who stay at home to care for their families instead of going out and becoming a ‘professional’ at something.
No bonet and no bees here. Just constatating a man is better off being absolutely not interested in women and using the brute force of his wealth or connection factor than attempt trying to converse with them, or the more feminine of them, that is
Well, I don’t think that the sexes having ‘no interest’ in each other is ever going to be a condition that we face. Most healthy people want happy, involved relationships, and happy people usually find them.
Take Care.
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