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My little girl, 25 years old, escaped a wickedly verbally abusive controlling mother and a side of her family that is so completely irrational it's hard to imagine.

Today, she is finally free.

I divorced this evil woman, her mother, a dozen years ago and did everything I could to instill objective normality in her thinking. Albeit from a distance and without the money or stability I would have preferred. Thankfully, she doesn't think like them. But has been manipulated through guilt and constant demeaning verbal abuse that trapped her in an insane world.

My little girl has always had an extraordinary ability to be objective, responsible, thoughtful, self assured and capable.

She put herself through college by working and student loans while being the sole care taker of her Grandmother that has dementia, is a diabetic, incontinent and is as nearly insane as her mother. All while her alcoholic drug addicted mother complained about, my little girl, not paying enough attention to her. She just got her Masters degree in "Terrorism and Public Policy". Her innate Conservative principles give me a sense of pride that is difficult to fully express.

I bought her a guitar when she was 18 and suggested she take a few lessons. She refused. She taught herself to play and the first song she learned was "Mother" by Pink Floyd. And she intentionally played and sang it for her mother. "Look mommy at what I learned".

Today she is finally free from the insanity.

Today, she can start to have her own life.

But, she still has a sense of guilt and needs support and prayers.

Her psychotic mother has already called my mother in an effort to reach me. Her psychotic mother will likely call the police and make claims that my daughter stole something in order find her and bring her back into her twisted world. My daughter doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs but can cuss like a sailor and is looking forward to buying her first handgun.

The irrationality of people, even family that surrounds us is extremely difficult to deal with especially when they attempt to guilt us into conforming to their world.

Say a prayer tonight for Liberty.

1 posted on 03/10/2017 9:24:55 PM PST by Zeneta
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To: Zeneta

Damn,good for her.


2 posted on 03/10/2017 9:27:28 PM PST by HANG THE EXPENSE (Life's tough.It's tougher when you're stupid.)
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To: Zeneta

The truth has, and will continue to make her free. You all have my prayers.


3 posted on 03/10/2017 9:28:06 PM PST by chajin ("There is no other name under heaven given among people by which we must be saved." Acts 4:12)
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To: Zeneta

Prayers up for Liberty.


4 posted on 03/10/2017 9:32:32 PM PST by aMorePerfectUnion
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Was your ex wife at least crazy in bed?


5 posted on 03/10/2017 9:32:59 PM PST by 2banana (My common ground with terrorists - they want to die for islam and we want to kill them)
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To: Zeneta

Congratulations to you, for seeing the light to get out of a dysfunctional situation. I know a few who stay in not realizing the damage done to us kids. Congratulations to her for overcoming the obstacles


6 posted on 03/10/2017 9:33:52 PM PST by DallasGal (Integrity is lost when you continue to live a lie)
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God bless you and yours Z.


7 posted on 03/10/2017 9:34:06 PM PST by SirLurkedalot (10/10/51-7/7/16 RIP Dad, I'll be missing you until I cross over to Eternity)
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That’s great...but she will likely need some help getting over the abuse...a conservative minister, maybe? Prayers for her success.


8 posted on 03/10/2017 9:36:51 PM PST by goodnesswins (Say hello to President Trump)
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I hear your relief and concern. I just prayed for her and you. It has not been easy for either of you.


10 posted on 03/10/2017 9:40:17 PM PST by Kay
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Whew... I had a wild child that needed a tough hand... I clicked on your story to offer my support. But, it sounds like she chose the best course. I’ll be saying a few prayers for you, your daughter and hope her compass always points in the right direction!


13 posted on 03/10/2017 9:46:24 PM PST by AJ504 (The Constitution was NOT written on an Etch-A-Sketch!)
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She’s 25 years old? My experience with my parents at 25 was phone calls, occasional requests for money (please!) and mostly realizing how tough life actually can be, and sort of lionizing my parents for making it through it. At 25, has she ever been on her own? That makes all the difference.


15 posted on 03/10/2017 9:48:56 PM PST by JennysCool
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God bless, good luck, and congratulations. To you and your daughter.


16 posted on 03/10/2017 9:52:31 PM PST by katana (It still hasn't occurred to them that Trump doesn't give a s***)
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Good...


17 posted on 03/10/2017 9:57:10 PM PST by Vendome (I've Gotta Be Me - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wH-pk2vZG2M)
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Go, girl. And never look back.


18 posted on 03/10/2017 9:58:19 PM PST by Ellendra (Those who kill without reason cannot be reasoned with.)
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“...Mother should I trust the government..?”


20 posted on 03/10/2017 10:00:53 PM PST by cardinal4 ("Sat stonefaced while the building burned..")
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Liberty is now in my prayers— for strength and help thru this trying time.

Please keep us posted.


21 posted on 03/10/2017 10:02:41 PM PST by Exit148 ((Loose Chnge Club founder) Put yours aside for the next Freepathon!)
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I hope your daughter can make a clean break from the toxic side of her family. Looking up “DeFOOing” might be helpful.


22 posted on 03/10/2017 10:05:17 PM PST by coydog (Time to feed the pigs!)
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Prayers up. She got out. May she not be dragged back in. Good luck.


24 posted on 03/10/2017 10:07:02 PM PST by Yaelle
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Prayers up. I hope your daughter will continue on with her newfound freedom.


25 posted on 03/10/2017 10:18:55 PM PST by hawaiianninja (Palm note to self: "Prepare for some serious swamp draining. Trump/Pence 2017!")
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John Smith bless your girl. We would love to have her out on our Utah ranch. My 9 wives are getting bored with me. We need a little spice.


He he he, enough of making fun of the morons... ahem Mormons.


She will find a soul mate where she did not expect it. I did. Make sure she sceptically examines men. Some are good (like me) and some are bad. It is going to be hard for her to differentiate given her history. Make sure she looks for one with a sense of humor. My wife can come home from her worst day and I will deadpan something and her day is made. Laughter is awesome in the original intent of the word.


26 posted on 03/10/2017 10:19:44 PM PST by LesbianThespianGymnasticMidget (God punishes Conservatives by making them argue with fools. Go Trump!)
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Sounds like a story from the book; “People of the Lie” by M. Scott Peck.
Your daughter needs bolstering support from healthy friends and family.


36 posted on 03/10/2017 11:50:21 PM PST by semaj (Audentes fortuna juvat: Fortune favors the bold. Be Bold FRiends.)
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