Posted on 07/10/2016 8:51:16 PM PDT by ErikJohnsky
I've used a couple of dating sites in my time, and went to college with an active dating and hookup scene. Somehow, it is socially acceptable for non-thin girls to think a fit, in-shape male who happens to be short is "too short" for them, or that the girl is too good for them.
Height can't be controlled at all and therefore, like race (whatever race tho, not just blacks but whites, reds, browns, yellows too), does not reflect one's values or personality traits. Weight can be easily controlled; fat girls are usually too lazy to go to the gym, and lack will-power and determination to control their diet. Given that many short men keep in good physical shape, women who are overweight should be HONOURED to get some of them, instead of being the prissy and spoiled types that feminism has promoted, with this "girl power" and that its OK for girls to be as "shallow" about men as men are about women.
Is that fat chicks can "look down" on a short guy a great example of sexual affirmative action brought about "feminism," which clearly looks for easy targets, and short men are?
Ugly is subjective; height is not. Also, plastic surgery can help with a bad face and nose; there is no practicable height surgery, aside from breaking your leg bones for one or two inches. God made short men short; he did not make fat chicks fat.
A girl who is less slim than a short guy ought to "check her arrogance."
One thing too; ever notice the multitude of "fat girls should love their body and show it off," and "plus-size model" stuff, but no equivalent for short men? While short men, THANKFULLY, haven't joined the grievance culture, its still liberal hypocrisy that short men are the only group of people affected by acts of God, their height, that liberals think its OK to trash and be prejudiced against. Its "racist" for a white girl to say she'd never date a black, but perfectly fine, and almost encouraged, for girls to never date a shorter guy, even tho height, like race, is determined by the Almighty.
I adopted four black children at birth.
Seriously, did your daughter have the bypass at 11? Or is she not there yet? Also, are we talking muscle? Because if she is big but it’s muscle, smooth and firm, I’d just get her into a sport that can use her strength. Hope she is doing well.
Just tell them your Nickname is The Human Tripod and no worries.
Sometimes people need a reality check. They couldn’t have been more polite about it!
The liberal guys have it all backwards as well, it’s not just the girls. In the case of the guys everything is about the cause and female attractiveness is judged on the basis of how well a woman is willing to tow the line ideologically. Your stock falls to zero and you get hit with the foulest verbal imprecations the moment you indicate an intention to vote for Trump.
One thing I have noticed is that by and large the prettier girls (at least around here) are the SJWs, which probably makes the problem seem worse than it is since they are the ones that get noticed. Men have my deepest sympathies on this point. For every one of those, though, there are probably five far more reasonable souls who are just trying to get good grades and live reasonably productive lives.
Life will find a way. There is no shortage of men willing to stick it in crazy, and no shortage of women willing to put up with men who spend their lives tilting at windmills. The rest will quietly work things out and hopefully have parents to watch the kids so they can actually afford to have more than one of them. There’s a lot of golden rule in marriage I think and a whole lot of its opposite, entitlement, in society.
I think you have it backwards.
The typical SJW female would consider a Trump supporting man a jerk. But, the old saying is true: women dig jerks.
What women are really attracted to is masculinity.
* Confidence (far and away #1)
* Power (hence the attraction to tall men, it’s a signal of physical power)
* Independence
* Successful
* Self Sufficient
* Resourceful
* Physical/Athletic
The typical jerk is confident and independent (as in, he doesn’t NEED her or her approval). Irresistible attributes to women.
The “jerk” that stands his ground over Trump with an SJW will have more success with her than the touchy-feely liberal guy, even though the SJW female is is calling the jerk names and complimenting liberal-guy. What women SAY and what gets their motor running are different.
Best of luck to you :)
Thanks Dr. Ruth!
No she didn’t have the bypass at 11
Until she was about 12 or 13 I could control what she ate and she was rugged but not fat.
She is rugged, well muscled, and carries weight in her abdomen bottom and breasts. She was a state shot put champ for years and ran track and swam, endurance more than speed.
She is also the most beautiful woman ever, large or not, with beautiful warm velvet skin the color of translucent apple juice, almond eyes, and curly hair which was down to her back until highschool. There are men that like large women and I can see why there is such an attraction.
I would guess she bounces between 230 and 275 in weight. She chooses her school job (she is finishing college after three years on the missions field) to be at a food shop and that cannot be good for her.
However she lives her life as she pleases and although we are no longer close I am proud of her choices and missions work and great work ethic in general.
In order to understand hypergamy, it would be best to begin with an understand dating/sexual market value (SMV) vs marriage market value (MMV). Donal Graeme has a good introduction in Romantic Architecture
An introduction to hypergamy would be in his description of The Pareto Principle in which he discusses hypergamy in the context of assortative mating.
A good description of what women find attractive in men is given in Donal Graeme's piece on LAMPS (or, PSALM) : "Looks, Athleticism, Money, Status, Power" LAMPS
(Dalrock (dalrock.wordpress.com) is also very good. Dalrock and Graeme are practicing Christians, I'm not so sure about Tomassi: though both Tomassi and Dalrock are married, so forget those quips about "losers posting from their mother's basement"...)
Ok, here’s my take. I am 5 feet 1 inch. I am male and white. I’ve lived 42 years. Let me tell you, it can suck being short. For as long as I can remember I’ve been shorter than everyone. All the adults commented on it, classmates said stuff. Since my teens, even young kids sometimes say hurtful things. I could have spent my life feeling sorry for myself, lamenting the fact that I’m both short and not very good looking, but I didn’t. I knew I was capable of living a good life. I knew that if I wanted something I had to take it. So I spent 4 years in the Marine Corps as an infantryman.....now I’m a LCDR in the Navy with 16 total years. If I believed the nasty stuff people have said about me, or allowed it to shape my character I’d probably have resorted to the same pathetic crybaby crap this guy is writing.
And the thing is—everyone judges everyone else’s appearance. I try hard not to. I should be more gracious because I know people are always sizing me up, yet I often find myself judging people over things they can’t help. It’s our sin nature. It sucks. People often suck. I can be just as shallow as the people who’ve hurt me over the years. So, fat girls don’t want to date me. Why would I want to guilt someone into being with me when they don’t really want to? That’s not love.
Sorry for the rant. I’m conservative. I hate feeling sorry for myself, and have contempt for those who do. There’s probably one thing worse than a short guy on the dating scene, and that’s a short guy who has no sense of humor and is a drag on everyone around him. But, whatever. I managed to find a hot girl a long time ago and have been married to her for over 20 years.
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