Posted on 09/19/2015 7:32:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
It’s a complaint at least as old as “Sex and the City”: Where are all the good, dateable men? Why are there so many amazing women and so few acceptable mates for them? For a long time, the conclusions drawn were that women were doing something wrong. Too aggressive, not aggressive enough, not putting themselves out there, putting themselves out there a little too often.
A new book “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game” by Jon Birger sets out to show that women aren’t doing anything wrong: There just aren’t enough Mr. Rights to go around.
Birger explains that this is the experience nationally, not just in oft-mentioned dating wastelands like New York City. With more women going to college than ever before, there are only so many baccalaureate bachelors for them to meet and marry.
That seems reasonable at first glance. Hey, if a woman is looking for someone with her level of education, and this is a deal-breaker for her, then sure, there’s a serious shortage of suitable men.
Birger points out that a woman who was 34 in 2007 began college in 1991 when women outnumbered men on college campuses by 10 percent. He notes that “in 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated 4-year colleges.”
The numbers are indeed daunting. But they obscure a question all of these unmarried college-graduate women should be asking themselves: Why does a degree matter so much, anyway?
In his book “The Higher Education Bubble,” Glenn Reynolds quotes statistics showing that the cost of college has increased 439 percent since 1982. Reynolds’ book discusses the crippling debt many college graduates carry and how many of their degrees make the debt nearly impossible to ever erase.
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
You play video games, don’t you?
I wish; I have a wife & kids & job that devour my time, and thumbs that just couldn’t keep up. The few tines my kids have suckered me into playing I stink because of the number of buttons and combinations necessary to play well. I will confess that if I lived near a 1980s arcade, I’d be there for hours when everyone went to bed for some old-time Spyhunter, Time Pilot, Moon Patrol, and Elevator Action...
(I was pretty good with games that had a joystick and one or two buttons.)
BTW, I see why you would have suspected that, but no, that’s not the case at all. I’ve made it to my mid-40s without wearing corrective lenses, and would like to make it to my mid-fifties in the same shape.
I wrote I don’t want a marriage doing 50/50 housework and cooking. I was very clear I wanted traditional roles when I found my second wife. Do you have a problem with men like me?
I have a High School education.
:-)
If she works, I still don’t want to do half the house work and cooking. 80/20 maybe. And every time I see some survey of who is doing what at home, most full-time working women are doing most of the cooking and cleaning. It’s kind of sad when I express such an opinion of what I want and do not want. The women generally have a sour disposition.
If both work full time, then the housework should be split evenly and what I see is that most often, it's not.
If one works more, the one who works less should do proportionally more housework.
I don't have a problem at all with traditional roles.
I have a problem with a man who expects the woman to carry the lion's share of the housework even when she is also working.
Unless I am mistaken, the man in the house, eats the food, dirties plates doing it, wears clothes that need washing, generally in the process of living, clutters up the house.
What is so unreasonable to expect men to pick up after themselves? (yes, that's housework)
If she does the grocery shopping, cooks the food, serves dinner, what's so unreasonable with helping or doing the dishes? (Yes, that's housework, too)
Is picking up your own dirty laundry and putting it where dirty laundry goes that much of a problem? (Yes that's housework too).
Do you even realize what helping with the housework tells a woman?
Like I said.......
Frankly, I tell the women I work with this: if you are a high earning woman who wants a career, look at marrying a wonderful, manly intelligent guy who will raise the children and be a real asset around the house. Or marry Asian. Other option is to marry a really bright trades guy who is starting his own little empire, and you can leave the lousy medical profession behind.
I tell the men who are looking at the highly educated women out there, find one who can provide you and your children with the best life possible. And who is grateful for you and what you do. IF you are a trades guy, get into a trade that you can do around the children’s life.
I say to all: have many many children to bless and expand your lives.
Not easily. Women generate two thirds of divorce filings. The deck is stacked against the guy in family court, especially if there are kids. Guys know this.
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Women generate all the divorce filings because 1) men can live in that not-married not-divorced place. Actually it helps the in the dating game. Woman cannot bear the ambiguity.
2) Women start legal proceedings to protect themselves from further debt by the separated husband who is often starting life number 2 with new girlfriend
In a perfect world I don’t need a wife to work. If she works, I still don’t want to do half the house work and cooking. 80/20 maybe
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This is why God invented housekeepers and cleaning staff. Don’t want to do it? Hire it out!
Thank you for your honesty, although I already knew this was the case. I lived it. The time finally came when I had to ask myself if he was worth my aching feet, and I came to the conclusion that he wasn't. Happier now.
If this is the only way to have a man, I will definitely continue to pass.
That's what I'm hearing, too.
The ‘serious’ guy is not pursued as aggressively.
I hope that's true because I have a son in college, and he's probably more the serious type.
“Oh, well solitude has its advantages. “
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Solitude can be absolutely delightful.
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The pickings aren't very good these days.
My hunt for the next mate will be in Australia.
Read somewhere in my horoscope that its my destiny, so coming in december i bought the tickets, the lodging for a 5 week vacation in Oz.
That is correct, and it fits with biology. A woman who is selective with her mate(s), has a high SMV. A woman who is not selective, has a low SMV.
This does not ring true. Did you mean you could not find any unmarried Christian women, that you could not find any in your denomination/sect/faith community, or that you could not find any willing to discuss marriage ? I especially found the adjective good before Christian intriguing and potentially problematic.
He explained why there is a double-standard.
Yup.
Han Solo look alikes!
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