Posted on 02/26/2014 3:16:21 AM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
Over the years, I have always had a chuckle, when this statement is thrown out by women....and so, let a man, admit his inner feelings to his women, he will only find that during the next conflict, that the info will be used against him....any sort of male weakness, as perceived by a women, is a negative.....
Valentine’s Day is not a real holiday. Just the bastardization of a saints day to make money off of those stupid cards.
Bfl
I’d say “no reason... hope you can find a good man some day too”.
My wife is one to use this tactic and it has, unfortunately caused a coldness in our 20 year marriage. She often requires of me to cite specifics during an argument. I replied that were I to keep track of the specifics of a grievance, then our marriage was no more.
Women will correct, rant and harangue men as much as men will let them. It is part of being a Man to know when she is right and when she is just being...well...a woman. In the one case he performs adjustments to himself and in the other has says “My Immortal and Beloved Darling please STFU.
I agree wholeheartedly up until the point where he starts quoting the Bible and how women should submit to men, which is utter bullshit. Both men and women need to be completely open to each other with their feelings, which is in a way, I think a form of mutual submission.
At the end, the article continues to push a stereotype - that men are reluctant to share their feelings. Consider that the first half of the article described the common case (I lived it for many years), of wives publicly displaying passive aggressive behavior towards their husbands - interrupting, eye rolling, recounting unflattering stories, etc. Is this what counts as being communicative? Both parties need to regularly start sentences with “this is how I feel...” and “how do you feel...?”. It doesn’t matter if there’s a solution, or whether of not anything comes from it. Communication is priceless. I lived on a diet of “No”, “I don’t know”, “hmmmm”, and silence (at least in private) for almost twenty years until I said “enough”, and filed for divorce.
Now, when I’m with a group of married men, and their commiserating about the lack of sex, the steady stream of “yes dears”, and the continual tap dancing in order to avoid incurring the wrath of their wives, it pains me quite a bit. I do hold my tongue though. Everyone has to walk their own path.
You’re a brave man for posting this :-)
I’m not marriage so my struggle with this area usually manifests itself in the workplace with my attitude toward supervisors . I struggled with the passages in the New Testament about the wife respecting/submitting to their husband until the pastors showed that the word refers to “lining up under authority” (not direct quote), like an enlisted person under the NCO, under the commanding officer, who is uner the authority ultimately of God. When I have trouble with individuals in the chain of command, I have to remember that the L-rd of Hosts is completely trustworthy.
Thanks for the article.
I’m important! I write a blog!
The Bible commands husbands to love their wives. Women are made as responders. If he loves you the love will be returned.
Control and ownership have no place in a marriage.
One can never demand respect or submission from a spouse. Where there is love, so those things will fall in place when needed in the marriage.
“In the one case he performs adjustments to himself and in the other has says “My Immortal and Beloved Darling please STFU.”
Well, yes, maybe without being vulgar...works at my house.
Remember, the last thing you said that your wife agreed with was when you said, “I DO.”
I happen to think Love between a husband and wife is worthy of setting aside a day to honor each other. Yes, we honor each other every day, but life gets busy, and it's nice to have a day where we, as a society, take some time out and show appreciation for our better halves.
And it doesn't have to cost a dime. There've been lots of lean years where I wrote my wife a nice little note and she baked me some heart shaped chicken with a heart shaped cupcake for dessert.
And if you're not taking time out to honor your spouse on this special day set aside to do just that, well, I'm sorry for both you and your spouse.
I hope for your sake you come to the point where you don’t call the word of God bull. It is possible you are taking it out of context. Continuing on in the Word will show you that likewise, husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, even giving up His life for her. It take an understanding that comes from reading the whole thing. If you would read Ephesians 5:22-33 you would see what might be in modern language the requirements of mutual commitment, and that commitment is not to be conditional. If the commitment is conditional, there is no chance of weathering bad times.
Yes, I do believe that for a wife to unquestioningly accept and obey everything that a husband says is bunk, likewise, that men have superior standing with God.
They have the greater responsibility before God. The standing is the same: Gal 3:28-29.
I do believe that for a wife to unquestioningly accept and obey everything that a husband says is bunk
That is you reading into the text.
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
As the church to Christ is the submission of the wife to her husband, as Christ loves the church so should a man love his wife. When that happens to the extent that it can on this earth, there is the marriage with the love and respect that God desires, and for which mankind yearns.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ
Yes, not specifically to the married but of one to believers to serve each other.
I have no use for feminists, and a lot of the time women in general irritate me. Yes, I said it-—so much for the sisterhood. I’ve seen enough of men portrayed as bumbling fools to know it’s a very real fact, and I hate it.
BUT. Regarding the example of the man who was being publicly “gutted, emasculated, and neutered”: why was he allowing it? Where were his gonads? He just stood there and chuckled like an obliging doormat? For that reason, I have little sympathy for him.
Man up, guys. It’s true that a husband doesn’t have to earn his wife’s respect, but it’s also a sad truth that behaving like a cowed Chihuahua will earn you disrespect.
Case in point-—my brother’s sister and her ex-husband. There was no bad guy in that marriage; they were just two very ill-suited people who should have never married each other. During the divorce, he would get on his knees in front of her and cry and weep and whimper, begging her to take him back. He often called me on the phone and did the same thing....crying and wailing.
There is something about behavior like that from a man that gets in a woman’s soul and irritates the hell out of her. We just do not want to see men behaving like wimps or dishrags or crying babies. I took it as long as I could from my sister-in-law’s ex. Finally I told him that if he EVER wanted to find another woman he was going to have to stop ACTING like one.....he needed to man up and stop the damn bawling.
I understand that many modern women seem to outright despise men. But it’s up to you, men, whether you allow yourselves to be mistreated...or not.
Well, that's an....interesting....way to describe Scripture.
You remind me of my Christian conservative friend who suddenly told me she's become a "conservative feminist" because she hates the Bible's language toward women, the way men treat women as "objects , etc. Neither one of you has any understanding of the submission verse nor the intended relationship between husband and wife.
That particular reference has nothing to do with being second-class, weak, uncommunicative, or ill-treated.
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