They have the greater responsibility before God. The standing is the same: Gal 3:28-29.
I do believe that for a wife to unquestioningly accept and obey everything that a husband says is bunk
That is you reading into the text.
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
As the church to Christ is the submission of the wife to her husband, as Christ loves the church so should a man love his wife. When that happens to the extent that it can on this earth, there is the marriage with the love and respect that God desires, and for which mankind yearns.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ