Posted on 12/12/2013 1:06:26 PM PST by iowamark
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.
1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.
2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.
3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.
4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.
5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.
6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.
7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.
8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.
9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.
10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.
11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.
12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.
13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
They Know that they are Human too and are not perfect as this list would suggest.
Just a little nitpick with her terminology. I wouldn’t call it mental strength I would call it mental and emotional balance. People who do the things she lists are unbalanced and it is the strength of their minds that makes those negative patterns hard to break out of.
Yet another “author” telling us all what to do and how to do it.
16. They don’t vote for someone because of his color
Are you by chance triskaidekaphobic?
14) They don’t actually exist?
Good list
Good grief. No wonder things are such a mess. People used to be raised on this stuff as in the way people were supposed to be, not some distinction like “mental strength”. As if it were something special. (I figured this was the meaning of the term, “values”.)
It’s kinda sad that someone would write an article about this as if it were some kind of revelation.
“Thanks for the post.
I was unjustly fired last week and have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and very angry.
Not saying it will continue but something to think about.”
Nothing wrong with that as long as you do get over it and move on. I’m experiencing the same emotions over a relationship. I’m praying about it and trying to remember, this too shall pass.
Part of the problem was me being mentally strong and her not being. I’m thinking I’m better off but it sure doesn’t feel that way right now.
Prayers up for you that you find a new job soon.
This is why conservatives have repeatedly failed
That is a great list. All true.
You’ve been grieving the loss, especially if it’s a job you’ve had for a long time. That’s not “feeling sorry for yourself.” That’s normal.
Ah...you fail to grasp the third part of the “Serenity Prayer”: The wisdom to know the difference.
It’s also common sense, but in the heat of an unpleasant situation, level-headedness doesn’t always prevail. You have closed your door to toxic influences and married a wonderful partner. Your home is a haven of peace and love. You and she did build that, and you both know how blessed you are. I salute the sensible!
I guess that rules out my having an affair with you? (Miss Slippy is next to me laughing at what I wrote! We’re also very touched by what you wrote. Thank you very much, sister.)
My dear brutha from anotha Mutha, let Miss Slippy know that you’d be way too tired to have an affair after you helped me find my wig, my glass eye, my hearing aids, my prosthetic appendages, etc. Please give her a huge, gentle hug for me!
Ditto that..............
Hey! Miss Slippy and I resemble that remark! We have prosthetic appendages too!
Bump!
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