Posted on 10/26/2013 9:39:29 PM PDT by Vigilanteman
For years, Julie Brinton's days have been filled with sippy cups and skinned knees, and the endless push of getting three young children through dinner time, bath time, bedtime. By the time she crawls into bed each night, she has one thing on her mind: zoning out to an hour or so of TV.
But some nights, her husband, Rob, reaches over to rub her shoulders and offer her a back rub. And then Ms. Brinton thinks: "Has it really been three weeks? I guess we should probably have sex."
"I will do it for him," says Ms. Brinton, 34, who lives in Mesa, Ariz.
Mr. Brinton, also 34, appreciates his wife's gesture. "But afterward," he says, "I always feel guilty, that I've been selfish."
Ah, marital sex.
Therapists have long known that couples who have more, and better, sex are happier and more stable.
But new research from the University of Toronto shows that the reasons why partners have sex in the first place also significantly affect marital satisfaction. And a person's motive for making love tonight may make a difference to the health of his or her relationship months from now.
(Excerpt) Read more at online.wsj.com ...
Ah yes, but when you crash after having sex, you generally wake up refreshed in the morning. Even after the “all-nighters” I had when I was younger.
I ain’t as good as I once was, but I’m as good once as I ever was.
Speaking from a womans perspective....”all-nighters” are fondly remembered....I never understood why they went on and on and on effortlessly ....might be both were really wrapped up in the moments and each other as these were never planned for.
With today’s women and gay aids privacy, you will get more truth and safety from a prostitute in the red light district.
Isn’t that the truth? Absolutely paradoxical as to how something can be so exciting and stimulating and yet so relaxing at the same time. I never recall waking up from one exhausted.
She had no idea going in that having children is hard work, stressful and tiring? How many millions of years have we been having kids?
Very clever Toby song, I always got a kick out of it.
Sex is something both should look forward to, not a 'duty'.
You mean... it’s not sex?
I guess liberals have a difficult time understanding why we are not homosexuals.
“Practice makes perfect.”
Beer helps soothe the conscience......
Or as my husband, the pilot, likes to quote from Black Adder-
Flash: Always treat your kite like you treat your woman.
George: How do you mean, sir, take her at home on weekends to meet your mother?
Flash: No. I mean get inside her five times a day and take her to heaven and back!!
I’m in love with a pilot; also, son of a pilot & father of a pilot (Ace). All of them are better pilots, so my love life better stay on top of its game! HA!
When I was 34, more than a few years ago, a few hours between events was a very big thing and I worked between 60-70 hours per week.
He might have!
Went to the link, but I stopped reading after I got to this one:
Both studies were what researchers call “daily diary” studies. In the first, 108 heterosexual dating couples completed a survey every day for two weeks.
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Dating couples? What in the heck does that have to do with married couples and their connubial behavior?
Boy, “dating” has taken on an entirely different meaning since I was young. My dates usually took me to a movie, then to a hamburger place, and then the young man would drive me to my house and walk me to the door. If we had been on several dates before this, I most likely gave him a goodnight kiss and then went into the house by myself.
You have never been a mother, right?
what did this useless study cost? people have sex for pleasure of it or MONEY!
Absolutely right. Whenever I hear someone regard it as a "duty", I am horrified and disgusted. It usually means one of two things: either one has a terrible, selfish lover or one has some awful hang-ups instilled by upbringing.
Sex in marriage is for both to enjoy and for both to please one another.
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