Posted on 07/05/2013 10:45:56 AM PDT by nickcarraway
It's that age-old dilemma: you've started dating a man, things are going pretty well - but you want to change some aspects of his style and personality. Is it ever possible or the right thing to do?
What are your relationship deal breakers? The news that your perfect man doesnt ever want to get married or have children? The fact that he has a monster coke habit and gets a bit mean and aggressive when hes drunk?
Or maybe you sweat the smaller stuff after all, a terrible haircut, a bad slip-on shoe or some errant nose hair are all indicative of poor personal grooming habits and bad taste, and you dont want to spend the rest of your life with someone who fundamentally has horrible taste, do you?
FYI, I fall into the latter category Ive been known to chuck men for wearing bad travellers beads, Speedo-style underpants rather than boxer shorts, and those bloody red trousers. Some things you just cant un-see.
But according to some of my friends, Im a fool, rejecting perfectly good men just because they think its acceptable to wear beads with a suit. After all, they argue, these are the sort of little things you can change over time. You can slowly introduce a skincare routine. After the 12-month mark you can start to develop an opinion on their hair cut, and after a few years you can take over buying their clothes completely.
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Sure, and it’s perfectly okay for a man to ask his girlfriend to drop twenty pounds and learn to use a lawnmower. s\
Travelling beads? Am I missing out on some new men’s fashion trend?
Why would she want to?
No, but she change into one.
Sure they can change a man. From a happy go lucky human to a depressed beat down shell of his former self. Happens all the time. Most women want to change a man after the courtship is over and marriage has taken place.
Women would do better by raising their sons as good honest men.
“You can slowly introduce a skincare routine. After the 12-month mark you can start to develop an opinion on their hair cut, and after a few years you can take over buying their clothes completely.”
And then at five years, she can have an affair because “you’re just not the man I fell in love with”.
Not that I’m bitter or anything.
Not for the better.
She can make the man more bitter and resentful, less expressive, more volatile.
"A man marries a woman, hoping she will never change. A woman marries a man knowing she can."
bttt
Sure. Depends if he's old enough.
Easy answer to the title. NO
Sure.
He can lose interest because she thinks she is making a better man than the one she met.
Changed man.
a man can change on his own, but for a girl to change him is asking for trouble
he may change on his own FOR a girl, but she cannot force him to
In marriages where a woman is unsuccessful at converting a man into a woman, you’ll see divorce. It is no longer acceptable for a man to act as he was intended to act. In the workplace it is illegal and will get him fired!
An adult can’t “change” another adult.I think it was Jack Nicholson,in one of his films,who said to a woman that he loved...”you make me want to be a better man”...or something like that.A woman that I care for can cause me to develop the same attitude.But nothing more.
"She Couldn't Change Me" "Sometime I think what turned her on Was my old broke down boots She wanted her a real cowboy It was a phase she was goin' through But not one week after she moved in I caught her paintin' the bedroom blue She brought home a bottle of pink Chablis And poured out my best brew I was sittin' on the porch in my overalls While she packed her things to leave She changed her mind when she couldn't change me She changed direction headed out west Changed her tune to some hip-hop mess Her dark brown hair went blonde And her pretty blue eyes went green She changed everything when she couldn't change me She was sittin' beside the ocean Looking out at the waves Watching how they keep on rollin' But always seem the same She called and said she'd been thinkin' about All those quiet country nights And whatever she thought was so wrong with me Suddenly seemed all right I was sittin' on the porch in my overalls When her truck pulled into view She said I changed my mind when I couldn't change you She changed direction headed back home She changed her tune it's all Haggard and Jones She had her dark brown hair pulled back And blue eyes like you've never seen She changed her mind when she couldn't change me She said I guess when you love someone you just gotta let it be Yeah, she changed her mind when she couldn't change me."
Could she change my taste in music, clothes, food? No.
But I am more sensitive to the needs of others. She has added some grey to my back and white world.
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