Posted on 09/28/2012 8:13:10 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd
Divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found.
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In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.
“What we’ve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn’t necessarily contribute to contentment,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”.
The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.
“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,” he said.
The figures clearly show that “the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” he went on.
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
In fact, vacuuming is about the only household chore which I can do to her satisfaction despite the best of intentions.
Things go a lot better when she says "Just leave it alone and let me do it. Go vacuum the living room or clean the garage!"
Division of labor according to who does the particular task the best and most efficiently has been a proven formula for economic advancement as old as time.
The feminazis can never figure out why.
I have a female cousin who travels the world as a project manager and does it well. Her husband takes care of the children and household chores, does it well, then logs on to his computer support shift once the kids are off to school. That works for them.
As Michael Savage likes to say "Feminism was invented by women too ugly to get a husband or too mean to keep one." To which, I'll add: They thrive on disrupting marriages, breaking up families and replacing order with chaos which, even if they can't fix it, empowers them to tell others how to live and gives them the company of abject failure to make them feel better about themselves.
This is for 2 reasons:
1. Its one more thing for the couple to fight about! your turn to do it, no its not its your turn... Or you aren’t doing it and you said you would... Generally speaking, Males and Females have 2 different standards for acceptable in the housekeeping department.
and second and probably more importantly, the guy may be doing it, but he’s not doing it the WAY the woman wants it done.. so yet another and even dumber fight!
You can’t do that!
—Why Not it works?
Because It has to be done this way?
—Why? It still done and clean, why does it have to be done that way?
Because that’s the way I want it done!
— Well if you want it done YOUR WAY, You do it! You nagging B*($H!
Seems to me, the cause is rather obvious! (Raise your hand if you’ve lived that second one at some point dealing with a woman?) I doubt there is a guy alive who hasn’t had that happen to him at some point when dealing with a woman, and trying to help with a chore of hers.
The only reason the women do the work is because men are incapable of doing it right.
Not in my house! My husband loves to clean and does a great job at it. We split duties and we rarely have an argument about it.
See Post 22, Section 2...
Not a man alive who hasn’t learned his lesson about “helping” a woman with her chores... Doesn’t matter if the outcome is exactly the same or not, its their way or its a fight.
Look Johnny. See what you could have if you were married?
Mrs Johnny would do all the housework and all would be well.
No?
Actually, I have seen some younger couples ruined with women who want to share the “women’s” housework fifty-fifty while the man will be expected to continue doing all the “man’s” work around the fort and perform as the main source of income for the household.
Most of the time when feminazis are playing victim, they are lying and lesbians. And then again, some men do fit the feminist stereotype of a man.
The war of the sexes is a war with one’s own face as in cutting off one’s own nose in spite. That is true of the backlash male women haters born of the war conducted by feminazi man haters.
Yeah, the problem with doing things together is that husbands don’t just follow orders. They offer opinions and find their own unique solutions to issues they should have consulted their wives on.
Extra help is often welcome, but only if/when I actually am willing to give up control over the outcome.
This goes for another thing: driving. Mr. Married21 and I are happy road-trippers because he doesn’t have to control the driving (I drive) and I don’t have to control the entertainment. Only place for squabbles: the temperature and air flow.
/johnny
Funny! These types of pseudo-studies piss me off.
The wife and I have shared housework for many reasons over the last 40 years, through raising three sons whom we taught to take care of themselves.
I learned how to do most of these things working as a restaurant cook in HS and after my mother died when I was 17. All of these habits, sense of self-responsibility and the discipline were reinforced during my time in the Marine Corps.
For anyone who thinks that dependence is the way to go, only a lazy, adolescent fool makes himself dependent on anyone. Nut up and take responsibility for yourselves and learn to share responsibility for the needs of daily living.
Any man who cannot cook, clean and take care of himself in the absence of a wife, mother, sister, daughter, girlfriend, is pretty pathetic.
The war of the sexes is a war with one’s own face as in cutting off one’s own nose in spite. That is true of the backlash male women haters born of the war conducted by feminazi man haters as it is of the women who have been the apple of feminist man hate and disrespect. The only winners are the divorce lawyers and shrinks.
My wife and I find that I don’t do the housework to her specs, and she doesn’t do the yard, car and home repair work to mine. We each know our strengths and stick to them.
I think you need to subdivide the survey into a) husbands who share the housework because they want to and b) husbands who share the housework because they are made to. I also think you should subdivide the survey among wives who work outside the home (thus less time to do chores) and those who are “stay-at-home”.
Two men in my family married women who are sickly by nature. Both of them were warned by the woman’s father that they’d have to do much of the housework because their wives were sick a lot of the time. Both men married their wives anyway, loved them and do a great deal of the housework above their 8-to-5 jobs and are still happily married.
I doubt they were sampled for this survey.
I kind of doubt that helping at home or not has an impact on divorce rate. there are so many variables just in that match. work hours. physical abilities. schedules with kids.
Segment out stay at home traditional mom and see where the data go.
Segment by church affiliation and attendance. Segment out by political affiliation.
I suspect the truth is that women who harangue their husbands to do housework are miserable spouses to begin with, as are henpecked men who acquiesce, and it all correlates strongly to irreligiousness and leftist politics.
I bet truly shared housework comes about from both working which is what is more likely to lead to more divorce.
For years, Mrs. R2 paid the bills. That’s what her mother had always done, so she did it too. Trouble was... she was terrible at it. Even though the money was in the bank she paid ‘em late incurring late charges.
I took that over about 10 years ago. After all, I am a banker and I have everything organized with auto-pay, bill-pay and etc. No problem.
The point is... Each spouse is obligated to contribute what they do best.
We simply call it division of labor. I do the things I do well: laundry, cooking, kitchen stuff, make social plans, work part time, keep chocolate supply steady. He does the things he does well: fixing computer, killing spiders, picking up dead rats, working to support us, puts dishes in d/w after dinner. What’s the big fuss?
“Sure honey, I can do the laundry. IF YOU WANT A DIVORCE!!”
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