Yeah, the problem with doing things together is that husbands don’t just follow orders. They offer opinions and find their own unique solutions to issues they should have consulted their wives on.
Extra help is often welcome, but only if/when I actually am willing to give up control over the outcome.
This goes for another thing: driving. Mr. Married21 and I are happy road-trippers because he doesn’t have to control the driving (I drive) and I don’t have to control the entertainment. Only place for squabbles: the temperature and air flow.
For years, Mrs. R2 paid the bills. That’s what her mother had always done, so she did it too. Trouble was... she was terrible at it. Even though the money was in the bank she paid ‘em late incurring late charges.
I took that over about 10 years ago. After all, I am a banker and I have everything organized with auto-pay, bill-pay and etc. No problem.
The point is... Each spouse is obligated to contribute what they do best.