Posted on 12/08/2011 11:52:02 AM PST by AUJenn
We have a close family member who decided a few years ago that she was gay. I say 'decided' because up until then, she had always dated men and was actually about to get married. It came as a huge shock to everyone and has taken a while to get used to. She has had the same partner since she announced her lifestyle change. It has been difficult for me and other family members to accept and get used to their living arrangements, lifestyle, etc, especially on holidays. But as time has gone on, I have accepted this is how she is going to live and there is nothing I can do about it. But I don't like it.
I have always been polite and cordial because I see no sense in being rude or hostile. And if I were hateful, it would just give conservatives/Christians a bad name IMO, and would add fuel to their fire. That being said....she has announced that she and her partner are having a baby. The partner is pregnant. This has really thrown us for a loop, as we never expected this to happen.
It so happens that I have a small child and am expecting again, so it really makes me think. I am completely against their doing this. But I have no idea how to publicly act or respond to this situation - especially at upcoming family holiday events. I don't feel like happily telling them 'congratulations!' or talking about baby things. I think about how this poor kid is going to feel about his/her parent situation, or how I'm going to explain to my children why this baby 'has two moms' and on and on.
If anyone has a gay family member or has been in a similar situation, I'd love to hear how you handle it. Thank you -
1. Love them.
2. Be polite.
3. Don’t allow them to force you to embrace evil:
Don’t use their false terminology.
“Gay” is a lie.
They are “homosexual” if you must refer to that.
I don’t think “lesbian” is a lie.
Never refer to them as anything but friends - otherwise you legitimize their nonsense by agreeing to use their made-up false terminology (would you call your brother “she” if he started saying he was a woman?).
There is only one mom - the woman who gave birth (the other is the child’s guardian).
Don’t let them share a bed in your home (would you let them if they were hetero?).
If they get uppity and complain, tell ‘em straight up:
“In the spirit of diversity and tolerance, I don’t dictate what you must do, say, and believe - and I expect the same from you. I love you but I won’t lie to you or for you, which means I won’t use the politically-charged language you prefer. In the spirit of tolerance I know you will not think less of me because I have strong beliefs that are different than yours, and I have the integrity to live by those beliefs.”
exactly
this family thing is a cop out and here is why.
Would those who say this is no problem take their kids to a man who has 9 women as wives?
I wouldn’t and I’d tell the man that too.
I don’t let my kids go near my siblings, no way.
I am not having my kids being told certain stuff and I see no way that I should now have to give up how I bring up my kids due to a family member getting off in a very unnatural way .
the last poster said that and was banned.
There is no free speech, you are on here and have to go by the rules, the rules state that this site is not for pushing a liberal agenda thus the homosexual agenda is a liberal commie agenda.
However if you are a libertarian then I;m sure you could find some and you would have free speech on that with your liberal agenda.
guess what , some libertarians/liberals have no problem with people humping dogs and then taking their kids around to that house.
sick isn’t it
I’ve never gone with their name game and called them gay, to me and my family they are homosexuals.
Agree about never giving up ones own principles or views regardless of who they are.
If you support the homosexual agenda you are anti-Constitution and you'll get the zot from FR!
And I’ve noticed that they’re already pushing that in the Military since that whole DADT repeal fiasco. Surprised??
Open the door to one perversion, then others will follow inevitably.
Don’t try playing word games or let’s twist Scripture. He judged them and their sin.
it’s part of the plan the next move is to have activists put into the military, do some cross dressing etc and then have those leave and then have them say they can fight and die but they cannot get married on their state so overturn DOMA.
Once that is overturned then it is on to kids and the law.
Back in 1963 the communist manifesto was written and it said take over a party and then there are a few rules which state push the homosexual agenda in the media etc, then destroy the traditional family
In case you have not seen it.If you have not then please sit down as you will be sick to see how much they have done .
So for those who say nah nothing wrong with the queer agenda then they have more in common with the communists and certainly not conservatives or republicans.
http://www.uhuh.com/nwo/communism/comgoals.htm
I didn't realize it harbored the forbidden pro-homosexual agenda you have succintly pointed out. We need to purge this thread, and now! Thanks........
AUJenn, just in case you want it, here is the best compilation on the subject about the causes of homosexuality; since you may be having to explain things to other family members, and eventually your children, some of this info may come in handy.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2730140/posts
Not born this way: The facts, plus help available
Save California ^ | Various authors
I’ll BTTT just for good measure.
It is. And you are trying to twist the Word to say Jesus would accept the sin. He would not. His message was to repent and be forgiven. Not acceptance.
My cousin decided to turn gay when after he graduated from college and went into the entertainment business in L.A. I guess it was the cool thing to do then. Before that he had been heterosexual with girlfriends. I guess he was technically bi-sexual.
He eventually died of AIDS, along with his “partner” and all their gay friends. I just shook my head and said what a waste of a life.
Oh yes. I’m fully aware and have read the Naked Communist many times. They have gotten away with so much, due to their hijacking of almost all of our institutions. Indoctrination through media and “education”, etc. Ever since the leftists neutered Joe McCarthy, it’s been non-stop, with only the Reagan era to slow it down a bit.
Oh LJ, there are times that you are so naive that it is simply delightful. This is one of those occasions.
A person can know about a perversion without practicing it.
Thanks for that-—I was too lazy to look it up, but I should have. It is perfect.
“....she has announced that she and her partner are having a baby.”
If she were naturally homosexual, then she would not have a desire to procreate. Since she is excited about procreation, then she is not naturally gay. In fact, she is deriding her own nature by chosing to participate in a lifestyle that procludes her from naturally procreating...
Zot yourself, pal. If you support the homosexualist agenda, you’re on the wrong site. Go elsewhere. If you stay and continue pushing it, you will be shown the door.
Thank you!!!
I will listen and be happy.
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