I suppose for some people it’s hard to find “everything they want” in just one person.
But human beings are not perfect. No one should expect marriage to be perfect. What it is is a commitment - to one person.
In my life I have usually tried to be faithful to, and put up with, anyone who can put up with MY shortcomings!
Still wouldn’t cheat on my wife.
It is a global plot to keep all women away from Laz, so some of us take on 2, 3, even more....
What kind of comment threads are you reading?
Infidelity isn't about sexual gratification as much as it is about the thrill of the “conquest”, feeling desired, etc.
Some people are happy with being married and are not out looking for trouble.
Other's like being married but feel a void within themselves that they seek to fill with adultery.
The difference between the two has nothing to do with how much love affection or sex they were getting at home.
The “I committed adultery because YOU were not loving enough” is just blaming the victim.
I plead the Fifth your honor.....LOL
Why do men keep mistresses? What drives them to it?
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God and man were in relationship in the Garden of Eden. Adam and Eve had one rule, not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Satan tempted Eve, telling her that God was lying. Eve and Adam ate of the apple and the relationship with God was broken and sin entered the world. Each of us is a sinner, each of us sins and there is no escape from that fact. God is perfectly just, and so sin must be punished. The punishment is death. To overcome this, since God is also perfectly loving, God sent his only son, Jesus Christ, to die in our place for our sins, punishing him in our place. To gain this forgiveness you do not need to do anything, since that anything is impossible for you since you are a sinner . . . no one can keep any law perfectly . . . so we are required to do only one thing. Come to the father through the son. Believe and repent.
The rest is just details!
If denied the opportunity to eat long enough, one will feel compelled to do so by any means necessary.
I always thought men cheat to feed their egos.
The men, (or women who keep boytoys) are buysexual.
They can’t get sex unless they pay for it.
Wandering men, and women, are looking for excitement that isn't happening at home. And don't spew the crap about how tired the partner is! I had a stay-at-home wife who did virtually nothing all day and greeted me with a litany (once I woke her up) of how miserable her life was. I stayed faithful and remained in that empty marriage until she started abusing our son.
Marriage takes hard work. Just like fishing, it isn't enough to get 'em to bite and to hook them, you have to keep the line taunt and play 'em or they will get off!
The operative word is "play". It is an effort to keep a marriage or any relationship fun. If you think your work ends at the altar, you better have the number of a good divorce attorney, because that is where you are driving the marriage!
From my observations, there are several reasons. One, some men cheat because it is fun. New lovers equals new experiences equals fun. Two, a feeling develops that wifey poo does not communicate or communicates by nagging, sarcasm, anger, or just doesn’t seem to have time, or just doesn’t enjoy intimate interactions any more. Three, hubby meets someone to whom he can talk and who seems to be different from wife, and as time goes on, feelings develop. If hubby leaves wife for new lover, he often finds new lover is same as old lover over time. Four, wife is just a rolling h*ll-raising b*tch.
parsy, who sees this kind of stuff happen
“ATTENTION”- physically, intellectually, emotionally
No offense but if you can answer that question you will probably have solved thousands of years of human behavior problems. You actually expect a credible answer?
Whatever a spouse can not secure at home they will secure elsewhere.
There is ALWAYS someone willing to provide that which is not provided at home.
Period....
When she makes it pretty clear that she's willing to ignore the fact that the guy is married, and provide him with "sex on the side", supposedly without consequences.
What is it that makes an honest woman in their minds?
Not being that woman I just described. If she's shown that she has a tendency toward promiscuity she's probably not the one you want to start a family with.
Why do men keep mistresses? What drives them to it?....
(putting on my flame suit)
I believe that most men and women who have fallen in love eventually reach a mature state of love. That mature state is best described in my mind by most people’s phrase, “I love my wife” or “I love my husband”.
To put it in perspective “I love my daughter”, “I love my son”, “I love my mother” These statements all indicate a commitment to some family member based on a relationship and interaction overtime.
The interaction with the lover can best be describe with the phrase, “I am in love with this person” This to me indicates an exciting time of emotions that indicates a desire to be with someone constantly because of hormones racing around your mind, not necessarily sexual activities. The longer this can be sustained the more exciting the relationship.
So why do people cheat? I believe they miss the emotional excitement of being in love with someone. Love can be like a drug.
This thread belongs on a liberal site, not a conservative one. Adultery is wrong.
