Infidelity isn't about sexual gratification as much as it is about the thrill of the “conquest”, feeling desired, etc.
Some people are happy with being married and are not out looking for trouble.
Other's like being married but feel a void within themselves that they seek to fill with adultery.
The difference between the two has nothing to do with how much love affection or sex they were getting at home.
The “I committed adultery because YOU were not loving enough” is just blaming the victim.
“The “I committed adultery because YOU were not loving enough” is just blaming the victim.”
You have categorically identified the “cheated on spouse” as a victim with no responsibility in the situation. A spouses eye or other body parts don’t wander if there is full participation and communication between married partners. I don’t beleive children,jobs,hobbies or other distractions are valid reasons for lack of full participation and communication between married partners.
Just some personal thoughts and observations of this 74 year male.
Sorry, but I can’t agree completely with your statements.
I will say that more often than not folks dabble, both men and women, because they are missing something in their primary relationship.
However, when someone finds themselves in a relationship where the other person denies intimacy, whether physical, emotional or both, or where one lets themselves go to the point where their partner literally does not find them sexually appealing any longer, infidelity is more often than not going to be the end result.