Most philanderers are good, kind people, she argues, who are seeking real happiness and love.
And my favorite:
"You could think of it as a radical but necessary medical procedure. If your marriage is in cardiac arrest, an affair can be a defibrillator."
Well of course I thought the UK, Then I read the author is American from Boston.
You can't make this stuff up.
Such stupidity does not amaze me anymore.
(1) Defiling your marriage will save your marriage.
(2) Adulterers are "good people."
Truly Satanic - a term I do not use lightly.
I think a more appropriate medical analogy would be taking a Jawbreaker for a tooth ache...
I had an affair once with my wife's sister. We enjoyed it very much until my wife found out. The affair cost me a broken jaw (my wife was in the Marines), a divorce and every penny I had them. Three years later from all that I can proclaim with utter confidence that your advice really sucks.
“she insists that most cheating spouses should never own up, because revealing the infidelity is more damaging than keeping quiet.”......
More damaging for sure when your wife cracks 20 pots over your head!
I’m calling BS on this one.
Well she’s right in one respect. With my first wife it did “jolt me out of inactivity” When I found out about her boyfriend I invited her to move out, when she did I invited myself to be single again. I accepted.
“Good” people do NOT have affairs.
Well I hope it’s cool to wear condoms.
Tearing down the nuclear family one rung at a time..
If I ever have an affair my wife will be a widow - right after she kills me in my sleep..
Ping.
Anyone remember a Laurel and Hardy movie called Sons of the Desert? Near the end, Stan’s wife starts taking plates out of the cabinets and he says: “But Sugar you don’t have to leave tonight!” She then proceeds to throw every plate at him while he sits in the middle of the room with a pot over his head.....
Here we go again, redefining evil as good.
“Ms Kirshenbaum, clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute, a psychotherapy and research centre in Boston,”
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I’d like to know more about this Chestnut Hill Institute, any relation to the Kinsey Institute? History is full of people who dedicated their work (art, writing, psychology, anthropology, law, legislation, religion, etc.) to justifying their own personal behavior.
Alfed Kinsey to Margaret Mead to Joseph B. Smith, history’s full of them.
14 "You shall not commit adultery.
Final word
I have run into plenty of folks who broke up after the first affair. To a person, they all said that “it wasn't the affair, it was the lying”.
Trust is the basis of marriage. Carrying on sexual relationships with others, with or without a spouses knowledge, undermines that trust both consciously, and perhaps more importantly, unconsciously.You start to hedge yourself and your investment in the relationship.
Because nothing says “I Love You” like giving your wife Clamydia.
Wrong.